I think it is important for us to realize that we make our own realities, the paradigms in which we view the world, we have control over our own fate, but the choices we make and we own our luck.
Controlling our own fate is, in my mind, is based on the paradigms in which we see the world. Each of us in unique and special, as Joni Mitchell said we are stardust and we have to get back to the garden; but in order for us to get back to the garden we may need to shift the paradigms in which we see the world.
The first step, I believe in making the shift is to acknowledge that we are the source of not only our unpleasant feelings but the source of all of our feelings.
If in your paradigm of life you find too many negatives, remember you are the only one who can shift your paradigm to start seeing the positives in life. Not easy, but worth the struggle.