Fear is the biggest factor in
not asking for help, Belief that abuse is a normal part of family life is
another reason. The abuser may have over time had the abused victim believe
that he or she is in the wrong and has
caused or deserves the abuse.
Many have lived good lives and
now we feel shame and disbelief that such a thing is happening to them. Abused
victims may feel uncertainty about what will happen if they report the abuse:
o Will
things get worse?
o Will they be forced to leave their home?
These fears are terrifying.
The factors are similar to those inhibiting abused children from
reporting what is happening.
Many abused victims have a large concern about being
believed – and, in fact may not be, because the abuser can convince those in
authority that the abused is suffering from dementia or paranoia.
Abused victims wonder and worry what will happen:
o Will
the abuser go to jail?
o Will
he/she retaliate?
o What
will the neighbours, family, or community say?
Abusers isolate their victims so the victim think they have
no one to tell or no one to ask for help. Another reason is that the abused is dependent
on the abuser for care or support and fears what will happen if that support is
withdrawn.
If you suspect abuse or neglect is occurring, you may feel
the need to intervene – please do not ignore the situation
If you need advice about what to do, call one of the
authorities. When it is safe to do so, speak privately with the victim. Always
assume that the senior is capable and believable. When talking to a victim:
· Avoid giving direct advice
· Listen first and then talk about how you might
help
· Listen without judging; many seniors have been
brought up not to “make waves”
· Let the abused or neglected person know that you
care
· Respect their right to make decisions about what
to do; at the same time, encourage them to seek help
· Find out if they need assistance or there is
someone you can contact
· Make careful notes of what is said including
dates, witness information (if applicable) and your observations
Understand that for the victim, leaving an abusive situation
is difficult and the process may be gradual.
For your own safety, do not
confront the suspected abuser. Remember that even if the abuser seems like a pleasant
person or is your friend that you should not underestimate or deny what is
going on. The most dangerous time for the victim is when the abuser is
threatened with exposure or loss of control. Remember: If the situation
is dangerous for the victim, call the police immediately
We must realize that abuse and neglect do exist in your own
community and educate yourself about local resources Contact the authorities.
In BC, abuse should be reported to the Regional Health Authority and the
Police. When the Regional Health Authority receives a report of abuse, neglect
or self-neglect, it must:
o Investigate
the situation
o Involve
the adult as much as possible and discuss his or her wishes and needs
o Refer
the adult to health care, social, legal, accommodation or other services
o As
applicable:
•
Report criminal offences to the police
•
Apply to the court for a restraining order
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