Tribes.

I read in Sightings over 60 the blog post https://sightingsat60.blogspot.com/2023/11/how-not-to-be-cool.html and was struck by this statement in the blog, “So they asked me, is there a tribe where you say,  "Gee, I wish I could join that group."

The answer given was “The question made me chuckle. Because my answer is definitely: "No."

Groucho Marx once famously quipped, "I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member," a sentiment that echoes my own perspective. During my school days, I never identified with any particular group; I wasn't a star athlete (but I was a good one), an academic standout (although I placed on the honour roll usually three terms out of four), or part of the popular crowd but I had school friends. My social circles extended beyond the classroom. Outside of school, I spent weekends with another set of friends, all while maintaining a strong connection with my family, my primary tribe.

As I navigated through life, I, like all of us, found myself a member of various tribes—work groups, family units, recreational circles, and friendship networks. Interestingly, acceptance into these groups was often spontaneous, and I never felt the need to actively seek or maintain membership. Upon retirement, I experienced a shift in my tribal affiliations. Some connections were lost, but new tribes emerged.

In reflection, it seems that retirees, myself included, may find themselves part of multiple tribes. However, this concept isn't exclusive to retirees; throughout our lives, we naturally gravitate toward different tribes for various reasons. Personally, I've cultivated my golf group and connected with senior Board colleagues. Additionally, my wife and I have a circle of friends. These diverse tribes fulfill different aspects of my social and emotional needs, creating a rich tapestry of connections that enhance my overall sense of belonging and fulfillment. What tribe or tribes do you belong to now you have retired?