Sometimes, the hardest part of telling your life story isn’t what to say—it’s figuring out where to begin. Even with storytelling prompts, you might find yourself staring at a blank page or struggling to decide which memory to share first.
That’s where a good question can make all the
difference.
The right question can unlock a flood of
memories, helping you recall moments that shaped you in ways big and small. And
if you have family members who are hesitant to share their stories, asking the
right questions can encourage them to open up in ways they might not have on
their own.
Let’s explore some powerful questions that can
help you (or your loved ones) start telling your story, along with tips on how
to make storytelling a natural and enjoyable experience.
Starting
with Small but Meaningful Questions
Sometimes, the most vivid memories are tied to
everyday moments rather than major life events. These types of questions make
it easy to ease into storytelling:
- What
was your favorite thing to do as a child?
- Can
you describe the house or neighborhood you grew up in?
- What
was a typical day like when you were young?
- Did
you have a favorite toy, pet, or place to go?
These kinds of questions help you step back in
time without feeling pressured to tell a “big” story.
Example:
"I had an old red wagon that I used for
everything—hauling apples from the orchard, pretending it was a race car, even
using it to give my little brother rides around the yard. One summer, my father
let me use it to help deliver newspapers. I felt like the most important kid in
town, pulling that wagon up and down the street, handing out the news."
Small details like this can bring a story to
life and make it more enjoyable for both the storyteller and the listener.
Encouraging
Deeper Stories
Once a conversation is flowing, deeper
questions can help bring out moments of growth, resilience, and transformation.
- What’s
a moment in your life that changed the way you saw the world?
- Was
there a time when you had to make a difficult decision?
- Who is
someone who had a lasting impact on you?
- What
is one lesson you’ve learned that you would pass down to future
generations?
These types of questions often lead to
powerful stories about love, loss, perseverance, and discovery.
Example:
"I had a teacher in high school who saw
something in me that I didn’t see in myself. I wasn’t the best student, but she
told me I had a way with words. She encouraged me to enter a writing contest,
and to my surprise, I won. That was the first time I believed I might actually
be good at something. Her encouragement changed the way I saw myself, and I
carried that confidence into everything I did after that."
A simple question about an influential person
can uncover meaningful memories that might have otherwise remained untold.
Helping
Loved Ones Open Up
If you’re encouraging a parent, grandparent,
or older relative to share their stories, patience and curiosity go a long way.
Not everyone is comfortable talking about themselves, and some may feel that
their experiences aren’t important enough to share.
Here are a few ways to make storytelling feel
natural and enjoyable:
1. Make it a Conversation, Not an Interview
Instead of sitting down with a notebook and
firing off questions, try bringing up memories in casual conversation. For
example, if you’re cooking together, you might ask, “Did you ever cook with
your parents when you were little?”
This approach helps storytelling feel organic
rather than like a task.
2. Use Photos, Music, or Objects as Memory
Triggers
Old photographs, a favorite song, or a
well-worn keepsake can bring back memories that words alone might not. Looking
through a photo album together or playing a song from their youth can be a
great way to spark stories naturally.
3. Show Genuine Curiosity
Some people hesitate to share their stories
because they’re not sure anyone really wants to hear them. Let them know you’re
truly interested. A simple phrase like “I’d love to hear about what life was
like when you were my age” can go a long way.
4. Record Stories for Future Generations
If your loved one is open to it, consider
recording their stories—whether through voice memos, videos, or written
reflections. Knowing their experiences will be passed down can make
storytelling feel even more meaningful.
The Power
of Sharing Your Story
Your life is made up of thousands of moments,
big and small. Some of them shaped who you are, some made you laugh, and some
taught you lessons that are worth passing on.
By taking the time to reflect on and share
your experiences, you’re giving your family something priceless—a connection
to their past, a sense of where they come from, and a deeper understanding of
who you are.
In the next post, we’ll explore different ways
to preserve these stories, whether through writing, audio recordings, or
creative family traditions that keep memories alive for future generations.
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