The Grasshopper, the Ant and the Trouble with Tomorrow

There is an old story about a grasshopper and an ant.

You probably know it, and told it to your children  and grandchildren, today I want to take a slightly different look at the fable.

All summer long, the grasshopper sings, dances and enjoys himself while the ant works away, storing food for the winter. When winter arrives, the grasshopper discovers that dancing doesn't put food on the table.

So, he goes to the ant for help.

The ant refuses.

The traditional moral is pretty straightforward: work hard, prepare for the future and don't expect somebody else to rescue you when the consequences of your choices arrive.

There is some wisdom in that.

I have spent enough years around seniors to know that preparing for the future matters. Saving money matters. Looking after your health matters. Building friendships matters. Having somewhere to live matters. Thinking about what you will do when you retire matters.

But I have always been troubled by the simple version of this story.

It seems to suggest that we have to choose.

Are you an ant or a grasshopper?

Do you work or do you play?

Do you prepare for tomorrow or enjoy today?

Perhaps the answer is: neither.

Or, more accurately, both.

The philosopher Bernard Suits took the Grasshopper story and turned it upside down. In his book The Grasshopper: Games, Life and Utopia, he uses the grasshopper to challenge the idea that work is automatically more valuable than play.

The argument is surprisingly uncomfortable.

We spend much of our lives working so that we can eventually have the freedom to do something else. We save money so that one day we can retire. We work to create leisure.

In other words, the ant may be working so that he can eventually become a grasshopper.

And there is something worth thinking about here, particularly for those of us who have entered retirement.

For years we were told to prepare for retirement.

Save.

Invest.

Pay off the mortgage.

Build a pension.

Look after your health.

Plan ahead.

All good advice.

But then retirement arrives and we discover that preparing for retirement is different from knowing how to live it.

You can spend forty years preparing for Saturday and then discover you don't know what to do when Saturday finally arrives.

I have met people who were incredibly successful at being ants. They worked hard, saved carefully and did everything they were told they should do.

Then they retired.

And they discovered that nobody had taught them how to be a grasshopper.

That is where games and play become important.

Play is not simply the opposite of work. Play is one of the ways we make sense of ourselves.

Think about a group of seniors sitting around a table playing cards. There may be laughter, teasing, arguments about the rules and somebody insisting that everyone else is cheating.

It looks like a game.

But something much more important is happening.

People are talking.

They are remembering.

They are competing.

They are laughing.

They are belonging.

The game has become a reason to be together.

That is why I worry when we treat play as something frivolous, something we should have grown out of when we became adults.

We haven't.

We still need it.

Perhaps especially as we grow older.

The grasshopper and the ant are not enemies. They are two parts of a balanced life.

The ant reminds us that tomorrow matters.

The grasshopper reminds us that today matters.

The ant says, "Put something aside."

The grasshopper says, "Don't put everything aside."

The ant says, "Think about winter."

The grasshopper says, "It is summer now."

Wisdom may be knowing when to listen to each of them.

There is another lesson hidden in the story.

We should be careful about judging people whose lives look different from ours.

The grasshopper may be irresponsible. Or perhaps he understands something the ant has forgotten.

The ant may be responsible. Or perhaps she is so busy preparing for tomorrow that she has forgotten to live today.

Most of us are somewhere in between.

We work. We save. We plan.

And we also dance, play cards, read books, go fishing, play golf, visit friends, listen to music and tell stories.

That is not a failure of discipline.

That is life.

The older I get, the more convinced I am that the goal isn't to become a perfect ant or a perfect grasshopper.

It is to know when to work, when to prepare and when to put down the tools and enjoy the afternoon.

Winter will come.

It always does.

But that is precisely why we should appreciate summer.

The lesson isn't simply to prepare for winter.

It is to make sure that, while preparing for winter, we don't miss the summer.