It is surprising where you can find good advice on the Internet. The
following is from Assaly & Associates s.a.r.l out of Lebanon, and is a company
that specializes in governing and handling the relations of our clients with
their Bankers - “Bank Relationship Management”. Follow the link above if you want to read the source.
Some of us have reached our golden years, and some of us have not. But
these suggestions should be read by everyone. They have been collected from
many a senior, each with his or her own piece of advice. Some you know, some
may surprise you, and some will remind you of what's important. So, read well,
share with your loved ones, and have a great day and a great life!
1. It's time to use the money you saved up. Use it and enjoy it. Don't just
keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it.
Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big
ideas for your hard earned capital. Warning: This is also a bad time for an
investment, even if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems
and worries and this is a time for you to enjoy some peace and quiet.
2. Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and
grandchildren, and don't feel bad spending your money on yourself. You've taken
care of them for many years, and you've taught them what you could. You gave
them an education, food, shelter and support. The responsibility is now theirs
to earn their own money.
3. Keep a healthy life, without great physical effort. Do moderate exercise
(like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep. It's easy to become
sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. That is why you need to keep
yourself in good shape and be aware of your medical and physical needs. Keep in
touch with your doctor, get tested even when you're feeling well. Stay
informed.
4. Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other.
The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will
miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then, enjoy it
together.
5. Don't stress over the little things. You've already overcome so much in
your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the
present. Don't let the past drag you down and don't let the future frighten
you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten.
6. Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life,
love your family, love your neighbor and remember: "A man is not old as
long as he has intelligence and affection."
7. Be proud, both inside and out. Don't stop going to your hair salon or
barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your
perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside,
it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong.
8. Don't lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense
of style. There's nothing worse than an older person trying to wear the current
fashion among youngsters. You've developed your own sense of what looks good on
you - keep it and be proud of it. It's part of who you are.
9. ALWAYS stay up-to-date. Read newspapers, watch the news. Go online and
read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try
to use some of those social networks. You'll be surprised which old friends
you'll meet. Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you
know is important at any age.
10. Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the
same ideals as you, but they are the future, and will take the world in their
direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them of yesterday's
wisdom that still applies today.
11. Never use the phrase: "In my time". Your time is now. As long
as you're alive, you are part of this time. You may have been younger, but you
are still you now, having fun and enjoying life.
12. Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and
surly. Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with
positive, cheerful people, it'll rub off on you and your days will seem that
much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and
harder to be around.
13. Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or
grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded
by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you
need yours. If you've lost your partner (our deepest condolences), then find a
person to move in with you and help out. Even then, do so only if you feel you
really need the help or do not want to live alone.
14. Don't abandon your hobbies. If you don't have any, make new ones. You
can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a
garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf. You can paint, volunteer
at an NGO or just collect certain items. Find something you like and spend some
real time having fun with it.
15. Even if you don't feel like it, try to accept invitations. Baptisms,
graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. Try to go. Get out of the house,
meet people you haven't seen in a while, experience something new (or something
old). But don't get upset when you're not invited. Some events are limited by
resources, and not everyone can be hosted. The important thing is to leave the
house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a field. Get out there.
16. Be a conversationalist. Talk less and listen more. Some people go on and
on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested. That's
a great way of reducing their desire to speak with you. Listen first and answer
questions, but don't go off into long stories unless asked to. Speak in
courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really
need to. Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same
things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints. Always find
some good things to say as well.
17. Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older. Try not to dwell
on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life we're all going through.
Try to minimize them in your mind. They are not who you are, they are something
that life added to you. If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the
person you used to be.
18. If you've been offended by someone - forgive them. If you've offended
someone - apologize. Don't drag around resentment with you. It only serves to
make you sad and bitter. It doesn't matter who was right. Someone once said:
"Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to
die." Don't take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with your life.
19. If you have a strong belief, savor it. But don't waste your time trying
to convince others. They will make their own choices no matter what you tell
them, and it will only bring you frustration. Live your faith and set an
example. Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.
20. Laugh. Laugh A LOT. Laugh at everything. Remember, you are one of the
lucky ones. You managed to have a life, a long one. Many never get to this age,
never get to experience a full life. But you did. So what's not to laugh about?
Find the humor in your situation.
21. Take no notice of what others say about you and even less notice of what
they might be thinking. They'll do it anyway, and you should have pride in
yourself and what you've achieved. Let them talk and don't worry. They have no
idea about your history, your memories and the life you've lived so far.
There's still much to be written, so get busy writing and don't waste time
thinking about what others might think. Now is the time to be at rest, at peace
and as happy as you can be!
AND REMEMBER: "Life is too short to drink bad wine."
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