What did you do with the time inbetween?

Life begins and life ends. As seniors, we are nearer the end than the beginning, so a question to ask is: what have we done with the time in between?

Many seniors, as we face the end, reflect on the purpose and meaning of our lives.   This question allows us the opportunity to reflect on the choices we made, to reflect on the significance of our actions, and to think about the pursuit of our desires, and the development of our character.

Some people believe that life is a chance to fulfill oneself and achieve self-actualization. From this standpoint, life is an unwritten book upon which we are free to write our own unique story. As we pursue personal goals, passions, and pleasures, we can argue that life’s value is measured by the degree of happiness and satisfaction we gain during our journey. This perspective puts a high degree of importance on our autonomy and our right to make choices that line up with our individual goals.

Although it may seem attractive, focusing only on personal happiness and gain can raise the question of whether this focus gives one's life meaning. What of the ethical dimensions of our actions? Can we truly find fulfillment without considering the impact of our choices on others and the broader community?

A second perspective asserts that we should be altruistic and compassionate. From this point of view, life acquires meaning through our capacity to contribute to the welfare of others and the betterment of society. This view holds that a good life is one that is dedicated to service, empathy, and the alleviation of suffering. Success comes from forming bonds with others and doing kind things, not just pursuing your own interests.

For some, this is the only way that they have lived their lives. People often ask how to balance self-care and caring for others, especially in an unjust world. Is it enough to strive for the well-being of others, or must we also consider broader issues of justice and systemic change?

A third perspective believes that our life is about our search for meaning and purpose. This view holds that we could create our own purpose in life because life on its own, lacks real meaning. Life’s purpose is not discovered but constructed through our choices and actions.

This perspective gives us the ability to face the anxiety that arises from the realization of our ultimate mortality. Being human means having the paradox of freedom and burden while trying to find meaning through our actions.

In the end, the question of what we did with the time between birth and death is an inquiry into the nature of our existence. It helps us balance our self-interest with helping others. 

What we did with the time in between is deeply personal, and the meaning we find may be as unique as our fingerprints. Discovering our own answers to life's purpose is a valuable and lasting pursuit.