To be happy be kind to others. What goes around
comes around - and with kindness it really does. Research shows that being kind
to others increases our own levels of happiness as well as theirs. What's more
it has a knock-on effect - kindness is contagious, so it makes our communities
nicer places to be.
Recent research into brain functioning has
confirmed that we are hard-wired for love and compassion. So it's not all
chasing about individual success - our communities and society flourish when
people look out for each other.
When we're kind to people we know it
strengthens our connections with them and provides a source of support.
Research shows that we may benefit from giving support more than those
receiving it - and we're also more likely get support in return when we need
it. This may not be like-for-like support, or even from the same person, but
being kind to others builds a wider support network which increases well-being
all round.
Doing kind things for strangers helps build
co-operation, trust and a sense of safety in our communities. It also helps us
to see others more positively and empathise with them. These are the
foundations of a thriving local community and a flourishing society - one which
builds well-being all round.
Kindness can be as simple as a smile, a
thank-you or a word of encouragement.
It's a way of connecting, even if only for a brief moment, with those we
pass in our daily lives. It doesn't have to cost anything or take much time -
what's important is that it's an act of genuine care and thoughtfulness for
another person. There are lots of ideas below and throughout this website.
Kind acts can be spur of the moment, like when
we notice someone in need. For example, we might give up our seat on the train
or pick up and return someone's glovewhen they drop it. Opportunities to be
kind pop up all over the place - like handing on a newspaper we've finished
reading, letting someone take our parking space or passing on an unused ticket.
Kind acts can also be thought through in advance
- planning to do something for a friend, neighbour or loved one or because we
want to spread some daily joy. There are unlimited ways to be kind to others -
we only need to keep your eyes open and pay attention to those around us to
start seeing opportunities to help.
To be kind, it's important for us to be aware
of the people around us - and to notice their needs and feelings. We all have
an innate compassion but sometimes it takes bit of time for us to tune into it.
As the Dalai Lama says: "Be kind whenever possible. It is always
possible"
1.
Plan for kindness - Do some thinking
about what you might do to spread some kindness - then you're more likely to
spot opportunities when they come up. Make yourself a list of small actions you
could take in your daily life - they don't have to cost any money at all. Think
about people you know and others that you pass byin the course of the day. What
could you do today or tomorrow? What do you feel drawn to doing? There are lots
of ideas below to get you thinking.
2.
Have a kindness day - On a particular
day, perhaps once a week, try to perform at least 5 different acts of kindness
for different people. Make these things that you wouldn't ordinarily do.
Afterwards, think: How did you feel after you did each act? How do you feel at
the end of the day? You could also do this as a challenge with friends and get
together in the evening to talk about what you got up to. Go on spread a little
kindness!
3.
Do it together - Try to think about kind
things you could do with friends, family or neighbours. You can swap ideas and
support each other. Doing new things together helps build connections, which
also increases happiness, so it's a win all round. If you've got children, get
them thinking about what they can do too. Ask them what kind acts they gave or
received that day - they might share some lovely stories with you!
Here's a list of 10 suggested acts of kindness
to get you started:
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Give up your seat
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Hold a door open for someone
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Give a (sincere) compliment
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Make someone laugh
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Give someone a hug
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Take time to really listen to someone
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Let one car in on every journey
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Make someone new feel welcome
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Help someone who's lost
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Have a conversation with a stranger
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