Sunday, November 9, 2025

When Righteousness Gets in the Way: The Courage to Question Ourselves

 Information spreads faster than truth can catch up. This is the second part of a three-part series invites you to pause, reflect, and rediscover the quiet strength of discernment. As seniors, our life experience gives us a special kind of wisdom, the ability to look deeper, question gently, and share carefully. Together, let’s explore how understanding, humility, and truth can guide us in what we read, believe, and pass along.

There’s a certain comfort that comes from being sure of ourselves. After all, we’ve spent a lifetime forming opinions, learning lessons, and gathering experiences that shape how we see the world. But sometimes, that very certainty can get in the way of understanding. It’s easy to confuse confidence with truth, especially when what we believe feels right, familiar, or deeply rooted in our values.

The truth is, we all like to feel we’re on the side of what’s right. No one wakes up thinking, “I’d like to spread something false today.” Yet even the best of us can fall into the trap of sharing something online that isn’t accurate, especially when it supports what we already believe. Social media has a way of playing to our convictions. The posts that get shared most often are the ones that confirm our feelings, whether that’s anger, pride, fear, or outrage. They invite us to react quickly, not thoughtfully.

For those of us who grew up in a different kind of information world, this can feel disorienting. Once upon a time, the printed word carried weight. A newspaper or a radio broadcast went through layers of checking before it reached the public. We didn’t have to question every headline. Today, anyone can write a post or share a story, and while that freedom can be wonderful, it also opens the door to confusion. The loudest voices often get the most attention, but loud doesn’t always mean true.

That’s where the courage to question ourselves becomes essential. It takes strength to pause and ask, “Could I be wrong about this?” It’s not about self-doubt, it’s about humility. It’s the recognition that none of us, no matter how experienced, can know everything. Wisdom doesn’t mean never being wrong; it means being willing to reconsider when new facts emerge. That kind of openness doesn’t make us weaker. It makes us wiser.

Sometimes, we mistake righteousness for truth. We get swept up in the belief that our view is the only correct one. And in that moment, we stop listening. We stop learning. When that happens, even good intentions can lead to misunderstanding. Online discussions turn into arguments. Friends drift apart. The simple act of being “right” can start to matter more than being kind or accurate.

But what if we looked at questioning ourselves not as a threat, but as a gift? What if, instead of clinging to certainty, we treated curiosity as a strength? Imagine how much more peaceful our online spaces could be if everyone paused before reacting, if we all asked, “Is this really true? Is this helpful? Is this kind?” That’s how respect grows: not through insistence, but through understanding.

Age gives us a unique advantage here. We’ve seen how the world changes and how ideas that once seemed absolute can evolve. We’ve watched technology reshape communication, medicine rewrite health, and science challenge what we thought we knew. That experience teaches us that truth is not fixed, it grows as knowledge grows. If we can keep our minds open to new understanding, we not only stay wiser; we stay younger in spirit.

It’s worth remembering that misinformation thrives on emotion. The more a post makes us feel outraged or afraid, the more likely it is to be shared. That’s not an accident, it’s how many falsehoods spread. So, when something feels too extreme to be true, it’s often exactly that. Our emotions can be powerful indicators. If something online stirs a strong reaction, that’s the moment to pause. Take a breath. Look again. Ask questions.

Self-questioning isn’t about silence or withdrawal, it’s about thoughtful participation. It’s about contributing to conversations with care instead of impulse. It’s about recognizing that truth doesn’t need to shout to be heard. It speaks softly, and it stands the test of time.

There’s real courage in admitting, “I don’t know.” There’s dignity in saying, “Let me check before I share.” These small acts of honesty strengthen the very fabric of trust in our families, our communities, and our digital circles. They remind others that thoughtfulness still matters, even in a world that rewards speed.

When righteousness gets in the way, humility clears the path. And humility, far from being a weakness, is the quiet companion of wisdom. It’s what allows us to keep learning, to keep growing, and to remain open to truth wherever it may be found.

So, the next time you come across a post that demands you “wake up” to some urgent truth, remember this: being awake doesn’t mean reacting faster. It means seeing clearer. True awareness comes not from proving others wrong, but from having the courage to question ourselves first.

The mark of a wise person isn’t that they never change their mind, it’s that they know when to. And when we choose humility over righteousness, we don’t lose our power. We gain clarity, peace, and a deeper understanding of what truth really means.

That’s the quiet strength of wisdom in action. And it’s something the online world could use a lot more of.

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