Hello everyone. This is an update of the situation regarding the plight of Kathleen Palamarek who has been the subject of a guardianship court application for the past three years. Her daughter Lois sought guardianship of her mother so her mother could come to live with Lois and her husband Gil, as she had wished and they welcomed. Mrs. Palamarek's sons sought guardianship so their mother would be kept in an institution (Broadmead Lodge).
On Tuesday, May 3rd, the judge released his decision on the guardianship court case that ended on February 18, 2011. Lois was not appointed to be Mom's guardian, her brothers were.
The judge wrote a 70-page "reasons for judgment" document. It contains inaccuracies, and ignores whole swaths of evidence of wrong-doing and false statements by her brothers, and by Broadmead Lodge and their doctors that were revealed in court, or made to the court (and confirmed in court documents). It seems hard evidence (i.e. proof) of wrong-doing has no currency in BC courts any longer.
The judge, David Harris, goes to great lengths to portray Lois as a manipulative and generally distasteful person. Other people have said that this entire document reads like a personal attack by the judge on Lois. Worst of all is the way the judge portrayed Mom, and how he portrayed Mom's relationship with Lois. We should say "mis-portrayed". We're heart-broken over that, and angry. This document is now a permanent, very public, and wrongful stain on Kathleen Palamarek's character and on her relationship with her daughter. We have attached a copy of this judge's "reasons" if you wish to read it. We'd be happy to answer any questions people may have arising from it, and provide any documents to substantiate what we say. In our view, the only court in BC that is worthy of trust now is the court of public opinion.
Yesterday, another article about Mom's situation was published, this one commenting on the judge's reasons for decision. Here's the link to that article:
For those of you who do not know, the past two and a half months since the court hearing concluded, and while we were waiting for the judge's decision, have been fraught with terrible events. Rather than go into an explanation, here are some media stories that explain the main incidents:
Attached are the two emails and phone message Lois received from her brothers leading up to and announcing Mom's death. You can click on the voice message to listen to it. We are sharing these because we want people to know the truth about how Mom was treated by her sons and by Broadmead Lodge and their doctors. The perfunctory sentiments proclaiming sadness do not mask the underlying intentions of continued brutal repression of Mom, and of we who wished to protect her.
The events leading up to Mom's death were suspiciously similar to the events leading up to the February 24th narcotic poisoning incident for which Broadmead Lodge and their doctors are under police investigation. We later learned that the care facility doctor had suddenly and secretly prescribed Mom a morphine drug to be administered in ever-increasing dosage (i.e. "palliative morphine" as the Emergency physician explained with puzzlement, noting that Mom had no terminal illness pain that would justify her being administered this drug). We were informed that Mom had also not been given food or water for two days during the administration of the morphine. She would have died without our call to 911 on that day. On both occasions, Feb 24 and the events of the past week, the messages we received from Lois' brother did not match our and other visitor's observations of Mom, and there were additional things that just did not make sense. We do not believe morphine was used on this latest occasion but instead other, less obvious, means were at work to hasten Mom's demise.
We had our first inkling that something was afoot a week ago. Our lawyer Lloyd Duhaime sent a letter to register our concerns about Mom's care and health to the lawyers for Lois' brothers and for Broadmead Lodge. We also requested information on what medications she was now on, and an independent medical assessment of Mom. We communicated those concerns to the Saanich Police as well (letters attached). No response was received from either Broadmead, the brothers or the Saanich Police to our letters . Lois' brothers did not permit Mom to be treated in a hospital; instead she was designated for "comfort care" only (lowest level "care"), which might be more accurately referred to as "aggressive neglect" as we and other visitors to Mom observed it.
We miss Mom enormously, and have been missing her enormously since March 31st when Broadmead Lodge's lawyer imposed restrictions on access to Mom, preventing us and others from seeing her except for limited visits, and always in the presence of a security guard. The restrictions were so bizarre that no visitors were allowed to meet with Mom in her room or to enter her room for any reason, even with a guard present, even if Mom requested it. Instead Mom was marched down the hallway by a guard to a specific meeting room. Broadmead Lodge relented on that last restriction only this past week when Mom suddenly became too ill to leave her room. The morally repugnant impunity with which health care personnel and other public agencies in BC are permitted to operate in BC is an epidemic. It exists because staff are protected from prosecution, thanks to the rules and regulations established by our government. As a result, they can literally take, shake, bend and break a person's life. But we will not let them smear Mom's name or her character in death.
You are welcome to contact us if you wish. Your support has always been a great comfort to us, and to Mom.
We will not let her death go unnoticed, nor be in vain. Think of Kathleen Palamarek this weekend, on Mother's Day. She was the best mother a person could possibly hope for, and so much more. She was pure grace.