The Truth from the whimsical story from yesterday

 In a world that often feels like it’s spinning a little too fast, with headlines that shout and days that demand, it’s easy to believe that the loudest voice, the hardest heart, or the sharpest word is the one that gets things done.

But I am here to tell you a secret, a wonderful, whimsical, and stubbornly true secret that I have learned over my 80 years of living on this wonderful planet.

Love always wins.

Not in a fairy-tale, no-conflict-ever way. Love wins like a determined vine creeping up a concrete wall. It doesn’t smash the wall with brute force. Instead, it patiently, gently, weaves its way through the cracks, until one day, the wall is no longer a stark grey barrier, but a living, breathing tapestry of green. Love wins the long game. It’s the quiet understanding after a fiery argument, the steady hand held in a hospital room, the forgiveness offered when it isn't deserved. It’s the memory that outlasts hatred. While anger exhausts its fuel and fades, love simply settles in, making a home in the heart. It is, and always will be, the final, most powerful word.

And kindness? Kindness always prevails.

Think of it not as a weakness, but as a superpower. Kindness is the secret currency of the universe that never depletes. It’s the cup of tea made for a frazzled friend, the door held open for a stranger with full hands, the genuine “how are you, really?” asked and meant. It’s the compost for the soul, turning rot into richness. A single act of kindness sends out ripples we may never see, changing the atmosphere of a room, a home, a community. It might not always prevail in the moment, a cruel word may seem to land harder, but over time, kindness is the water that wears down the stone of cynicism. It builds bridges where logic says there should be chasms. It is the quiet, persistent force that heals the world, one gentle moment at a time.

And then, there is the most disarming weapon in our entire arsenal: a smile.

A true, crinkly-eyed smile is a universal language of peace. It’s a tiny, silent revolution. You cannot maintain a full-blown grudge while being genuinely smiled at. It’s nearly impossible. A smile short-circuits hostility. It disarms the defensive, comforts the lonely, and connects two strangers on a crowded street. It costs the giver nothing but a moment of courage, and yet for the receiver, it can be a lifeline, a spot of sunshine on a cloudy day. In a standoff, the one who smiles first isn’t surrendering; they are offering a different way forward.

So, on the days the world feels heavy, remember your role in this whimsical, wonderful story. You are a bearer of these three greats magics. You are a gardener of love, a practitioner of kindness, and a wielder of disarming smiles.

Go forth and be a little relentless with your gentleness. Weave your vine of love. Spend your currency of kindness. Unleash your arsenal of smiles.

For in the grand, chaotic, and beautiful tapestry of life, these are not just nice ideas. They are the undeniable, whimsical, and triumphant truth. Love wins. Kindness prevails. And a smile? A smile can change everything.

Turning Post-Holiday Blues into Optimistic Anticipation

The holidays often come with a mix of joy, planning, and creativity, providing us with something to look forward to. As the decorations are packed away, you might feel a void. The good news is that you can harness the same sense of anticipation and optimism by setting meaningful goals or planning events that inspire excitement. Here’s how:

Plan Micro-Goals That Spark Joy

Instead of waiting for big events, focus on smaller, achievable goals. These could be as simple as learning to bake a new recipe, reorganizing a room, or taking on a hobby like painting or gardening. Each milestone gives you something tangible to anticipate.

Example: Sign up for a beginner’s class in a skill you’ve always admired, like photography or knitting. Websites like Skillshare or Coursera offer a variety of courses to explore.

Transform Less-Desirable Events into Opportunities

Not all events in life are inherently fun, but you can change your perspective by attaching a reward or positive twist to them.

Example: If you dread tax season, plan a celebratory dinner or day out for when you’ve completed the paperwork. Or, if you dislike your morning commute, turn it into a time to listen to engaging audiobooks or podcasts. Check out Audible for inspiration.

Create a Personal “Bucket List” for the New Year

Having a bucket list doesn’t have to mean grand adventures like skydiving. Focus on small, meaningful goals. Write them down and actively plan for them.

Example: Decide to visit a local museum, hike a nearby trail, or explore a cultural event in your area. Apps like Eventbrite can help you find activities near you.

Plan for Seasonal Celebrations

The New Year is full of lesser-known celebrations you can look forward to. These events can provide fun themes for activities, gatherings, or personal challenges.

Example: Plan a Valentine’s Day craft project, or participate in a National Library Week event. Mark your calendar with quirky holidays like National Cat Day or Pi Day to plan lighthearted celebrations.

Engage in Giving Back

Focusing on helping others can provide purpose and fulfillment. Volunteering gives you a sense of contribution but helps build anticipation for events like food drives, charity walks, or community projects.

Example: Volunteer at a local shelter, or organize a neighborhood cleanup. Websites like VolunteerMatch can help you find opportunities nearby.

Visualize Your Goals with Creative Planning Tools

Use tools like vision boards or digital planners to map out your aspirations and events for the year. Seeing your plans come together visually can boost motivation.

Example: Create a digital vision board on Pinterest, or use apps like Trello to organize your ideas and goals.

By finding ways to anticipate meaningful activities, you can fill your post-holiday lull with excitement and purpose. Whether through micro-goals, creative projects, or community engagement, there’s always something to look forward to—and every step can help shape a positive outlook for the year ahead.

Anticipation as a motivator

 Having something to look forward to now that Christmas is over, can be a powerful motivator and mood-booster. Here are some ideas on how to use this sense of anticipation to change our perspective on less-than-desirable events:

Instead of dreading a task or event, try to see it as a chance to learn, grow, or achieve something new. For example, if you have a big project deadline looming, instead of feeling overwhelmed, focus on the sense of accomplishment you'll feel when it's completed. Resource: "The Power of Reframing" by Dr. Carol Dweck (TED Talk)

Break down a daunting task or event into smaller, manageable steps. Celebrate each small victory along the way to build momentum and anticipation for the next step. Resource: "The Pomodoro Technique" by Francesco Cirillo (article on Medium)

Identify the positive aspects of an event or task, no matter how small they may seem. Focus on those aspects to shift your perspective and build anticipation for the benefits that will come from it. Resource: "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale (book)

Develop a pre-event routine that signals to your brain that something exciting is about to happen. This could be as simple as making a favourite snack, listening to a specific playlist, or doing a quick workout. Resource: "The Power of Rituals" by Dr. Dan Ariely (TED Talk)

Close your eyes and vividly imagine yourself successfully navigating the event or task. Visualize the sense of pride, relief, or accomplishment you'll feel when it's over. Resource: "The Power of Visualization" by Dr. Denis Waitley (article on MindTools)

Share your goals and plans with a friend or family member and ask them to hold you accountable. This can provide an added motivation to stay on track and build anticipation for the event. Resource: "The Power of Accountability" by Dr. John C. Maxwell (article on Inc.com)

Set small rewards for yourself after completing a task or event. This could be something as simple as a favorite meal, a relaxing bath, or a fun activity. Resource: "The Science of Rewards" by Dr. Alfie Kohn (article on Psychology Today)

By using these strategies, you can harness the power of anticipation to transform your perspective on less-than-desirable events and build a sense of excitement and optimism for the future.

Anticipation of a full year 1

 Christmas is over, and the anticipation of the day was a key driving force in motivating you as you looked forward to something that gave you a sense of optimism. Planning for the holidays gives people a goal and meaning. For most of us, it gives us an outlet to use our creative energy and look forward to an event that’s fun or meaningful. 

So, as we settle in for the upcoming new year, think about having something to genuinely look forward to as doing so stimulates your brains in positive, dopamine-releasing ways We can use this sense of new anticipation to strategically to change our perspective on less-than-desirable events. Over the next two posts, I will share some ideas and resources to help rebuild a sense of anticipation

More anticipation

Children eagerly await Christmas is tomorrow, and they look forward to new experiences and milestones. As seniors, we can learn from this sense of anticipation and apply it to our own lives. Instead of focusing solely on the past or dwelling on what's been lost, we can look to the future with hope and excitement. Here are a few ways we can cultivate this sense of anticipation:

Just like children set goals for their future, we can set goals for ourselves, whether it's learning a new skill, travelling, or pursuing a hobby. Having something to look forward to can give us a sense of purpose and excitement.

While it's natural to look ahead, we shouldn't forget to appreciate the present moment. Take time to enjoy the little things, like a beautiful sunset, a good book, or a warm cup of coffee.

Reflecting on what we're grateful for can help shift our focus from what's lacking to what we have. This can help us appreciate the present and look forward to the future with a sense of hope.

Just as children look forward to sharing special moments with friends and family, we can cultivate meaningful connections with others. This can bring joy and anticipation to our lives.

Instead of focusing solely on the destination, we can find joy in the journey itself. This might mean taking time to appreciate the little things, practicing mindfulness, or finding beauty in the everyday moments.

 

The future is not set in stone

 This is a time when forgiveness, love, and hope shine brightest, even amidst the challenges and uncertainties that life may bring. For many, it is a season filled with high expectations for the future, and while it can be joyful, it can also feel heavy for those who see only darkness ahead. Yet, this season offers an opportunity to pause, reflect, and rediscover the light that resides within each of us.

During the holidays, you may find yourself thinking about what gifts you can give to your loved ones, especially your grandchildren. Perhaps the most enduring gift you can offer is teaching them to love the world—not just its beauty and joy but also its imperfections and struggles. This kind of love is a powerful legacy, shaping their ability to find hope and meaning even in challenging times.

When I feel the weight of defeat, despair, or the sense of "So-what-ness," I draw inspiration from those around me who face tremendous hardships. I think of friends battling chronic pain or devastating illness who, despite their struggles, continue to affirm life with courage and grace. Their resilience reminds me that if they can hold onto hope, there must be something worth affirming in this world.

The meaning of life is not handed to us; it is something we create for ourselves. Each of us must determine what gives our lives purpose and significance. And at the heart of it all lies love—the love we feel, the love we share, and the love we nurture. What and whom we love shapes our days and our dreams, becoming the foundation of a meaningful existence.

Let us remember, especially during this season, that the future is not set in stone. It is a canvas, ready to be shaped by the love we give today, the aspirations we dare to hold, and the courage we summon to nurture what matters most. Change is inevitable—it often comes unbidden and unforeseen. But when love is our compass, we can embrace change with open hearts, confident in our ability to create a brighter, more compassionate tomorrow.

You are loved and needed

During the holidays, it’s easy for some people to feel disconnected or doubt their place in the world. But there’s something we can learn from dogs wagging their tails or cats purring, even when life hasn’t been kind to them. They seem to know deep down that they’re loved, needed, and capable of making a difference just by being themselves.

This is a powerful truth for all of us, though sometimes people forget it. Life’s challenges, disappointments, or feelings of isolation can cloud that awareness. But like those animals who instinctively trust that brighter moments are always possible, we, too, are surrounded by opportunities to change things for the better—not just for ourselves, but for others.

Your presence matters.
During the holidays, your kindness, a warm smile, a thoughtful gesture, or even just your company can brighten someone else’s day in ways you might not realize. Whether it’s reaching out to a lonely neighbour, spending time with family, or volunteering for those in need, every action, no matter how small, ripples outward.

You are loved and needed.
Holidays remind us of the importance of connection. Someone, somewhere, needs your presence—your unique energy and love—to feel whole. It could be a close friend, a stranger you haven’t met yet, or even a pet who looks to you for comfort and joy.

Life can change fantastically in an instant.
Just like a wagging tail or a purring cat, you hold the potential to spark joy and healing. Your actions can help others remember their worth, just as you can rediscover your own. Together, we make the world warmer, brighter, and better—not just during the holidays, but all year round.

So, as you celebrate or reflect on this season, remember that you’re part of something bigger. You’re not just loved—you’re needed. And by embracing that truth, you can inspire hope in others and yourself.

 

Make life meaningful this holiday season

The holidays are coming up fast, and this should be a joyous time, and it is for many, but for some, it is not. Life events make it hard to keep ahead of the isolation, loneliness and sorrow that visit some of us during the holiday season.

In times when the world feels weighed down by turmoil, and individuals find themselves questioning fairness, respect, and the very fabric of humanity, it’s natural for self-doubt and despair to take root. Yet, even in the darkest moments, there are forces within us that keep despair at bay and make life meaningful.

When the mind—the profound meeting place of body and spirit—feels overwhelmed, what sustains us? It is the recognition of something greater, something deeper and more enduring than fleeting thoughts or wavering beliefs. This is the inextinguishable power of affirmation within us: the quiet, unwavering force that urges us to persist, to hope, and to love.

The meaning of life is not handed to us; it is something we must create for ourselves. It’s a question that invites us to dig deep, to reflect on what truly resonates, and to shape a sense of purpose unique to our journey. For many, the answer lies in love—not just as a feeling, but as a way of being.

Love is at the core of what makes life meaningful. It is the bond that connects us to others, the bridge that helps us move beyond fear and self-doubt. To love deeply and authentically is to affirm the value of another and, in doing so, affirm our own. It is through love that we find clarity, courage, and purpose, even in uncertain times.

Love manifests in many ways:

• Love for others inspires compassion, generosity, and the desire to build connections.
• Love for oneself is vital for overcoming doubt and embracing our own worth.
• Love for the world drives us to care for our communities and the planet.

When we choose love as our guiding principle, we remind ourselves that we are part of something greater than our individual struggles. Love is a force that transcends barriers, heals wounds, and brings light to even the darkest places.

For those feeling lost or doubting themselves, love offers a path forward. Begin by nurturing small acts of love—toward yourself, toward others, and toward life itself. These acts, no matter how small, remind us of our inherent ability to create meaning, to connect, and to grow.

Ultimately, life’s meaning is not about grand answers or definitive truths but about the choices we make to bring light into our lives and the lives of others. It is found in the moments when we allow love to guide us—when we reach out, hold on, and give freely of ourselves.

In a world that often feels fractured, love has the power to mend, to uplift, and to affirm that even in the face of uncertainty, life is worth living, and we are worthy of living it well.

The elderly

My thoughts for the boomers still going strong after all these years. 

You know, they call us “The Elderly” ' but I think we deserve a better title. How about 'The Time Travelers'? Born in the 40s, 50s, and 60s, we've lived through more decades than some people have lived through relationships. Yeah, I got my Canadian Association of Retired Persons, card in the mail, and suddenly people are looking at me like I might break a hip just from checking my email. It’s wild, right? So, apparently, we’re ancient! I’m just waiting for some kid to ask if I fought in the Civil War.

But let’s talk about it—we’ve been through eight decades, two centuries, and two millennia! You know, the good old days when 'social media' meant talking to your neighbour over the fence. And if you wanted to 'like' something, you actually had to say it out loud. We went from using rotary phones where you had to call the operator just to reach Grandma three states over, to Face Timing the grandkids while they send you dancing cat memes. I used to get excited when the phone rang because it was either a friend or someone selling encyclopedias. Now when the phone rings, I panic like it’s a bill collector or a scammer trying to steal my Social Security!

And remember vinyl records? Yeah, we had to physically walk over to a machine to hear music. And flip the thing over halfway through! Now my entire record collection fits in my pocket. I don’t even know what half the buttons on my phone do, but I can carry gigabytes of data! Back in the day, “byte” meant someone was stealing your sandwich!

And the fashion, don’t get me started. Shorts as kids, long trousers as adults, then there was those unfortunate flares phase. Oh, and shell suits—who else looked like a shiny burrito in the '80s? Now I’ve reached the point where if it’s got an elastic waistband, it’s my new favourite thing. Comfort first, style second! And you better believe I’m not giving up my jeans. I’ve been wearing denim since the '70s, and I’m going out wearing it, too.

And remember when we used to go to a video store? I’m talking about a place where you actually walked in, browsed the shelves, rented a VHS tape, and prayed the person before you rewound it. I used to be thrilled picking up the latest release for movie night. Now, with Netflix, I spend three hours scrolling and then just end up watching a rerun of something from the ‘90s. It’s like the modern version of staring into the fridge—endless options, but you’re still not sure what you want.

Remember those slide projectors and filmstrips? It was like watching a PowerPoint presentation but without the PowerPoint. And if you were lucky, you might even get to use a computer with punch cards. Yes, punch cards – the original “Ctrl+Alt+Delete'."

We were dating in the 60s, 70s, 80s, and 90s. The era of mixtapes and handwritten love letters. If you wanted to break up with someone, you had to do it in person or over the phone. No ghosting or blocking – just good old-fashioned heartbreak.

We stabilized in the 2000s and got wiser in the 2010s and by now we are practically gurus. We figured out how to use smartphones without accidentally calling the emergency services. However, I still remember my mom trying to Facetime me and ending up taking a selfie of her ear.

We've lived through eight different decades, two different centuries, and two different millennia. That's like being a character in a time-travel movie but without the DeLorean. 

Here’s the thing: We’ve adapted. We went from handwriting letters, licking stamps, and walking them to the mailbox to sending emojis and GIFs with a tap of the finger. We've gone from telephones with operators for long-distance calls to video calls anywhere in the world. From slides to YouTube, from vinyl records to online music, from handwritten letters to email and WhatsApp. And let's not forget the evolution of TV – from black and white to color, to 3D HD. It's like our eyes have been on a technological rollercoaster. We’re the generation that’s seen it all. And let’s be real; half of us still don’t know the difference between 4K and “what’s on cable,” but hey, we’re surviving!

"We've seen it all – from infantile paralysis, polio, meningitis, tuberculosis, swine flu to COVID-19. We dodged it all. And now, we're navigating the world of masks and vaccines. , I’m starting to feel like I’ve been playing dodgeball with diseases for the last 70 years. But you know what? We're still here, and that's something to celebrate. But what a great life we've had They could describe us as 'exennials' – people who had an analog childhood and a digital adulthood. We've kind of 'Seen-It-All! 

To all the members of this very special generation, here's to us – the Time Travelers, the Adaptation Champions, the Survivors of Shell Suits. Let's give ourselves a big round of applause for making it through all these decades and still managing to laugh about it."

Consider the following

"Life" is a gift to you. How you live your life is your gift to those who come after you. Make it a fantastic one.

Live it well! Enjoy today! Do something fun! Be happy! Have a great day!

Remember:

· Health is real wealth, not pieces of gold and silver.

· Live happy this year and every year!

Lastly, consider the following:

·  Today is the oldest you've ever been, yet the youngest you'll ever be so enjoy this day while it lasts.

·  Your kids are becoming you...

·  Going out is good. Coming home is better!

·   You forget names... But it's ok because other people forgot they even knew you!!!

·   You realize you're never going to be really good at anything

·   The things you used to care to do, you no longer care to do, but you really do care that you don't care to do them anymore.

·   You sleep better on a lounge chair with the tv blaring than in bed. It's called "pre-sleep".

·    You miss the days when everything worked with just an "on" and "off" switch.

·   You tend to use more 4 letter words ... "what?"..." when?"... "what?" . ???

·   Now that you can afford expensive jewelry, it's not safe to wear it anywhere.

·   You notice everything they sell in stores is "sleeveless"?!!!

·   What used to be freckles are now liver spots.

·   Everybody whispers.

·   You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet.... 2 of which you will never wear.

·   But old is good in some things: old songs, old movies, and best of all, old friends!!

·   Stay well, "old friend!" send this on to other "old friends!" and let them laugh in agreement!!!

                           ·  It's not what you gather, but what you scatter that tells what kind                                 of life you have lived 

Joy comes in small things

 Indeed, perfect happiness often lies in the small, everyday moments, rather than grand events. Remember, happiness is not a destination, but a journey. It's the accumulation of small, joyful moments that add up to a life well-lived. Just as a beautiful sunset is made up of individual rays of light, a grandchild's giggle is a collection of tiny, adorable sounds, and the first snowfall is a gentle accumulation of flakes, so too is happiness built from the small, everyday experiences we have.

It's easy to get caught up in the idea that happiness requires grand, dramatic events, but the truth is, it's the little things that bring us the most joy. It's the way the morning light filters through the blinds, the taste of a favourite coffee, the sound of birds singing outside your window, or the feeling of a warm hug from a loved one.

So, instead of waiting for the big, grand moments to bring us happiness, let's focus on cultivating joy in the everyday. Let's take time to appreciate the small things, to savour the sweetness of life, and to find joy in the simple moments.

And remember, joy doesn't have to be a big, overwhelming feeling. It can be a gentle, warm sensation that settles in your heart, a sense of contentment that comes from being present in the moment. It's okay to take things one sip at a time, to enjoy the small pleasures, and to find happiness in the everyday.

So, the next time you're feeling sad or down, take a deep breath and look for the little things that bring you joy. It might be a beautiful sunset, a grandchild's giggle, or the first snowfall. Whatever it is, let it fill your heart with happiness, and remind you that joy is always within reach, no matter what life brings."

The Power of a Smile: Boosting Your Brain

Smiling is not just a simple expression of joy; it can have profound effects on our well-being. Engaging in activities that induce smiling and laughter can stimulate positive emotions, which in turn may help improve cognitive function and memory. 

Research suggests that the act of smiling triggers the release of neuropeptides that work to fight off stress, while also activating neurotransmitters like dopamine, endorphins, and serotonin, which are known to enhance mood. T

hese biochemical reactions can lead to improved mental clarity and a sharper memory, making smiling a simple yet effective way to support brain health.

 So, whether it’s sharing a laugh with friends, watching a favourite comedy, or enjoying a moment of happiness with loved ones, incorporating more smiles into your daily routine can contribute to a healthier, more vibrant mind. 

Smiling is more than just a facial expression; it's a powerful tool for enhancing your overall well-being. Studies have shown that smiling can improve various aspects of mental sharpness. For instance, it may enhance your ability to:

• Focus and concentrate because smiling can help clear your mind and improve your attention span, making it easier to focus on tasks.
• Learn and retain information, positive emotions, triggered by smiling, can strengthen memory formation and retrieval.
• Solve problems with a positive mindset, cultivated by smiling, can boost your problem-solving skills and creativity.
• Maintain a positive outlook due to regular smiling can help counteract feelings of stress and anxiety, promoting a more optimistic perspective.

While more research is needed to fully understand the complex relationship between smiling and cognitive function, the initial findings are promising. Incorporating more smiles into your daily life could be a simple yet effective way to support your brain health.

Smiling in a group can help the mood

I am a leader in a number of groups and I think it is important for the members of the group to be on the same page. Synchronizing a group's mood is the process where members of a group tend to converge emotionally, often unconsciously. Smiling plays a significant role in this process.

In a social setting, one person's genuine smile can act as a catalyst. This smile might be in response to a joke, a pleasant thought, or simply feeling comfortable in the environment. Due to our natural tendency to mimic facial expressions, others in the group may unconsciously begin to smile in response. This happens even if they didn't hear the joke or know the reason for the initial smile. As more people in the group start smiling, their brains begin to produce neurotransmitters associated with positive emotions. This can lead to an actual shift in mood for many group members.

 As the positive mood spreads, it can change the overall atmosphere of the gathering. People may become more relaxed, open, and receptive to social interaction. This improved atmosphere can lead to more genuine smiles and positive interactions, further reinforcing the shared positive mood. As the group's mood becomes more synchronized towards positivity, it can enhance feelings of connection and belonging among group members.

A synchronized positive mood can influence the group's collective behaviour. For example, the group might become more cooperative, creative, or willing to engage in shared activities.  This synchronized mood can persist even after the initial smiles have faded, potentially influencing the entire course of a social interaction or event.

It's important to note that this process isn't always positive. Negative emotions can also be contagious in a group setting. However, smiling is a particularly powerful tool for positive mood synchronization due to its universally recognized nature and its strong association with positive emotions.

Understanding this concept can be valuable in various contexts, from family gatherings to professional meetings. It highlights how a simple act like smiling can have a ripple effect, potentially improving the experience for everyone in a social situation.

Smiling can lead to longevitty who knew?

One notable study was conducted by Wayne State University in 2010. Researchers looked at baseball card photos of Major League players from 1952. They found that players who had genuine smiles in their photos lived an average of 7 years longer than those who didn't smile. This study suggests that having a positive outlook, as reflected in a genuine smile, might be linked to a longer life.

Another interesting study was published in the journal Psychological Science in 2010. This research followed more than 50,000 adults in Japan over several years. The study found that those who reported feeling happier and smiled more often were less likely to die from various causes during the study period. This indicates that maintaining a positive attitude and smiling frequently might contribute to overall health and longevity.

A long-term study conducted at Harvard University, known as the Harvard Study of Adult Development, has been ongoing since 1938. While not specifically about smiling, this research has consistently shown that people who maintain positive relationships and have a more optimistic outlook tend to live longer, healthier lives. Smiling and expressing positivity can play a significant role in fostering these beneficial relationships and attitudes.

It's important to note that these studies show a correlation between smiling, positive attitudes, and longevity, but they don't necessarily prove that smiling directly causes people to live longer. Many factors contribute to a long and healthy life, including genetics, lifestyle choices, and access to healthcare.

However, these studies do suggest that cultivating a positive outlook, which often includes smiling more, can be part of a healthy lifestyle. Smiling can help reduce stress, improve mood, and strengthen social connections – all of which are known to contribute to better overall health and potentially a longer life.

For seniors looking to incorporate more smiling into their daily lives, it can be as simple as spending time with loved ones, engaging in enjoyable activities, or practicing gratitude for the positive aspects of life. Remember, even if you don't feel like smiling at first, the act of smiling itself can help boost your mood and potentially contribute to your overall well-being.

Seniors need to smile more

Smiling and laughter can have significant health benefits, particularly for individuals over 65 for several reasons. Smiling releases endorphins, serotonin, and dopamine, natural stress relievers. which lowers stress levels helping to reduce blood pressure and to improve heart health, which is especially important for older adults.

Smiling can help with pain management as the endorphins released when smiling act as natural painkillers.  This can be particularly beneficial for older adults dealing with chronic pain conditions like arthritis.

Our immune system boost is given a boost when we smile as positive emotions associated with smiling strengthen the immune system. - A stronger immune system helps fight off infections and recover more quickly from illnesses.

Improved cardiovascular health as smiling and laughter can improve blood flow and reduce the risk of heart disease. This is crucial for older adults who may be at higher risk for cardiovascular issues.

Regular smiling can help combat depression and anxiety, which are common concerns in older populations. Smiling can also improve overall life satisfaction and quality of life.

Smiling makes us appear more approachable, potentially leading to more social interactions. Strong social connections are linked to better mental and physical health in seniors.

The positive emotions from smiling may help improve cognitive function and memory. This could potentially slow cognitive decline associated with aging.

The relaxation effects of smiling and laughter can contribute to improved sleep quality. - Good sleep is essential for overall health and cognitive function in older adults.

Some studies suggest that individuals with a more positive outlook (which can be cultivated through smiling) may live longer.

Smiling and laughter can increase pain tolerance, which can be particularly beneficial for older adults dealing with chronic conditions.

Laughter and the relaxation associated with smiling can aid in digestion, which is often a concern for older adults.

Deep laughter can help clear the lungs and improve oxygen intake, which can be beneficial for overall respiratory health.

Incorporating more opportunities for smiling and laughter into daily life can be achieved through various means:

• Engaging in social activities with friends and family
• Watching comedies or humorous shows
• Participating in laughter yoga or similar group activities
• Practicing gratitude and focusing on positive aspects of life
• Engaging in enjoyable hobbies or activities that bring joy

It's important to note that while smiling and laughter can provide numerous health benefits, they should be seen as complementary to, not replacements for, proper medical care and a healthy lifestyle.

Smile and the world smiles with you

The power of a smile cannot be overstated. It’s a universal language that transcends cultural and linguistic barriers, conveying warmth, kindness, and understanding without a single word. A smile can transform a stranger into a friend, diffuse tension in a stressful situation, and uplift someone feeling down. Its impact is profound, reaching both the giver and the receiver, creating a ripple effect of positivity.

For the person smiling, it triggers the release of endorphins and serotonin, the body's natural feel-good chemicals, promoting feelings of well-being and reducing stress. It's a simple yet effective way to boost one's mood and improve overall mental health. Furthermore, smiling can enhance interpersonal relationships, making interactions more pleasant and fostering a sense of connection and empathy.

For the receiver, a smile can be a powerful gesture of acceptance and encouragement. It can brighten someone's day, provide comfort, and make them feel valued and seen. A smile can convey confidence and approachability, facilitating better communication and collaboration.

In essence, a smile is a small act with immense power. It’s a tool for building bridges, spreading joy, and enhancing both personal and collective well-being. Whether shared with a loved one, a colleague, or a stranger, the power of a smile is undeniable and boundless.

Silence is golden but my eyes still see.

 The idea that there is silence at the center of each person, an untrammelled space where the inner voice grows free to speak, is a powerful reminder of the creative potential that lies within us all. The notion that this space expands in solitude is a testament to the importance of quiet contemplation and introspection in the creative process.

For writers, poets, and artists who are struggling with creative blockages, this concept can be a powerful tool for unlocking their inner voice and finding inspiration. Here are a few ways that this idea can be applied:

When we're feeling stuck or uninspired, it's easy to get caught up in the noise and distractions of the world around us. But to tap into our inner voice, we need to create space for silence. This means taking time to quiet our minds, turn off our phones, and simply be present with ourselves.

Once we've created space for silence, we need to listen to what's being said. This means paying attention to our thoughts, emotions, and intuitions, and allowing ourselves to be guided by our inner wisdom. It's a process of tuning in to our own inner frequency, and allowing ourselves to be inspired by the silence.

As we listen to the silence, we begin to expand it. This means allowing ourselves to be open to new ideas, perspectives, and experiences. It means being willing to take risks, try new things, and explore new territories. And it means being patient and persistent, even when the creative process feels slow or difficult.

When we're in the silence, we begin to hear our own inner voice. This is the voice that has something to say to the world, and it's the voice that can guide us in our creative endeavors. It's the voice that can help us find our unique perspective, our unique style, and our unique message.

Finally, when we've found our inner voice, we need to share it with the world. This means taking our creative work and sharing it with others, whether it's through writing, art, music, or some other form of expression. It means being willing to be vulnerable, to take risks, and to put ourselves out there.

By applying these principles, writers, poets, and artists can tap into their inner voice and find inspiration in the silence. They can create work that is authentic, meaningful, and impactful, and they can share their unique perspective with the world.

Speak to the highest within

Whenever conferring with another either face to face or across the miles—whether a human being, departed spirit, or sentient tree, always speak to the highest within them. It makes such a difference.

Speaking to the highest within another being can have a deep impact on the interaction, regardless of whether it's a human being, a departed spirit, or even a sentient tree. Here's why:

When we speak to the highest within another, we're acknowledging and respecting their inherent goodness, wisdom, and potential. We're recognizing that every being has a spark of divinity within them, and that spark is worthy of our respect and attention.

By speaking to the highest within another, we:

Elevate the conversation: When we speak to the highest within another, we're not just communicating on a surface level. We're tapping into their deepest wisdom, values, and aspirations. This elevates the conversation and allows for a deeper connection.

Show respect and compassion: Speaking to the highest within another shows that we respect and care about their well-being. We're acknowledging that they're more than just their physical body or current circumstances.

Encourage growth and evolution: When we speak to the highest within another, we're encouraging them to grow and evolve. We're inspiring them to tap into their inner wisdom and potential, which can lead to personal growth and transformation.

Create a sense of unity: Speaking to the highest within another creates a sense of unity and connection. We're recognizing that we're all part of a larger whole, and that we're all connected through our shared humanity and divinity.

Attract positive energy: When we speak to the highest within another, we're attracting positive energy and vibrations. This can create a ripple effect, attracting more positivity and good vibes into our lives and the lives of those around us.

So, how can we apply this concept in our daily lives? Here are a few tips:

Speak with kindness and compassion: When communicating with others, speak with kindness, empathy, and compassion. Avoid criticism, judgment, or negativity, which can bring us down and create conflict.

Focus on the positive: When interacting with others, focus on the positive aspects of their being. Acknowledge their strengths, accomplishments, and good qualities.

Use affirmations: Use affirmations to speak to the highest within others. For example, you could say, "You are capable and strong," or "You are worthy of love and respect."

Practice mindfulness: Practice mindfulness and presence when interacting with others. This allows us to connect with them on a deeper level and speak to the highest within them.

Treat all beings with respect: Treat all beings, including animals, plants, and even the natural world, with respect and kindness. Recognize that every being has a spark of divinity within them, and speak to that spark.

By speaking to the highest within others, we can create a more harmonious, compassionate, and loving world. It's a powerful way to connect with others and elevate our own consciousness, and it's an idea that can bring us closer to our true nature and the divine.

Something to think about

I was sent the following quote the other week. "Those who achieve great things, defeat long odds, and become legends, don’t have anything you don't have. They just kept showing up, expecting a miracle, long after everyone else got practical."

I thought it was a powerful and inspiring thought! Here is why

1. Everyone has the same resources: The idea that those who achieve great things have something special or unique that others don't is a myth. In reality, everyone has the same basic resources: intelligence, talent, skills, and opportunities. The difference lies in how they use these resources.
2. Consistency is key: The phrase "kept showing up" emphasizes the importance of persistence and consistency. Legends don't achieve their goals overnight; they put in the effort, day in and day out, often for years. This consistency is what sets them apart from others.
3. Expecting a miracle: This phrase is often misunderstood. It's not about expecting a sudden, magical solution to appear out of thin air. Rather, it's about having faith that your hard work and dedication will eventually lead to success. It's about trusting the process and staying committed to your goals.
4. Long after everyone else got practical: This part of the quote highlights the importance of staying optimistic and idealistic, even when others have given up or become pragmatic. Legends don't settle for mediocrity; they keep pushing forward, even when the odds seem insurmountable.
5. The power of delayed gratification: Achieving great things often requires delayed gratification. Legends are willing to put in the work now, knowing that the rewards will come later. They're willing to make sacrifices and take risks, even when it's difficult or uncomfortable.
6. The importance of mental toughness: Legends have a mental toughness that allows them to overcome obstacles and setbacks. They're able to bounce back from failures and keep moving forward, even when others might give up.
7. The value of a growth mindset: Legends have a growth mindset, believing that their abilities and intelligence can be developed through dedication and hard work. They're not limited by their current circumstances or abilities; they see themselves as capable of growth and improvement.
8. The power of community and support: Legends often have a strong support system, whether it's a team, a mentor, or a community. They recognize the importance of surrounding themselves with people who believe in them and can help them achieve their goals.

To apply these lessons to your own life, try the following:

• Set clear, ambitious goals for yourself and create a plan to achieve them.
• Show up consistently and put in the effort required to achieve your goals.
• Stay optimistic and idealistic, even when faced with challenges and setbacks.
• Focus on the process, not just the outcome, and trust that your hard work will eventually lead to success.
• Surround yourself with people who support and believe in you.
• Embrace delayed gratification and be willing to make sacrifices for your goals.

Remember, achieving great things requires a combination of hard work, persistence, and mental toughness. By applying these lessons, you can increase your chances of success and become a legend in your own right.

life without continual acts of self-revision would be boring

Happy July 1st to all of us in Canada. We celebrate the birth of our country and how it has changed to be a more caring place. As a country, we have and continue to reinvent ourselves as we welcome new arrivals that add to our country's tapestry and find that exciting. As you enter retirement, consider the exciting possibility of reinventing yourself. What would life be without continual acts of self-revision? Embracing change can be the key to a fulfilling and dynamic retirement.

Our self-perceptions and aspirations, the narratives we craft about who we are and who we aspire to be, often anchor us to a fixed idea of ourselves. This “tyranny of completion” can be limiting. We tend to see ourselves as finished products but we are ever-evolving drafts, surprised by life's unexpected plot twists. We often cling to familiar thoughts and feelings, finding comfort in certainty, even when it narrows our understanding of our desires.

Retirement offers a unique opportunity to break free from these confines. While we may not always know what we want, being open to new experiences can lead to profound personal growth. This uncertainty can be daunting, but it also has the potential to enrich our lives in unimaginable ways.

If we can embrace the process of self-discovery and remain open to change, we can step into a more expansive and authentic life. Let retirement be a time of exploration and reinvention, where each new chapter brings growth, joy, and fulfillment.