Showing posts with label time passages. Show all posts
Showing posts with label time passages. Show all posts

Monday, July 11, 2022

Time perspective 2

 “It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.” ― Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy

Zimbardo identified five key approaches to time perspective. These are:

The ‘past-negative’ type. You focus on negative personal experiences that still have the power to upset you. This can lead to feelings of bitterness and regret. The mind does not cover the pain with scar tissue, so the pain is still raw.

The ‘past-positive’ type. You take a nostalgic view of the past and stay in very close contact with your family. You tend to have happy relationships, but the downside is a cautious, “better safe than sorry” approach which may hold you back. The wound remains and over time you are protected by the scar tissue, and you can bear the pain with grace.

The ‘present-hedonistic’ type. You are dominated by pleasure-seeking impulses, and are reluctant to postpone feeling good for the sake of greater gain later. You are popular but tend to have a less healthy lifestyle and take more risks. The pain is driven away by time and your ability to ignore the event that caused you the pain.

The ‘present-fatalistic’ type. You aren’t enjoying the present but feel trapped in it, unable to change the inevitability of the future. This sense of powerlessness can lead to anxiety, depression and risk-taking. The sense of powerlessness causes them to rip off the scars that are being formed to protect them from the pain.

The ‘future-focused’ type. You are highly ambitious, focused on goals, and big on making ‘to do’ lists. You tend to feel a nagging sense of urgency that can create stress for yourself and those around you. Your investment in the future can come at the cost of close relationships and recreation time. The passage of time and your ambition cause you to drive the pain underground so over time it becomes dull and can be ignored.

All five types come into play in our lives at some point, but there probably will be one or two directions in which you are more focused. Identify these and you can start developing a more flexible, healthier approach.

Balance and positivity come from understanding our time perspective and finding positive and healthy ways to appreciate the present, while living in the present and making plans for our future. But how easily we time travel in our time perspective makes a crucial difference to how well we do in life and how happy we are while we’re living it.

 

Sunday, July 10, 2022

Time Perspective 1

 Live for each second without hesitation. Elton John

As humans, we know the future is a promise and may not happen. The past cannot be changed. We live in the moment. Actually, I think Science tells us that we all have a different understanding of time. So that my understanding of time and Elton John’s understanding of time are not the same.

As we go through life, we time traveler: We are shaped by memories of the past that influence our understanding of the present and help predict what we see in our future. Scientists call this our time-perspective. We all know those who tend to get stuck in the past, and others who live only for the moment, or are enslaved by our ambitions for the future.

Stanford University psychology professor emeritus Philip Zimbardo coined the idea of time perspective. After more than ten years’ research, he concluded that our attitude toward time is just as defining as key personality traits such as optimism or sociability. He believes that time perspective influences many of our judgements, decisions, and actions.

Culture, upbringing and societal norms affect our understanding of time and help shape our time perspective. Individualistic, me-focused societies tend to be future-focused, while more we-focused societies ones that encourage social engagement invest more in the past. Poorer communities tend to live more in the present.

Scientists tell us that we can learn to shift our attention easily between the past, present and future, and consciously adapt our mindset to any given situation. Learning to switch time perspectives allows us to fully take part in everything we do, whether it’s a relaxed evening reading a good book or recalling old stories with family and friends.