Showing posts with label New years resolutions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label New years resolutions. Show all posts

Friday, December 31, 2021

HAPPY NEW YEAR

Today is the first day of the new year for my family and friends in Australia and New Year's Eve day for the rest of us. My wish is that you have a happy, healthful, and joyful 2022 filled with love, friends and family. This is also the time of year for New Years Resolutions, which for many are broken by the end of January. However, hope springs eternal in us. So, here are some simple changes or resolutions you can make that will help you have a happy, health and joyful 2022

Some good healthy habits you can start implementing today that are not too hard to keep are:

·   Drink water throughout the day. You can carry a water bottle with you to make it easier.

·   Eat plenty of whole foods such as vegetables throughout the day.

·   Ditch the sugar and junk food or at least cutback

Saturday, January 2, 2021

New Years Resolutions 2

 Now, here is where the visualizing gets serious. Your thoughts if you think them over and over, and assign truth to them, become beliefs. Beliefs create a cognitive lens through which you interpret the events of your world and this lens serves as a selective filter through which you sift the environment for evidence that matches up with what you believe to be true.

 So, when you understand "thoughts become things," you visualize, and you begin saying and doing things, every day, that you've never said or done before, the onslaught of serendipities and coincidences are immeasurable, and this is to be expected.

 This is because of the brain's selective filtering system, often referred to as priming. When your brain is primed by a certain belief to look for something, it shuts down competing neural networks, so you have a hard time seeing evidence to the contrary of an already existing belief. That’s why people who are optimistic have an optimistic view of the world. It’s also why we are so convinced that our view of the world is the “truth.” What most people don’t realize is we are participating in creating our own version of the truth.

What you take in from the environment through your belief filter becomes your self-concept. Your self-concept is made up of “I am” beliefs about who you are presently, and “I can” beliefs about who you are capable of being in the future. From these “I am” and “I can” statements we create stories and narratives about who we are, that we tell ourselves and other people all day long. Some examples are I am not good enough, I am not lovable, I can not do it, I am smart, I am capable, I can achieve my goals. Remember you are the main character in your story and you write the script based on your self-concept that is self-created.

 You write the story of what you think is likely and/or possible based on what you believe is true and then you take actions consistent with those expectations. When we act on what we expect will happen before it happens, we participate in creating the experience. For example, if you don’t have a positive self-concept and you fear rejection when you go to a job interview, you are not likely to present your best self by acting calm and self-confident; you are likely to be anxious and act in a way that is more likely to result in rejection. Hence, the self-fulfilling prophecy. We act in ways likely to bring about what we believe is true. That is the very definition of creating your reality.

Every day we are participating in creating our reality whether we know it or not. There is nothing magical or woo-woo about it. It is simply the way our brains operate. When we deny, reject, or are unaware of this, then we have little power and will feel like the victim of our life. But with awareness comes choice. When we start to understand the process and make it work for us, we are empowered to be in charge of the life we create.

What we do control is how you think and feel, and what we subsequently do about those uncontrollable events—that is how we shape and create our life. There are always people who thrive in times of crisis. Is it because they are lucky? Most likely it is because they choose to see opportunity as opposed to a disadvantage.

Since it is your life, and no one else will ever be as invested in it as you, it’s probably at least worth trying to change it for the positive. As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.”

 

Friday, January 1, 2021

New Year's Resolutions 1

Cognitive Science tells us that we create and to some extent control our reality. I say to some extent because there are things that we things we can control, and things over which we have no control and, in the middle, there are things that we can influence.

We cannot control the many random events of life. The world is a chaotic place. We don’t control the families we were born into, earthquakes, pandemics, the death of loved ones, fires, and random car accidents. We have slight control over things like health and illness, and if perhaps some control over our job and if we will or won’t be laid off.

We influence other living things with our actions. If you walk into a room, see a stranger sitting there, you can make a decision to smile, and say how, or frown, scowl and look at the stranger with anger and malice. How the person responds depends on how you act, and you influence their behaviour on your own. If you smile, you may be met with a smile in return. If you look angry you may be met by a suspicious look or a surprised look. The reality is that you don’t determine how that person responds. That person could decide to run away, turn the other cheek, and smile or look at you angrily as well. We influence others by our behaviour.

What we control, and where we really start to create our reality, is in how we perceive/interpret/think about the events in our life that generate our feelings about those events, and how we subsequently respond with our behaviour.  Just as you cannot control the thoughts or actions of others, no one can choose your thoughts or actions; those are yours alone. 

You can expect unusual phenomena to show in your life about 2% more often, simply by understanding that your thoughts become the things and events of your life. You can expect wonders to manifest about 25% more often when you not only learn this but also visualize at least several times a week. This is how you can actually complete the new year's resolutions you made this year.