Baby Boomers Coping with Middle-Age Crisis

Kids love having birthday parties. Their parties are usually filled with games, great food, clowns, gifts, and many more. Celebrating ones birthday is an important occasion that should not be forgotten. You can't remain as a child forever though. As years pass, you will grow older. With older people, celebrating their birthday is different. Another year will again be added to their age, and this thought can be creepy to some individuals.

When a person turns 40, he is already in his mid-life. There is this phrase which says 'life begins at 40'. Although to some it may be true, others have different experiences. People who enjoy life even past their forties were able to overcome their fears of aging. But those less fortunate are having troubles in living a meaningful life. 

When one enters midlife, he must be able to cope with drastic changes in life. These changes are inevitable, and all people will go through this stage. He should be able to deal with mortality issues and aging which are but natural aspects in being human. If you can't cope up with the change, you're bound to suffer a major shock in your life. And this will not only affect you as an individual, but also your family.

When baby boomers were young, they didn't trust older people. But now that they have reached the midlife age, what do they have to say? People mature, and so did the baby boomers. They have long realized that life is not about having fun at all times but also living a meaningful life which can contribute to the improvement of the society he belongs in. The ages 40 to 60 are considered part of midlife, and many people undergo a midlife crisis when they reach this stage in their life, and baby boomers are not exempted from this change.

You may freak out as you face the mirror, and you will start to notice your thinning hair, flabby skin, facial lines, and other aging signs. Almost every person wants to look good, and the least things that they want to see are aging signs. Many people are not yet ready to face this fact, and they still want to believe that they are still desirable and young. Acceptance of the situation can be very hard for them. But this should not be; youthfulness will not last long so you might as well enjoy while you have it. Time will come when you will start aging and you can't do anything about it. Even if you try to use anti-aging products, you're still getting old. 

A lot of married couples are having difficulty during this time, even the baby boomers. The situation is even worse if both of them can't cope with their aging. Another change is in their emotional needs, and their behavior. They will likely end up in a crisis that may lead to divorce. This is true especially if one partner has found acceptance and love from another person.

Not all married baby boomer couples end up with divorce. There are also those who have a strong marriage foundation and are able to cope with the changes. Statistics show that only about twenty to twenty five percent of couples in their midlife suffer from any crisis. And the rest are taking the situation lightly, as if nothing has changed.

Being in your midlife is not an excuse to exhibit wrongful behavior. If you're in a crisis right now, your option is putting your life on the right track again or turning to another direction. It would all depend entirely on you; but you should also be aware that it is not you alone who suffers from this situation, but also your love ones.

Upon entering middle age, you should be able to recognize mortality. You should deal with sags, wrinkles, bags, graying hair, balding, weight gain, and death of relatives or friends. This is indeed a tough time for you; but life should not end there. If you can successfully cope up with the situation, life will and can go on.

Baby boomers love challenges in life. They are quite aggressive and as they finally reach their midlife, they will start to live a meaningful and productive life.  

Baby Boomers and Retirement Communities

"Old age" was never in the vocabulary of the boomer retirees. They live under a creed of despising the aging process throughout their history. Born as activists questioning everything, they combat inevitable aging and dispose antiquated retirement concepts embraced by their parents. Instead, boomers give more attention on how they are going to lace up rollerblades, download in their iPod's, or skate into sophisticated, hip energetic adult communities. They called this as lifestyle communities created all over the country to cater to their whim. 

The previous architecture director of Del Webb Corporation, Bill Parks foresees that the approaching great numbers of boomers retirees would delight and bewilder many developers. For a less period of time, adult communities will be springing up meeting the needs of active adults. 

There are over 1,200 adult communities all over the country and some are on the stages of planning. The underlying purpose of building such communities remains constant. To give a place for empty nesters to rationalize after their kids leave them. The location, ambiance, size, and amenities are great, too far from what had already existed. 

Home builders consider this as a very big trend. The senior housing councils for the National Association of Home Builders, Jeff Jenkins, announced that after the first set of age-qualified boomers availed more than 55 communities, it staggered the impacts since 2001. Boomers aged 55 years old and above accounted for about 1/5 (207,000) of the 1.1 million purchases of new homes in 2003. The adult active market accounted for approximately 51 billion dollars of sales in new homes. This is the main reason why adult communities are springing up in all places. 

The generation of World War II in fact invented the retirement standard of living in various ways. They outlived their work and accumulated significant wealth to enjoy their golden years. Their prospective places are Florida, California and Arizona due to its sunny weather with a handy golf course and pool and a country club or community center where they could establish their new social functions. 

However, the boomers have a different viewpoint according to the CEO and founder of ICAA (International Council on Active Aging) Colin Milner. ICAA is an adult active advocacy organization in British Columbia, particularly Vancouver.  

Baby boomers have acquired so many life experiences that will soon be reflected in their adult communities. The only difference is that they have adopted what they have learned. Take for example fitness issues. Boomers parents didn't incorporate fitness in their lifestyle considering it as a boring routine. So, the entire exercise trend was started by the baby boomers. It is not a turnoff for them because they have accessed it throughout their lives. Therefore, adopting it in their adult communities as a part of their lifestyle is not a big deal. Developers are creating adult communities reflecting their rich baby boomers history.

The major difference between the retirement villages of the first generation and adult active communities is location. Numerous surveys reveal surprising results. 2 out of 3 boomers wanted to live 100 miles away from where they lived and worked. The reason that motivated boomers to moving further does not mainly lie on the type of weather. But they chase their friends and family who have transferred in that location.

The phenomenon called as stay-at-home caught some developers off guard. They never realized that one day the resort-style adult communities near main urban centers will become lesser in demand. The Midwest and Northwest location was once the best seller. During the mid-90s one half of such communities are situated in Sunbelt. Washington D.C is not a very popular retirement location however there are dozens of adult active communities available wherein some people never believe it is possible. Today, three fourths of these communities are not within Sunbelt anymore. The price ranges 150,000 dollars and above for a town home having two bedrooms and two baths.

The boomers generation has been separated from its Me Generation. For ill or good, the history's largest generation changes the faces of everything on the path they once lived. They exchange health care from entertainment, investing from childbirth, and education from fitness. It will hold no surprise that boomer retirees will reinvent the entire retirement village.  Boomers regardless of their age still continue to make changes. 

Be Prepared for Your Death

When babies are born, their families rejoice and are quite overjoyed. Their parents are always there to guide them and attend to their needs. As they grow old, they are capable of doing things on their own, and some of them even choose to leave their homes for greener pastures. When they finally find a good job, they can take care of all their expenses.

Life is full of surprises, and it is very much unpredictable. Many people die every day; are you prepared for it? You can't say that you'll die at this age because who knows, after an hour or a second you may die.

As babies are born in this world, they come with a cost. Their parents have to pay for their hospital bills and other medications. And when people finally rest in peace, their families will still have to spend money for their funeral. 

When a person dies, his or her family is sad because they lost a loved one. And sometimes, the burden is even more felt if they don't have enough money to spend for the funeral. This is one reason why a person should be prepared for death.

Although a lot of people are scared by the thought of death, you shouldn't be that way. You should be prepared and start living a good life for other people to remember you. Baby boomers should start preparing for this event because for the next years to come, for they will be the ones to face this reality.

The years 1946 to 1964 were also the years of increased births. During these years, baby boomers were born. The US government is expecting the death rate to increase between the current years and will continue until 2035. It can reach as high as 3.5 million annually, an increase of about 50% of the death rate in the US alone.

As baby boomers reach their timeline, they are about to face the final fact of life. All living things must end, and man is no exception. Because of the new technology in the medical profession, many baby boomers' lives were extended or postponed. But now, it's inevitable.

Perhaps, families of baby boomers are not yet ready. Even the entire population may not be ready to face massive deaths of baby boomers. Not one is interested, but their lives are slipping through even if they don't want it that way.

Seldom can you find couples talking about death? In fact, statistics have shown that many people don't have the courage to speak about their death. They find it hard to discuss matters about death on a more personal level. But death is an occurrence that all people must face and deal with.

The family of the baby boomers should be prepared to make the final arrangements. And this has nothing to do with hotel reservations. The final arrangements pertain to the funeral, cremation or cemetery burial of their loved ones.

Baby boomers probably know that by now, and they are preparing for their final trip. They came into the world and their generation was highly noted in history because of their large number. And now, they will again make a history, only now, they would be parting this world.

Most Boomers want to be prepared. Typical examples are insurance plans and educational plans. Final arrangements are now widely acceptable in the society. In fact, there are those who plan for their burial.

You have to overcome your fear. And baby boomers are quite known to be strong individuals. So there is no need to be scared now that you're in the last stages of your battle in life.   
If you've made your final arrangements, then you're family and loved ones will not have many problems during the funeral. They will be able to spend the remaining hours by your side until you're finally taken to your final destination. 

When baby boomers were still in their youth, they didn't want to grow old. Funny right, but guess what, a lot of the baby boomers are now ageing. And now that they're old, they can't do anything about it. The last thing they can do is to prepare for the coming of death.    

Should you assist adult children 1

My thanks to A Satisfying Retirement for the idea. When I was growing up, my grandfather helped his children (my mom, and her brother and sister)  many times by unexpected gifts of money. The money he gave, I believe helped my parents buy their first home. So the idea of helping family is not new to me or to my family.

My brother in law helped his new adopted daughter by taking in and raising her two children from about age one, when she was unable to cope.   I have helped my son and daughter when they have called on us, which is not that often. I have a friend who helps his adult children by taking care of his grandchildren about 35 hours a week when the parents are working. He loves it, but the children are young and it is taking a toll on his energy and his health.

The  issue of helping adult children either with cash or time is a concern for many of us. The Australian government did a report on this issue and some of the information is interesting:

Researchers in the United States have found that a third of children under the age of six receive up to 10 hours of care a week and that 47% of all grandparents with grandchildren (under 13 years) living nearby provide some childcare (Guzman, 2004). Although more grandmothers (54%) provided child care it was found that grandfathers (38%) also made a significant contribution. 

In the United Kingdom it has been estimated that up to half of working parents rely on grandparent care for their children. It was also found that although grandparents were prepared to provide some child care, and at times even reduced their working hours to provide it, they did not want to give up their jobs (Mooney, Statham, & Simon, 2002; Phillips, Bernard, & Chittenden, 2002).

Like my friend, who is experiencing health concerns, Grandparents bringing up grandchildren also experience changes in their own lifestyle, health and well-being. The following are issues of concern to grandparents in these circumstances:

• isolation from friends and peers because they are not free to take part in activities with their own age group;
• friends and family may not help them out because they do not understand the situation;
• fewer opportunities to enjoy and indulge their grandchildren because they are responsible for discipline and other parenting tasks;
• affects on health due to the additional work and stress involved in caring for often difficult children and they may neglect their own health; and
• being tired and overworked (Fitzpatrick, 2004; Jendrek, 1993).

Providing extensive care for grandchildren has also been linked with a higher level of depression and other declines in the health of grandparents such as increased risk of coronary heart disease, even after taking into account the effects of age (Lee, Colditz, Berkman & Kawachi, 2003; Minkler & Fuller-Thompson, 1999). Grandparents who are parenting grandchildren are less optimistic about the future than other grandparents. They worry about their own health and what will happen to the grandchildren if they die or become incapacitated. Many grandparents worry about money, and how they will make ends meet as the grandchildren get older and their daily expenses are greater.  

We all want to help our children, if we can, but there is a price to be paid for that help. If we understand some of the risks of helping to us, then we are in a better position to make a decision that is best for us and best for our children. In the next post, I will outline some of the resources, from the Australian report, for grandparents who have taken on the responsibility of raising a grandchild.