The top ten myths about seniors in BC

The Senior Advocate for the province of BC recently released the top 5 myths that his office found many younger people believe about seniors in BC I did some research and came up with a few more myths. In the next three posts, I will discuss the myths.

Post One: The Top 10 Myths About Seniors in B.C. (Myths 1–5)

The most common myths that influence how younger people perceive ageing

Myth 1: Most older people are grumpy and unhappy
Fact: Research consistently shows that happiness increases later in life.

The well-known “U-curve of happiness” shows satisfaction is high in youth, dips in midlife, and rises again after age 55. Statistics Canada data from 2025 shows that 60.5% of Canadians aged 65+ rated their life satisfaction between 8 and 10 out of 10, compared to 46% of people aged 15–24. Many older adults report greater emotional regulation, perspective, and contentment than earlier in life.

Myth 2: Most older people are wealthy
Fact: Most B.C. seniors live on low to moderate incomes.

In B.C., about 25% of seniors live on annual incomes below $23,800, and half live on under $37,000 a year. Community organizations report record numbers of seniors using food banks and meal programs, and seniors are one of the fastest-growing groups experiencing homelessness. The image of the “well-off retiree” hides real financial vulnerability.

Myth 3: Most older people can’t use or adapt to technology
Fact: Seniors are more tech-savvy than ever.

In 2022, 83% of Canadians aged 65+ used the internet, with B.C. leading the country. During the pandemic, the vast majority of seniors went online daily for banking, health care, communication, and learning. The real barriers are cost, design complexity, and lack of support—not age.

Myth 4: Older workers are not as effective as younger workers
Fact: Job performance is not determined by age.

Research shows that intellectual capacity and the ability to perform routine or complex tasks do not decline simply because someone gets older. While some physical jobs may require accommodation, many older workers bring experience, judgment, reliability, and mentorship skills. In 2024, 15% of people aged 65+ in B.C. were employed—higher than the national average. Policies that restrict benefits or pensions based solely on age contribute to discrimination, not productivity.

Myth 5: Most older people have dementia or serious memory loss
Fact: Dementia is not a normal part of ageing.

In B.C., only about 5% of people aged 65+ have dementia, and that rate has remained stable for years. Occasional forgetfulness is not the same as cognitive decline. Assuming memory loss simply because someone is older fuels fear, stigma, and exclusion.

Rewrite the Script After 50: Creating More Space for What You Want

For a long time, our culture sent an unequivocal message about wanting more for yourself, and it wasn’t a kind one.

 Back in the 1980s, there was a popular movie that championed the idea that “greed was good.” Over time, that idea fell out of favour, and rightly so. But something else happened along the way. Wanting anything more for yourself began to feel suspect. Self-interest became confused with selfishness, self-reflection with self-indulgence.

 

That kind of thinking can quietly hold you back, especially as you approach retirement.

If you’ve spent much of your life being responsible, dependable, and useful to others, it can feel uncomfortable, even wrong, to ask what you want next. Yet midlife reinvention depends on that very question.

 

Recently, I was talking with my adopted daughter, who has just turned 50. We were discussing work, savings, and the long view of retirement. She’s considering reducing her hours at work. Not because she’s lazy or disengaged, but because her supervisor is under pressure and, as a result, has begun micromanaging her. The work itself hasn’t changed, but the environment has, and it’s taking a toll.

 

At the same time, she’s thinking seriously about her pension and whether she’s saving enough. Turning 50 has sharpened her focus. It’s made the future feel real in a way it didn’t at 40.

 

What she’s doing isn’t self-indulgent. It’s thoughtful. It’s responsible. It’s the work of renewal.

 

For many people, 50 is a milestone year. It invites reflection, not panic. You begin to review the decisions you’ve made, the paths you’ve followed, and the ones you didn’t take. From that reflection often comes a desire to make changes, not dramatic gestures, but meaningful adjustments.

 

I’ve seen this before.

 

When Boomers began turning 50, many lives shifted. Divorce rates rose as couples re-evaluated relationships that no longer fit. People changed jobs, redefined friendships, and questioned long-held assumptions about success and happiness. Beneath all of that was a search for voice and values, a desire to live more honestly in the time that remained.

 

Reinvention often begins here, but it doesn’t end quickly.

 

For some, it takes years to find the courage to make the changes they sense they need. That’s normal. The important thing is not speed, but direction. Starting the journey matters more than finishing it neatly.

 

Creating more space for what you want doesn’t mean taking something away from others. It means reconnecting with your own voice and allowing it to be part of the conversation again. It means aligning your days with your values, rather than simply filling them with obligation.

 

Retirement is not a reward for endurance. It’s a chapter of life that needs to be shaped with care.

 

As this series closes, I hope you take one idea with you: wanting something more for yourself is not a moral failing. It’s a natural, healthy response to experience, reflection, and growth. The work of midlife is not to disappear quietly, but to create a life that feels true to who you are now.

 

The script doesn’t end at 50. That’s where many people finally pick up the pen.

Rewrite the Script After 50: Practical Ways to Start Again

If you feel stuck, you’re not failing. You’re pausing.

That distinction matters, especially after retirement or during the years leading up to it. There’s a lot of quiet pressure to “figure it out,” to replace one full life with another just as full, just as productive, just as impressive. When that doesn’t happen quickly, people assume they’re doing something wrong.

I’ve been retired for twenty-five years, and I still remember how hard it was to recognize that I was, in fact, retired.

Like many people, I eased my way out rather than stepping cleanly away. I talked in an earlier post about people who return to their old workplaces just to visit. I was one of them. I also continued working part-time for a while, telling myself, and others, that I was “transitioning to retirement.” That phrase gave me comfort. It created space between who I had been and who I wasn’t quite ready to become.

Looking back, I can see that what I was really doing was giving myself time.

After my term on the charity board ended, I didn’t rush to replace it with something equally demanding. Instead, I took on different responsibilities. I gave workshops on health and wellness. I created a program to train others to deliver those workshops. I started my blog. None of these things were dramatic reinventions. They were small, intentional steps that allowed me to stay engaged without locking myself into another version of full-time work.

Gradually, almost imperceptibly, I began to slow down the amount of paid work I was doing.

At the same time, my wife and I started taking extended trips to visit family. We checked off a few long-held bucket list items. Our days and weeks began to feel different, less rushed, more open. What I didn’t notice at the time was that I was slowly moving away from who I had been as a worker and toward who I was becoming as a retiree.

That shift didn’t happen in big leaps. It happened in small steps.

This is why I’m wary when people talk about retirement, or midlife change, as something that requires burning everything down and starting over. For most of us, that approach is not only unrealistic but also unnecessary. Meaningful change is far more likely to stick when it grows out of where you already are.

If you’re feeling stuck, start by paying attention to what you’re already doing that feels even slightly right. What conversations leave you energized rather than drained? What activities make time pass more easily? What responsibilities feel chosen rather than imposed?

You don’t need to commit to anything permanently. Think in terms of experiments, not decisions. Try something for a season. Say yes with an exit plan. Let curiosity, not obligation, guide your next step.

Starting again doesn’t mean abandoning your past. It means allowing it to evolve.

The practical work of this stage of life is gentle work. It involves loosening old routines, testing new ones, and trusting that clarity will come through movement, not before it. Small steps taken consistently create momentum. Momentum creates confidence. Confidence opens doors you didn’t know you were ready to walk through.

In the final post of this series, I’ll talk about creating more space for what you want, why wanting something more for yourself isn’t selfish, and how reconnecting with your own values can shape a life that feels both grounded and generous.

If there’s one thing I hope you take from this post, it’s this: you don’t have to know exactly where you’re going. You just have to take the next kind step forward.

Rewrite the Script After 50: The Power of Purpose and Voice

Purpose is often misunderstood.

We tend to think of it as something large and dramatic, a calling, a mission statement, a bold declaration of what comes next. For many people in midlife and early retirement, that expectation alone can feel paralyzing. If purpose has to be big, public, or life-defining, what happens when all you feel ready for is one small step?

What I’ve learned is that purpose rarely arrives fully formed. More often, it begins quietly, with being present, being heard, and allowing yourself to want more than you currently have.

During my time on the board of a local charity, I moved from Director to Vice President. I would likely have become President as well, but the organization had a six-year limit on board membership. At first, that rule felt restrictive. Over time, I came to appreciate it. It kept new ideas flowing and ensured the charity stayed connected to the changing needs of the community rather than becoming comfortable or insular.

What surprised me most was how long it took to truly find my voice.

It was about a year and a half before I realized that people weren’t just being polite when I spoke, they were listening. I’ve never been shy, and I’ve never been afraid to share my thoughts. But this was different. I wasn’t just reacting or offering opinions. My vision of what could happen had expanded, and I began to work deliberately on ideas that mattered to me and to the organization.

Those were small steps. Conversations. Suggestions. Follow-through. But together, they created something larger, a growing sense of purpose about who I was becoming as I moved through the stages of retirement.

That sense of purpose didn’t replace my former work identity overnight. In fact, when people first retire, it’s very common and very comforting to cling to the past. I know people who, long after retirement, still visit their old workplace just to chat with former colleagues. There’s nothing wrong with staying connected to people you care about. The risk comes when that connection becomes the only place you feel relevant or valued.

If your sense of purpose lives entirely in the past, it leaves very little room for the future.

A new purpose gives you a reason to get up in the morning and face the day, not out of obligation, but out of interest and engagement. Purpose doesn’t mean staying busy for the sake of it. It means feeling that what you do, however modest, still matters to someone, including yourself.

Purpose also requires permission.

Permission to be visible again in a different way. Permission to speak, to contribute, to imagine. And perhaps most importantly, permission to want more, not more status or more pressure, but more meaning, more connection, more life.

As I said in the previous post, we can resist change, resign ourselves to it, or embrace it. Embracing change doesn’t mean chasing a new career or signing up for every opportunity that comes along. It means listening for what stirs your curiosity now, at this stage of life, and trusting that it’s worth paying attention to.

Moving forward often means finding a new mission, but missions don’t have to be permanent or grand. They can be seasonal. They can evolve. They can begin with something as simple as showing up, speaking up, and noticing where you feel most alive.

In the next post, I’ll talk about practical ways to start again, especially if you feel stuck. You don’t need to burn everything down to make a meaningful change. Sometimes, starting again means starting exactly where you are.