There is always anohter way

 There's always another way. Always. We sometimes think that we are trapped in our relationships in our jobs, in our own drama, but when that happens, we have to remember that there is always another way. The problem is that we become trapped in our thinking and our ability to see another way becomes limited.

It is not easy to change thinking, each of us has our own personal paradigm that defines who are and how we see the world. A change in basic assumptions has also been used to describe a profound change in a fundamental model or perception of events. A shift in thinking can be a paradigm if in our thinking we believe that an important change has happened and our usual way of thinking about or doing something is replaced by a new and different way of doing and thinking.

When we undergo a paradigm shift, we may reject everything we believed to be normal and what we believe we have in common with others in our group. Normal may mean a coherent system of rules, which once we make a shift we reject these norms and this can be unsettling for us, but once we realize that we can change then we are no longer trapped.