‘Social isolation and
loneliness’ are complex. Loneliness is
often experienced as more of an anxious or sad feeling. However, you don’t necessarily have to be
alone in order to experience it. Sometimes you can feel lonely even when
surrounded by other people.
And, being ‘alone’ could be
good or bad; it doesn’t necessarily mean you are lonely. We all want to be alone at least once in a while; for example, when you feel tired and would like to take a nap. Another example is that some people may
prefer living alone versus living with others and are perfectly content with
that choice.
Personal Motivation and
Initiative.
One factor sometimes
affecting isolation and loneliness in older adults is simply a person’s
motivations and initiative. Some people
are fun, good people, but are not very good at ‘breaking the ice’.
A number of individuals don’t
seem to have that initiative or ability to initiate an interaction. They are often fine and fun to be with when
someone else takes the initiative to start an interaction. But if someone else does not initiate the
connection or interaction, the interaction never takes place. Once they get over that initial first step,
they are often fine.
Insights/Advice:
Each individual needs to take
the initiative, but some don’t know how or are really incapable of doing
that. Oftentimes, this lack of
motivation or initiative is a personality-related issue that can be hard to
change. It is part of why they are
isolated.
It can be a hard job to get
some people motivated to participate.
Some are scared; possibly afraid of rejection.
Some don't want to ‘compete’
socially; they feel inadequate or uncomfortable.
Opportunities are out there
for older adults; find your interests.
Take the initiative to get an association or connection, and be
persistent; stick to it for a while. Be
open to opportunities; break out of your comfort zone. Be more proactive in calling people/friends.
One caveat: Sociability, or
the lack of, can be situational. There
are times, for example, when you just don't want to join other people for
dinner. A couple may want to eat alone
or just dine with each other. There are
times, too, when you may be tired and just don’t want to interact with
people. ‘Situational sociability’ is
quite different from social isolation and loneliness.
Technology and the
Internet.
There is a lot of potential
for technology to help us battle isolation and loneliness among older
adults. Some examples include:
Robotics. One example that was cited: Robots exist that
can read the same books as you, and can actually discuss the book with
you. An interesting new option that is
still primitive at this point, but is getting better fast.
Smart-Phone and Computer
Apps. Currently, there are apps that can
alert you, for example, that someone is nearby that is interested in meeting to
get coffee. Or, other affinity-related
apps for alerting you that I’m available and nearby for a walk, etc.
Alexa/Artificial Intelligence
(AI). Taking the above affinity apps one
step further, Alexa or similar AI capabilities allow a person to ask it to find
others that want (e.g.) coffee, or other affinities. ‘Alexa’, by requiring just talking or
speaking, can make these activities or benefits even easier to do.
Woven into these discussions,
though, is the caveat that older adults wanted and needed better and simpler
setups for using this technology.
Simplicity, good instruction, and ease of use were critical to them,
otherwise, these barriers can deter many older adults from using these
technologies.
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