I AM A SONIC BOOMER, NOT A SENIOR... In this blog, I am writing to and for those who believe that the Boomers will change what the word Senior means. I also believe that Boomers will change what retirement means in our society. The blog is also for those who are interested in what life after retirement may look like for them. In this blog I highlight and write about issues that I believe to be important both for Seniors and working Boomers.
Tuesday, March 3, 2015
A Move to Assisted Living May Be Much More Than Just Deciding
following is from My Senior Portal and I found it interesting as my wife and
her brother are faced with helping her mother make a decision to move into
assisted living and we know we will be facing some of these same issues.
No matter how obvious it is that frail,
elderly parents need to move to an assisted living community, we are living the
frustrating, dangerous day-to-day situation of watching parents grapple with
the inevitable crisis of NOT dealing with reality.
friends in their mid-90's manage to “exist” (I cannot say, live) on their own
with limited assistance far longer than was safe for them.
presented with the idea of moving to a senior community several months ago,
not ready for that,” they insisted even
though she requires daily help to dress and shower. He struggles with
sever hearing loss, hip pain that created an obvious imbalance as he wobbles
when he walks. No, they could manage. He was still driving as family members
held their collective breath.
was obvious to us that their situation was a disaster waiting to happen. Yet,
we were helpless to convince them to move despite the fact that we repeatedly told them we would do the physical
had managed to convince them to visit
senior living facilities over the past few months. They found fault with all of them. One was too
expensive, another had apartments that were too small.
could have been easily anticipated, a crisis arose. He landed in the hospital,
she was alone and disorientated.
the second hospital visit in two weeks, they finally agreed to move. They
accepted the fact that they needed assisted living. Meanwhile they hired an
home aide to stay round the clock.
we needed to move quickly. We never anticipated what happened next:
assisted living community we considered was full. Independent living does not
provide the help they need. Moving to such a community would require outside
nursing care, more expense and little improvement over staying in their own
we found an assisted living community that was available and acceptable.
we learned that making the decision is only the beginning of the process.
is endless application paperwork to be completed, doctor forms to be submitted.
One doctor refused to fill it out until he saw the husband. Maybe in a few
days, he would feel better he said refusing to go. Meanwhile the doctor refused
to speak to my husband about the urgency of the situation. HIPAA laws, you
process of getting into a chosen community is long and frustrating, we
one we were dealing with insisted on having the paper work completed before it
would schedule interviews with a staff nurse, social worker and admitting
director. We waited nervously until the interview day only to now discover
there was a physical problem with one of them that prevented them from being
accepted unless a doctor put in writing that the problem was under proper care.
Now there was more waiting, more doctor visits and then more waiting to get the
report to the facility.
the end, the assisted living community offered a 30 day trial period. This
would have required a full-time aide being present, moving furniture in, and
possibly out. The prospect of physically moving in, with the prospect of moving
out in 30 days, was impossible to consider. Now their only real option is to
continue living on their own with full-time care.
folks were devastated. We were furious. Had the interview been first, we could
have avoided the disappointment and terrible frustration.
we are now clearly aware there is a way to prevent the trauma and potential
disasters we are all experiencing.
health and or financial professional will urge families to plan for such a move
as readily as they create wills, trusts and other financial instruments. It is
imperative to make sure that the initial interview to qualify the seniors is
performed before all the paper work is filled out and doctors are consulted.In
reality we knew that. After we are in the business of aging. Knowing and doing
are often distant relatives.
other day they acknowledged to us they should have made these arrangements when
they were healthy in their 80s. They did not.
then they were still strong active people who put their financial health in
order but never considered physical health planning. We all know it is was a
mistake that is likely going to be replayed more often as people live longer
and are healthier as they age. Not making such arrangements is not fair to the
elderly or their families.
know we have to do our own planning now. We’ve learned the hard way it is one
thing to read about senior living options, it is entirely different to be faced
with crisis decision making because planning is not in place.
also recognize it is far better to select an independent living community while
we are still healthy. One that offers continuing care from independent to
assisted to nursing is preferable to being forced into any situation because
there is no other choice.
following are facts and figures about Assisted living (in the United States):
than half of all residents are age 85 or older, and nearly 40 percent of
residents require assistance with three or more activities of daily living. The
median stay in assisted living is 22 months, and an overwhelming majority of
residents are female.
in assisted living typically include:
meals a day served in a common dining area
and wellness programs
and recreational activities
care in assisted living typically includes:
available to respond to both scheduled and unscheduled needs
with eating, bathing, dressing, toileting, and walking
to health and medical services, such as physical therapy and hospice
call systems for each resident’s apartment
for residents with cognitive impairments
to the National Investment Center Investment Guide 2010, the median rate for a
monthly rental rates in an assisted living community is $3,326 per month.
living is regulated in all 50 states.
State regulations generally address the mandatory services a senior
living residence must provide. All settings offer 24-hour care and supervision
for those who need assistance. Care is provided with dignity and respect.