Solo Ageing

 American and Canadian society rests on an assumption that families take care of their own, When seniors living alone have no close family, can non-family helpers be an adequate substitute? The reason I thought about this is my sister-in-law just lost her husband and is living alone, and another friend, is in the same boat. As winter swirls around us, I thought about how we could help what help they could receive from other sources.

While family often provides a safety net, non-family helpers can step in to fill critical gaps when no close relatives are available. Here are a few key questions solo agers need to consider do you have any answers to the questions: Who will be there for them, for matters large and small? Who will help them navigate the ever more complex healthcare system and advocate on their behalf? Who will take out the garbage if it becomes too difficult to carry? Who will shovel the snow if a winter storm blows through?

Here are some potential answers and strategies for the questions raised:

Who will be there for them, for matters large and small?
Solo agers can create a "chosen family" of trusted friends, neighbours, or community members who are willing to step in. Building a support network through local senior organizations, hobby groups, or even faith-based communities can provide emotional and practical support. Look into local churches, synagogues, or other places of worship that offer social programs and support for seniors. Professional caregivers or companions can also be hired to ensure that someone is available for regular check-ins and small tasks. Consider joining local senior centers, community organizations, or volunteer groups that align with your interests. These can provide a sense of belonging and connection. Online platforms like Meetup.com or Facebook Groups can help you connect with others who share similar interests or experiences.

Who will help them navigate the ever more complex health care system and advocate on their behalf?
Solo agers may benefit from hiring a professional patient advocate or care manager who specializes in navigating healthcare systems and coordinating care. Some nonprofit organizations and government programs also offer support services to seniors. Research local non-profit organizations that provide health care navigation services, such as the National Association of Area Agencies on Aging (n4a.org) or the National Council on Aging (ncoa.org). Designating a trusted person, whether a lawyer, friend, or volunteer or consider hiring a geriatric care manager or a social worker who can help with health care coordination and advocacy. They can serve as a healthcare proxy. A power of attorney is essential to ensure that your wishes are respected and acted upon. Look into local hospitals or health systems that offer patient advocacy programs or support services.

Who will take out the garbage if it becomes too difficult to carry?
This issue can often be solved with a combination of community and professional resources. Many municipalities offer services for seniors and people with disabilities, such as assisted garbage collection. Additionally, hiring a part-time helper for household chores or enlisting the assistance of a neighbour in exchange for small gestures of appreciation can address this need. Consider hiring a local handyman or home maintenance service to help with tasks like trash removal, snow shovelling, or yard work.

Look into local senior-focused organizations that offer home maintenance and repair services, such as the National Association of Home Builders (NAHB) Aging in Place program. Finally, reach out to neighbours or friends who may be willing to lend a helping hand.

Who will shovel the snow if a winter storm blows through?
Many communities have volunteer programs where people help seniors with snow removal, particularly in areas prone to harsh winters. For example, local youth groups, faith organizations, or city-sponsored volunteer networks may offer these services. Alternatively, solo agers can hire a snow removal service or collaborate with neighbours to share resources like a plowing service. Consider hiring a local snow removal service or a handyman who can help with snow shovelling and other winter tasks. Look into local senior-focused organizations that offer snow removal services, such as the National Council on Aging's (NCOA) Snow Removal Program. Reach out to neighbours or friends who may be willing to help with snow removal.

These scenarios highlight the importance of proactive planning. Solo agers can thrive with the right mix of resources, relationships, and professional services, but these arrangements require thoughtful preparation and community engagement. Society as a whole also has a role in ensuring that systems and programs are in place to support those without traditional family structures.

To find reliable local connections, consider the following:

Attend local events, such as senior fairs, health fairs, or community gatherings, to meet new people and learn about local resources. Join online forums or social media groups focused on senior issues or local communities. Reach out to local senior centers, community organizations, or places of worship to ask about their programs and services. Consider hiring a professional organizer or a senior move manager who can help you declutter, downsize, and connect with local resources.

Remember, building a community of support takes time and effort. Be patient, persistent, and open-minded, and you'll increase your chances of finding reliable non-family helpers to support your solo aging journey.