4. There’s a link between kindness and well-being
It probably won’t surprise you to learn that people who regularly receive
lots of acts of kindness have higher levels of well-being. But the study also found
that people who carry out more kind acts or even just notice that other people are
carrying out kind acts also have higher levels of well-being on average. This fits
in with lots of previous research showing that acting kindly makes us feel good.
5. Extroverts give
and receive more kindness
Personality had a big impact on how often people said they are kind to others,
but also on how kind people are to them. A personality scale was included in The
Kindness Test and the people who were kindest were more likely to score high on
extroversion, and also on agreeableness and openness. People who score high on openness
are imaginative and curious and like having new experiences.
Of course, these are averages,
so you can be quiet and not keen on new experiences, but still be very kind!
6. People see more
acts of kindness at home than anywhere else
When we asked people where kindness takes place, the home came top, followed
by medical settings, the workplace, green spaces and shops. The places where people
saw the fewest kind acts were online, on public transport and in the street.
The good news was that people generally agreed that kindness was valued at
work, especially in social work, healthcare, hospitality and education.
7. Women carry out
slightly more kind acts on average and so do people who are religious
Of course, we have to rely on self-reports in this study, so there is a possibility
that women and religious people feel that they ought to say that they are kind in
order to look good. But plenty of people are prepared to admit they’re not very generous,
for example, and previous studies have shown that we are quite good at judging our
own levels of kindness. So, I’m inclined to take people at their word.
8. We worry about
our offers of kindness being misinterpreted
People were asked what might stop them from being kind and the top reason
they gave was that they were afraid their actions might be misinterpreted. People
also said that they didn’t have enough time to be as kind as they’d like to be, and
half said social media played a part in stopping them from being kinder.
9. People who talk
to strangers see and receive more kindness
What’s interesting about this one, is that this difference between those
who do and don’t talk to strangers, persisted even when personality was considered.
So, it’s not just that extroverts are more likely to be kind and also, because
they’re extroverts, more likely to talk to strangers. Whatever personality you have,
the more you talk to strangers, then on average the more kindness you receive, but
also the more kindness you notice going on around you.
10. Income makes little
difference to how kind people are
How much money people
earn had zero correlation with overall reports of being kind. But we did also ask
people to imagine they had received an unexpected windfall of £850 and how much
of it they might give away. While some were honest enough to say none of it, the
average amount people said they would give away was £252. People with the lowest
incomes tended to say they would give away lower amounts on average, which makes
sense because they could least afford to, but interestingly the people with the
highest incomes also gave away the least.