We were watching our local football team, lose the
game and my buddy said to me, “They are such losers.” I replied, “No, I think
they are just winners in training.” We both laughed and we continued to watch
the game, cheer and finally with seconds left and an interception killing our
final chance of winning we left. Maybe next year.
Life is funny, we win at some things and we lose at
others. When we talk about winners we focus on the difference between winners and losers, maybe we should also focus on the differences between winners and gracious winners.
Some of us have learned to be gracious winners, some of us have learned
to be winners. There is a difference between a gracious winner and a winner,
just like there is a difference between a loser and a sore loser. I like to
think that we are all “winners in training”. Every loss we face is helping us
to understand our limitations and to test ourselves so we can do better next
time. The biggest difference between a winner and a gracious winner is the
conditioning of our subconscious mind.
A winner conditions their subconscious mind
effectively toward their goals using positive thinking mixed with the powerful
emotion of faith in self or faith in others. Many philosophers believe that we
are the master of our own earthly destiny. We may become the master of ourselves,
and of our environment because we have the power to influence our subconscious
mind.
Persistent efforts will help you reach your
goals, even if temporary failure comes your way, you will carry on with the
same zeal and enthusiasm. A gracious winner, when faced with a temporary
failure will try harder and when they win, give credit to those around them who
helped them succeed. A winner thinks they did it on their own.
Research suggests that certain healthy competitive
environments help us perform better. But while a winner's high offers
performance incentive, there's a risk that your self-esteem can become
dependent on beating others.
Fierce or negative opposition causes anxiety that
makes it hard for us to do our best. The key is to point out there can be fierce
but positive competition.
If we want to become more gracious competitors and winners
than the keys are cooperation and respect. Support and respect for each other all that is
required.
To avoid some of the passive aggression that comes
with winning, consider these tips for how to win gracefully at work.
·
Foster Collaboration.
There's a reason collaboration has endured for so long.
·
Stay Humble.
·
Take the Me out of
winning and put in the We
·
Recognize Your
Colleagues.
·
Keep Setting Goals as a
team
·
Share the Wealth.
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