We lie to protect others.
Say we see a documentary on how badly chickens are treated. Mass-produced, fed on hormones, cramped in cages, mistreated etc. etc... The documentary affects us and we are disgusted at how bad life is for the chicken. Next time we are at the shops we go to buy eggs and we remember the documentary so we look for the carton that displays, “free roaming chickens laid these eggs.” These eggs a bit more expensive, but worth it to us because we believe we are doing the right thing. Then we go to the butcher and there is chicken in the window with nothing to say where it’s from or how it lived but curried chicken is the spouses favourite dish and it’s their birthday. We end up buying the chicken. We justify it by convincing ourselves that we have done our bit for the better lifestyle of the chicken because we bought the more expensive eggs in the carton that displays a picture of a happy smiling chicken.
We lie because we are afraid of the consequence of our actions. If we do something wrong we do not want to admit it. There is the fear that people will think badly of us. Deep down we think this because we think badly of ourselves. We are guilty and ashamed that we are not the person we want to be. When we lie we are reinforcing this guilt and become even more ashamed of ourselves but a lot of the time we supress this guilt and rely on our ego to be our spokesperson. We see someone in the shop buying the cheap eggs and we shake our head at them in disgust to enhance the fact that we are a better person than they are, to invigorate our ego. When we run people down it has nothing to do with them it is about us. We are seeing our flaws in them and we don’t like what we see so to make ourselves feel good, better, wiser and so on... We knock them. We are lying to ourselves.
You cannot fix something if you do not know where it is broken or you cannot change something if you do not know what needs changing.
An example of balance can be seen by looking at the problem of weight control On one end of the scale is obesity on the other end of the scale is anorexia. Both are tied to the emotional struggles of the mind. The centre of the scale, the perfect weight so to speak, is the balance where the mind is free of all issues that hide the belief in yourself.