The simple answer is no. However, the more important question is why
do we make the statement. Is it a fear of ageing? Our culture is obsessed with
youth, and the thought of being old (defined as over 62 in Europe and being
over 65 in North America) is not comforting to many. Why do we fear about
ageing? Here are five of the most common fears of women and men. Notice
the differences and similarities.
Men
Impotence The prospect of impotence was scarier than cancer
or death to readers of a men's magazine in a 2001 poll. Perhaps there is a good
medical reason for this: Otherwise healthy men who have erectile problems have
been shown to have abnormal coronary tissue, higher incidence of high blood
pressure, high blood fat, and other markers of heart disease.
Weakness Feeling weaker was named one of the most dreaded
parts of aging for nearly 9 in 10 people surveyed earlier this year by the
American Geriatrics Society Foundation for Health in Aging along with Abbott
Labs.
Retirement/irrelevance The prospect
of retiring fires enormous anxiety because it, too, begs the question, "If
I'm not my career, what am I?" In the U.S., reaching retirement age tends
to coincide with having your opinion solicited less and becoming”invisible,"
she adds. Net result: a huge ego blow.
Losing wheels (and independence) The
prospect of having to give all that up -- which many men first think about when
they see their own fathers turning in the keys for safety's sake -- is scary
indeed. Driving is also emblematic of another fear: Becoming dependent on
others to meet basic needs.
Losing your mind (or your wife losing hers) Perhaps recent headlines are scaring more men into the fear of Alzheimer's:
Men are more likely than women to have mild cognitive impairment (MCI)
-- sometimes called "pre-Alzheimer's" -- and get it earlier,
according to a Mayo Clinic study in the September 2010 journal Neurology.
Nearly one in five men ages 70 to 85 have the condition, which falls between
normal forgetfulness and early dementia Know that only about 15 percent of
cases of mild cognitive impairment evolve into dementia each year. (If you are
married, you may be protected; MCI is highest in men who were never wed.) No
sure fire ways to prevent Alzheimer's have been found, but a heart-healthy
lifestyle may lower the risk.
Women:
Losing Attractiveness/Becoming "Invisible" Fear about
appearance persists right into the 70s and 80s
Being Left Alone A spouse's death figures
high among women's fears, as does seeing their children dying first or losing
old friends when they relocate for retirement, move to be closer to family, or
become sick or die.
Becoming a Bag Lady Bernie Madoff,
the real estate collapse, and the Great Recession 2.0 have only fueled a
classic female fear of aging: financial destitution. Today's younger women may
also carry mental images of their mothers' and grandmothers' financial
illiteracy.
Cancer Maybe it's those ubiquitous pink ribbons. Cancer,
particularly breast cancer, tops the health concerns women fear most, according
to a 2005 study by the Society for Women's Health Research.
Being Dependent on Others both men and
women alike dread "becoming a burden, and for many women, who have
traditionally been the caregivers, the prospect of a role reversal is especially
uncomfortable.
Source: https://www.caring.com/articles/5-things-men-fear-about-aging https://www.caring.com/articles/5-things-women-fear-about-aging
Spot on. But what can we do to assuage such worries other than pretend we are only 40 and they only happen to old people?
ReplyDeleteI don't think we need to pretend to be 40, but we can live our lives as if we were 40. By the way, I define old as someone is is at least 15 years older than me, so by this definition, I will never be old. :-)
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