Advice to a younger man, (a tongue in cheek post)

 I recently read a post on Facebook about the advice given to young men, back in 1933 about What a Young Man Should Know. A checklist for becoming a proper man, published in the March 1933 issue of Harper’s Magazine.

The writer, Robert Littell, details the abilities, skills, accomplishments, and extra-curricular proficiencies that every man should have if they are to become a self-sufficient and well-rounded human being, ready for life, and eventually, marriage and raising their own children. The learning starts from a very young age.

For what it is worth, here is a tongue in cheek,  updated version of the advice from 1933, tailored for today's values and expectations:

Physical Skills:

Learn basic swimming skills for safety and fitness, but also respect others' comfort in the water.

Understand car maintenance basics, like changing a tire and recognizing common issues.

Focus on self-defence techniques that suit you, whether it's traditional martial arts or modern self-defence methods.

Know how to handle emergencies in outdoor settings, from basic first aid to survival skills.

Self-Care and Empathy:

Develop cooking skills for independence and enjoyment, acknowledging that cooking is a valuable life skill regardless of gender.

Learn to take care of others in emergencies, such as administering first aid or helping someone in distress.

Cultivate empathy and emotional intelligence, recognizing the importance of mental health and well-being.

Practical Knowledge:

Gain proficiency in using tools for DIY projects and home repairs.

Focus on effective communication, both in writing and speaking, with a balance between handwritten notes and digital communication.

Understand financial literacy, including budgeting, investing basics, and responsible consumption.

Hobbies and Interests:

Explore outdoor activities and sports that you enjoy, emphasizing personal fulfillment over societal expectations.

Develop a hobby or artistic skill, such as playing a musical instrument or engaging in creative pursuits.

Cultivate a love for learning, whether it's through language study, travel experiences, or exploring new cultures.

Social Skills and Citizenship:

Practice public speaking and effective communication in various settings.

Engage in community involvement and advocacy for causes you believe in, promoting active citizenship.

Foster adaptability and resilience, embracing change and growth opportunities.

This updated advice reflects a more inclusive and holistic approach to personal development, focusing on skills that are relevant and meaningful in today's diverse and dynamic world.

In the 1930s, advice regarding women often reflected traditional gender roles and expectations. However, modern values have shifted significantly, promoting equality, respect, and consent in relationships.

Respect and Equality:

In the past, advice may have emphasized chivalry and protection as central to interactions with women.

Today, the focus is on mutual respect, recognizing women as equals in all aspects of life, including work, relationships, and decision-making.

Communication and Consent:

Earlier advice may have overlooked the importance of clear communication and enthusiastic consent in relationships.

Modern advice stresses the importance of open communication, active listening, and obtaining consent in all interactions, especially in romantic and intimate relationships.

Supporting Independence:

Traditional advice might have encouraged men to be providers and protectors, often overshadowing women's autonomy and aspirations.

Contemporary advice promotes supporting women's independence, ambitions, and personal growth, fostering equal partnerships based on mutual support and encouragement.

Embracing Diversity:

Past advice often conformed to narrow stereotypes of femininity, excluding the diverse experiences and identities of women.

Current advice emphasizes embracing diversity, respecting individual differences, and advocating for inclusivity and equality for women of all backgrounds.

Rejecting Objectification:

Earlier guidance might have inadvertently perpetuated objectification of women, focusing on superficial attributes or roles.

Today, there is a strong emphasis on rejecting objectification, valuing women for their talents, intellect, and character, rather than solely their appearance or societal roles.

These shifts in advice reflect broader societal changes towards promoting gender equality, respect, and inclusivity, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships between men and women.