Living a more satisfying life is a skill that can be developed at
any age, but it requires time, attention, and dedication.
Many of us know people who as they age, claim that they want to be
happy, but they live life within the following paradigms
They are as self-absorbed as possible.
They try to make sure every situation at work or at home is primarily about
their thoughts, their feelings, their welfare.
They see themselves as a victim.
Observe that life has conspired against them, view others as the source of
their problems and they tell themselves that they are helpless in their
particular set of circumstances.
They tend to go over past negative
events repeatedly. They dwell on what makes them bitter. They remember how they
were hurt in the past and who was responsible.
People who make these steps a habit are
well on their way to a life of dissatisfaction and misery.
So how do you, as you age, not become
trapped in a paradigm that robs you of hope and happiness.
First, absorb yourself in your work,
friends, family relationships and outside interests. Move your focus
outside. Become absorbed in what you're doing. Remind yourself what
you are trying to achieve. If you don't have personal goals - dreams with
deadlines - set some.
See yourself as in control of your
destiny. We all have problems and setbacks, but things only begin to turn
around when you take ownership of your situation. Then you can begin to move
forward.
Focus on what's right with your life.
This is a tall order in some cases. Many of us are dealing with unfortunate
economic or personal circumstances. Accept that the past is past. Forgive
any transgressors, not for their sake but for yours. Start imaging
how things could improve. Once you can image how things could improve, then you
will start to take steps to make it happen.
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