The secret is

Don't let anyone tell you that you have no power or no influence or that what you do or say does not matter. We all have personal power. No matter what is going on in our lives, we are the heroes/heroines of our own life story. We can be the heroes or heroines we thought we would be when we were ten. The secret is that no matter where we go in time or space, we only ever have to be ourselves. We can be as courageous, vulnerable, bold, or afraid as we may feel. 

There are always those who may want to destroy you and your dreams, but for most of us, we live within a tribe that we can call on for protection. We find ourselves amongst friends 99% of the time. We are so loved by our friends in our tribe that we can feel safe and secure.

But to be the true heroes and heroines of our story we need to take the love we feel from within our tribe, our friends and share it amongst those we do not know yet and who are not members of our group or tribe. Once we learn how to share the love and treat others as we want to be treated, we can become true artists of our lives. True artists live by the golden rule. The golden rule is how almost all of us aspire to behave and a variation of it is stated in just about every ancient writing (including the New Testament, Talmud, Koran, and the Analects of Confucius). 

Among the earliest appearances in English is Earl Rivers' translation of a saying of Socrates in 1477: “Do to others as thou wouldst they should do to thee, and do to none other but as thou wouldst be done to.” It is so well known that it is often shortened to Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.