There’s an emotional process that most people go through when adjusting to retirement. At first, there’s a feeling of freedom. It’s like you’re on a vacation that’s going to last forever.
That sense of novelty wears
off, however, and you will settle into a slower lifestyle. There might be a
stage that involves a lot of, “Oh, no! What did I do?” thoughts, followed by
anxiety and boredom. You might even feel guilty for not enjoying retirement as
much as you think you should.
Suppressing your emotions or
denying your feelings can lead to unhealthy coping strategies like relying
on alcohol or food. Allow
yourself to experience a wide range of emotions, whatever those emotions may
be. Look for healthy ways to deal with
those feelings. You might find walking, reading, writing, talking to others, or yoga helps
you deal with your emotions.
Pre-retirement,
you had your routine down pat: Alarm goes off, shower, breakfast, pack a lunch,
head out the door. There was probably a similar structure to the end of your
days that began when you walked back over the threshold of your home.
If you thrive with a schedule,
you might establish a retirement routine that helps you plan your days.
Experiment with various activities and time slots to see how it makes you feel.
Pencil in time for lingering
over the newspaper and enjoying a cup of coffee, but add in regular time for
exercise, social activities, volunteer opportunities, and family meals. While
your days don’t need to be rigid, having a set wake-up time and routine can
help you feel more normal now that you aren’t going to work.
Your
pre-retirement life was measured in meeting milestones, such as making
deadlines, finishing projects, or getting a promotion. You can still focus
on goals after you retire, though they might be a little different than
they were before. Working on goals can give you a sense of purpose. And accomplishing new things can give
you a sense of achievement.
Think about what milestones you
might want to meet in the first month, six months, or one year that you’ve been
retired and write them down. Do you want to lose 10 pounds? Travel to Europe?
(Yes, goals can be fun, too!) Finish five books that you’ve been putting off.
The sky’s the limit.
There’s
a significant risk of becoming isolated during retirement.4 After 30
years of meeting friends through work and seeing them every day, it might not
be as easy to keep up with those you hold dear.
This can play into the
restructuring of your daily routine—ask one friend to meet you for lunch every
Monday, another friend to go walking through the neighborhood with you on
Wednesdays and a third pal to grab a coffee on Friday afternoons.
If you and your spouse are
friends with other couples, aim to invite them over for dinner or board games
at least once a month. If you don’t feel like you have enough people to keep
you socially active, take advantage of the extra time in your life to make
new friends.
Check out any programs offered
at your church or a local community center, or find a group of like-minded
individuals who share an affection for your favorite hobby, whether it’s golf,
crafts or cooking. Meetup groups are also available for many hobbies and
activities.
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