Saturday, February 19, 2011

GOOD ADVICE — but will we take it?

My thanks to Sheila Gair, Editor, of the Retired Teachers Magazine for the following post:
I was clearing a drawer the other day and found a yellowing newspaper clipping. I read it and realised why I had kept it, and felt it was worth sharing. It was from an Ann Landers column of decades ago and was from a reader in Buffalo, New York.

1. When my children tell me I should no longer drive, I will believe them and quit, because I know they love me.
2. When it becomes apparent that I need extra help, I will accept it from outsiders because my children cannot do everything. They have other obligations beyond my daily care.
3. It is up to me to make my life fulfilling. It is not my children’s responsibility. I must stay active and learn to entertain myself so I do not become a burden to them.
4. If my children tell me I am becoming confused and that it is no longer safe for me to be alone, I will believe them and not become defensive.

5. If I am unable to get along with my children, I will seek counselling so we can learn to manage the changes in my life together.

6. I will get my legal affairs in order and trust the advice of professionals so there will be no problems about money or property down the road.

7. I will not constantly complain about feeling poorly. My children cannot fix my health, and such complaints are emotionally draining for them to hear.

8. My children are not my indentured servants. I will remember to thank them for everything they do for me and I will do loving things in return.

9. I will avoid making my children feel guilty. Age is no excuse for insults and manipulative behaviour.

10. For as long as I can, I wifi take good care of myself physically, dress well and carry myself with dignity. Nothing saddens a child more than to witness parents who give up on how they present themselves.

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