Wednesday, June 20, 2018
Just Face It, Your Kids Think You're an Artifact
Do you remember when you were young and you felt like you would never grow up? Thirty seemed like an old age and sixty was really, really old and you would not have to worry because it would take forever for you to get there anyway.
You also thought your parents were artifacts who must have been born in the Stone Age. They had no clue about what you liked and what kind of problems and issues you faced every day in your life.
Well, you did grow up, and quickly. Now you are over sixty and have a couple of grandkids who are likely thinking that you are an artifact. You, however, may think that you have made a conscious effort to keep your kids and grandkids from thinking that you and your spouse are artifacts.
But it is not going to work, no matter how hard you try. You can think you are an amazing grandparent who totally understands what your kids and grandkids are feeling and going through because you went through it to at a time. But they do not think that way.
They think you are an old geezer who would not understand what they are going through in life even if it bit you in the pants. Do not fret about it. It is human nature and it is futile to try and stop them from feeling that way. The best way to go about it is to simply acknowledge that yes, you are artifacts and you have no idea what is going on in their lives. Then let them try to figure out their problems on their own and eventually come back to you for guidance. Trust this fact, it will happen sooner or later.
The most important thing is to remember that your grandkids do love you but they may be going through that stage when they are too cool for everything and life is the most unfair piece of work ever. Those feelings will pass and eventually you will be best friends with your family again.
However, for now, let them think that they are the most amazing and smart people in the world who can figure out everything for themselves. Remember, you are just artifacts who would not know a real problem like they have and you could not possibly understand what they are going through.
Instead, simply sit back, relax and smile as they go through the drama that all people go through and laugh and say that you told them so when they ask you for advice.