Could, woulda, shoulda

I was thinking the other day about life and I thought, when you think about life is amazing. I also think most people suspect that their approach to life is dead-on. But if asked I think that most of us can't think of anything we have ever done that we would have done differently if you had the wisdom you have now.

Well, is that true for you? I know that with wisdom comes the reality that I coulda, woulda, shoulda, done a whole list of things differently if I had only known. I bet many of us realize this as we reflect on our past. There is an old saying, “ If wishes were horses, beggars would ride", which is an English language proverb and nursery rhyme, first recorded about 1628 in a collection of Scottish proverbs. It suggests if wishing could make things happen, then even the most destitute people would have everything they wanted.

The same could be said for the coulda, woulda, shoulda thoughts we have about what we would change. The way we lived, the challenges we faced made us the person we are today. However, maybe you should think about visualizing more. Seeing the end result in all its glorious detail, bypassing the cursed how’s, and feeling the emotions you expect to feel.

Hey, we have more time and maybe, just maybe we can continue to learn as life is complicated but good.

Helping out

Life is full of opportunities to help others. But we do not believe that we can change things, but we can. If you think back on your life, there isn't a moment in any day, when someone, somewhere, isn't better off because of something you've done. It is not the big things in life that we do that other people hold in their hearts, it is the little things. Remembering a person’s name, or their birthday. Taking the time to recognize someone who serves you, in the restaurant, or the café or on the bus. 

I was riding the bus the other day, something I don’t do often and I was struck by the little things the riders did to make the drivers feel special. At every stop, when a passenger disembarked from the bus, the passenger to a person, turned to the driver and said thank you. A small gesture, but I watched the drivers face and every time he heard his passenger say thank you, I saw him smile. The passengers may not have known what they were doing as a collective, but by the end of my travels, the bus driver appeared to be floating on air. 

When I was in Australia, I took a bus down the Morningstar Peninsula, on a regular basis and I noticed that from time to time, the driver would stop and wait at a station. I asked why, and the driver said to me, “ I have passengers who rely on this bus, and if they miss the bus, they will be late for work or getting home. It is ok if I am a bit late, but I never want to arrive at my stops early because some people may miss the bus if I am early.”

Small things that make a person feel special, the bus driver appreciated the needs of his passengers and he went out of his way to make sure those needs were met.  We are the same, it is the little things we do, that we do not realize how important these are to the people we interact with, and if we did, we would probably be embarrassed because we do not value the small things we do, but others do and did.

And no matter what you do, or don't do, with the rest of your life, you cannot now comprehend the amounts of love, joy, and personal assistance that are already being pressed out to you in gratitude. 

In gratitude

There isn't a moment in any day,, when someone, somewhere, isn't better off because of something you've done.

And no matter what you do, or don't do, with the rest of your life, you cannot now comprehend the amounts of love, joy, and personal assistance that are already being pressed out to you in gratitude. 

Must be nice

Bad golf, even the pro's have a bad day

My friends and I just finished a week of golf in the interior of BC. We had fun but we also had some days that you wish you could do over. This video shows us that as duffers we are not alone when we have a bad golf game. Enjoy.