The Joy of Growing Older, Part Three: Breaking Free, Embracing the Joy of Being a Senior

In a world that constantly tells us to look younger, act younger, and even think younger, it’s no surprise that many older adults feel pressured to hide their age. But aging isn’t a problem to fix, it’s a life to celebrate.

In the first two parts of this series, I explored how Baby Boomers, Generation X, and Millennials have all been shaped by the culture of youth. I looked at how that mindset can hold people back from fully enjoying the gifts of aging.

No I am flipping the script. It’s time to let go of outdated ideals and reclaim aging as a time of growth, freedom, and joy.

Unlearning the Myths: Aging Is Not Fading

The myth that aging equals decline is everywhere. It's in the ads that sell us “anti-aging” creams, the sitcom jokes about memory loss, and the stereotypes that suggest older adults are out of touch. These messages are powerful, but they’re also deeply misleading.

Aging doesn’t make you invisible. It doesn’t make you less valuable. In fact, it often brings deeper insight, stronger emotional resilience, and a clearer sense of what really matters.

The first step toward joy in aging is unlearning the myth that getting older means fading away. The truth? It can be your time to shine.

Challenge Internalized Ageism

Unfortunately, it’s not just society that sees aging through a negative lens, we sometimes absorb those views ourselves.

You may have found yourself thinking:

“I’m too old to try that.”

“People don’t want to hear from someone my age.”

“I’m not physically able to do what I used to do, so I’m no good.”

These aren’t harmless thoughts. They can quietly shape how we see ourselves, how we interact with others, and how much we believe we still have to offer.

But these thoughts aren’t facts. They’re reflections of a culture that places too much value on youth. Try replacing them with questions like:

“What can I still enjoy and explore?”

“Who could benefit from my experience?”

“What’s something I’ve always wanted to try?”

The joy of aging starts with giving yourself permission to value who you are right now, not just who you used to be.

The Perks of Growing Older

Let’s not forget aging comes with real advantages. Many seniors talk about:

Freedom from the pressure to impress or compete.

Deeper relationships with family and friends.

Time to focus on passions, hobbies, travel, or volunteering.

Confidence in their values and decisions, having lived through ups and downs.

There’s something uniquely satisfying about reaching a stage in life where you can say, “This is who I am, and I like this version of me.”

Rewriting the Narrative

If the world won’t change the story of aging, let’s write a new one ourselves.

Speak positively about your age.

Talk openly about your age, not as something to hide, but as something to be proud of. Have these conversations with other seniors and with younger people, too. You might be surprised how interested younger adults are in your experiences, if you give them the chance. A simple, “I’ve learned so much since turning 70,” can spark a whole new way of seeing aging, for you and for them.

Share stories of senior joy and purpose.

You’ve likely had moments of growth, humor, or even reinvention as you’ve aged. Share those stories, with friends, family, community groups, or even online. Unsure where to start? Try something like:

“One thing I never expected to enjoy so much at this age is…”

“After retiring, I finally had time to…”

Stories help shift public perceptions, but they also remind you of your journey, your strength, and your spark.

Surround yourself with people (and media) that value aging.

Spend time with those who uplift and understand the value of aging. Seek out books, shows, and podcasts that reflect older adults as whole people, not punchlines.

But don’t avoid everyone who hasn’t caught up yet. If someone claims to value aging but still makes ageist remarks or jokes, consider it a teaching moment. You don’t need to lecture, just live your truth with confidence. Model what vibrant aging looks like. Sometimes, that’s the most powerful message of all.

Living Out Loud, At Any Age

Aging doesn’t mean shrinking. It means growing into the person you’ve always been becoming.

You’ve earned your wisdom. You’ve weathered storms. You’ve gathered stories, skills, and perspectives that the world needs. And now, you get to choose how you show up.

Whether it’s through mentoring, painting, hiking, dancing, or simply savoring a quiet cup of tea, your joy is valid, visible, and vital.

Final Thought

·        You don’t have to pretend to be younger than you are.

·        You don’t have to apologize for aging.

·        You don’t have to fade quietly into the background.

·        You get to live out loud, with purpose and pride.

·        Aging with joy is the new revolution, and you’re invited.

The Joy of Growing Older – Part One: How We Got Here – The Rise of the Culture of Youth

Take a moment and picture the last advertisement you saw about aging. Was it promoting wrinkle creams? Fitness programs to help you “look ten years younger”? Or maybe a lifestyle brand promising to keep you “forever young”? These messages are everywhere, and they’ve been shaping our attitudes for generations.

It’s no secret that many people feel pressure to stay young, or at least to appear young. And for Baby Boomers in particular, that pressure has deep roots. Understanding where this culture of youth came from is the first step in freeing ourselves from it, and making space to truly enjoy the gifts of aging.

The Birth of a Youth-Obsessed Culture

Baby Boomers, born between 1946 and 1964, grew up in a post-war world full of optimism, opportunity, and innovation. It was a time of cultural transformation: rock and roll, television, fast cars, and civil rights movements. Boomers came of age believing they could change the world, and in many ways, they did.

But this generation also ushered in something new: a cultural obsession with youth.

As the first true "teenagers," we were marketed to like never before. Entire industries were built around our youthful desires, fashion, music, beauty, fitness. And the message was clear: being young was not just a phase of life; it was a brand, a status, even a virtue.

The Fight Against Aging

This youth-centered mindset didn’t fade as we got older. Instead, many of us carried it forward as we aged. Aging, once seen as a natural part of life, began to feel like something to resist or avoid. Staying “forever young” became the goal.

From cosmetic surgery to anti-aging creams, from coloring grey hair to adopting the latest health fads, the fight to stay young has become a full-time job for many. And while there’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel healthy, active, or confident, the pressure to maintain a youthful image can be exhausting, and even isolating.

The Cost of Denying Age

What happens when we try to erase the signs of aging? Often, we begin to erase parts of ourselves, our stories, our wisdom, our confidence. We hide behind phrases like “I’m still young at heart” or “age is just a number,” when what we really mean is: “I’m not ready to be seen as old.”

But here’s the truth: there’s nothing wrong with being older.

Growing older doesn’t mean becoming less vibrant, less curious, or less important. In fact, age can be a gateway to deeper purpose, stronger relationships, and a better understanding of who we are.

A New Way Forward

What if we stopped trying to hold on to youth, and started embracing the beauty of becoming older? What if we gave ourselves permission to enjoy this phase of life, not despite our age, but because of it?

We can shift the narrative. We can take pride in being seniors. And we can show younger generations that aging isn’t something to fear, it’s something to look forward to.

🟢 Coming Next: Gen X and Millennials, Inheriting the Myth of Forever Young

I will take a closer look at how the next two generations have responded to the culture of youth, and how they're starting to carve out their own relationship with aging.

Sharing the Light — Creativity as Connection and Legacy

Creativity doesn’t just change how we see ourselves — it also changes how we connect with others. When you share your creative spark, whether it's through music, stories, gardening, or simply the way you show up in a room, you’re offering something deeply personal. That’s what makes it so powerful.

Many older adults worry about becoming invisible, about their experiences and contributions being overlooked. Creativity is a way to say, “I’m still here. I still matter.” Whether you're reading stories to children at a library, crafting handmade cards for neighbours, or leading a local art group, your creativity becomes part of your legacy.

And here’s the beauty of it — creativity attracts others. It sparks conversations, builds friendships, and brings generations together. You might find yourself mentoring someone younger or being inspired by someone older. Age becomes less about the number and more about the exchange.

Think of creativity as a lifeline — not just to your past, but to your future. It helps replace those old, tired narratives of decline with a vibrant, evolving story of who you are becoming.

So ask yourself: What have I always wanted to do but never tried? What brings me joy and makes me feel alive? And then go do it. Share it. Live it. You’re not too old. You’re right on time.

Reclaiming Control and Purpose through Creativity

One of the biggest shifts in retirement is the change in routine and identity. For decades, your job, your role as a parent, or your place in the community may have given you a sense of purpose. When those roles begin to change or fade, it’s natural to feel adrift.

This is where creativity becomes more than a pastime — it becomes a tool to regain a sense of control and direction. Baby boomers, in particular, grew up shaping the world around them. That drive hasn’t gone anywhere. Creativity gives you the opportunity to continue shaping your life on your terms.

Maybe you've always dreamed of trying woodworking, painting, or performing in a local theater production. Maybe you want to teach a class or start a blog. Or maybe it’s something as simple and powerful as starting each day by writing down three good things. These acts can add meaning and structure to your day and remind you of the value you bring to the world.

And here’s a secret: creativity also supports brain health. Like any muscle, your brain thrives on stimulation. Trying new things, solving problems, and expressing yourself can actually help keep your mind sharp and your spirit light.

Even if it’s been years since you’ve created something, now is the perfect time to start. Not because you have to prove anything, but because you deserve to feel the joy of doing something just for you.

Creativity Isn’t a Gift — It’s a Choice You Make

When most people think of creativity, they picture an artist painting at an easel or a musician composing a new song. But creativity isn’t just about producing art. It’s about engaging with the world in ways that feel meaningful and fulfilling. It's about seeing possibilities instead of limitations.

Many people don’t think of themselves as “creative.” Maybe someone told you that as a child, or maybe you’ve been too busy with work and family to explore that part of yourself. But here’s the truth: creativity isn’t a talent some people are born with. It’s a mindset that can be nurtured at any age.

Maybe it’s writing a short poem in the morning, singing along with your favorite music, or planting something beautiful in the garden. It might mean trying a new recipe, posting daily reflections on social media, or teaching others a skill you've always enjoyed. All of it counts.

Choosing to be creative in later life can help shift the narrative we carry about aging. When you engage in something creative, you remind yourself — and others — that growth and discovery don’t stop just because you’ve retired. In fact, many people find that retirement is when their creativity truly begins to bloom.

Feeling rusty or unsure? That’s okay. You don’t have to be perfect — you just have to be willing to try. Let creativity be a quiet act of rebellion against the notion that older adults should step aside. Start small, be consistent, and most of all, be kind to yourself.

Ageing in Place: Intellectual Wellness

 Aging in place with grace involves understanding and embracing six key dimensions of wellness: physical, social, intellectual, spiritual, emotional, and vocational. Each dimension plays an integral role in fostering a balanced, meaningful life for seniors and those who care for them. 

Intellectual Wellness

Keeping the mind sharp is as important as maintaining the body. Learning new skills, reading, or engaging in puzzles can stimulate cognitive function. For example, a senior might take up painting or learn a new language, finding joy in both the process and the accomplishment.

Apps like Lumosity or websites like Coursera offer brain-training games and free courses that encourage lifelong learning.

Many people worry about cognitive decline, but the good news is that keeping your mind active can make a real difference—and it can be enjoyable, too. Just as our body benefits from exercise, our brain thrives on stimulation and engagement. Think of it as giving your mind a workout to stay strong and agile, no matter your age.

One of the best ways to keep your mind sharp is to embrace curiosity. Learning something new—whether it’s how to paint, speak another language, or play an instrument—challenges your brain in wonderful ways. These activities don’t just improve your skills; they also create new neural connections, helping your brain stay flexible and responsive. It’s not about being perfect at something new; it’s about enjoying the journey and giving yourself permission to grow.

Reading is another powerful way to nurture your mind. Whether you’re diving into a favourite novel, exploring history, or reading about a hobby you love, every page invites your imagination to come alive. You might even consider joining a book club—online or in-person—to discuss your thoughts and connect with others. Sharing ideas can spark new insights and deepen your understanding.

Puzzles and games are also delightful tools for mental fitness. Crosswords, Sudoku, and jigsaw puzzles can be both relaxing and stimulating, while games like chess or bridge encourage strategic thinking and focus. Even playing word games or trivia with friends can give your brain a fun boost.

If you enjoy being social, try combining brain activity with community. Join a discussion group, take a class at your local community center, or attend a lecture on a topic you’ve always found fascinating. Learning alongside others often brings energy and enthusiasm, making the experience even more rewarding.

Technology offers a wealth of resources for mental engagement. Apps and websites designed for brain training, like Lumosity or Elevate, offer interactive exercises tailored to improving memory, focus, and problem-solving. Online courses from platforms like Coursera or Khan Academy let you explore topics from art history to science at your own pace. The key is to choose activities that feel enjoyable and aligned with your interests.

Remember, it’s not about avoiding every moment of forgetfulness, which happens to everyone, no matter their age. What matters is taking steps to stay engaged and curious, making your brain part of your daily self-care routine. Every new skill learned, every game played, and every conversation has contributed to keeping your mind sharp and vibrant.

The beauty of this approach is that it’s not only beneficial but also deeply fulfilling. It reminds you that growth doesn’t stop with age, it continues, opening doors to new experiences, ideas, and connections. So go ahead and dive into something that sparks your curiosity; your mind will thank you for it.

Ageing in Place: Social Wellness

Aging in place with grace involves understanding and embracing six key dimensions of wellness: physical, social, intellectual, spiritual, emotional, and vocational. Each dimension is integral in fostering a balanced, meaningful life for seniors and those who care for them.

Social Wellness

Connection is vital. We thrive when we feel part of a community or maintain meaningful relationships. Regular social interaction reduces loneliness and can even improve cognitive function. Joining local clubs, participating in group activities, or volunteering are wonderful ways to stay socially active.

Websites like Meetup help seniors find groups with similar interests, while apps like Papa match older adults with companions for activities or errands.

Connection truly is vital, but staying socially engaged can feel challenging if you have only a few friends or limited family nearby. The good news is that meaningful relationships can be built and nurtured at any stage of life. It’s about exploring new ways to connect and staying open to the possibilities that come with stepping outside your comfort zone.

If you’re feeling isolated, think about activities or hobbies you enjoy—or perhaps ones you’ve always wanted to try. Libraries, senior centers, and community organizations often host events where people can gather for book discussions, art classes, or even gardening workshops. These are wonderful opportunities to meet like-minded individuals who share your interests. Imagine bonding with someone over a shared love of crafting or swapping tips on growing the perfect tomatoes. Sometimes, the simplest conversations can grow into enduring friendships.

Volunteering is another fantastic way to stay connected. Giving your time to help others, whether it’s tutoring children, assisting at a food bank, or walking dogs at an animal shelter, can fill your days with purpose and introduce you to people who care about the same causes. There’s something deeply fulfilling about working alongside others to make a difference, and those shared experiences often spark genuine friendships.

Technology also opens up exciting possibilities. If you’re not tech-savvy, don’t worry—it’s never too late to learn. Video calls, online forums, and social media platforms can help you stay connected, not just with family and friends, but also with new communities. For example, there are online groups for everything from birdwatching enthusiasts to history buffs. Imagine discussing your favourite novels with a virtual book club or swapping recipes with fellow food lovers from around the world. These connections might start online, but they can feel every bit as meaningful as face-to-face interaction.

And let’s not forget the value of companionship programs. Some organizations match seniors with friendly visitors or companions for regular chats, shared activities, or even just a stroll in the park. It’s a simple way to bring connection into your life if you’re not sure where to start.

Staying connected doesn’t always mean surrounding yourself with a big group of people. Even a few meaningful relationships can bring warmth and joy to your days. It’s about finding those little moments of connection, whether it’s a friendly conversation with a neighbour, a shared laugh at a community event, or a heartfelt chat online. Each interaction is a thread that weaves into the beautiful fabric of your life, adding richness and colour as you age gracefully and with joy.

Two Views of Aging

In recent years, we've seen a shift in how technology helps older adults. Instead of just focusing on products designed specifically for "aging" or "elderly care," consumer electronics, like smartwatches and earbuds, are starting to play a big role in improving life for older adults.

Caring for the Frail: Many people believe that as soon as someone turns 65, they need products to help "care for them." This approach is important for those who are frail or need extra support, but it doesn’t reflect the reality for everyone.

Living Vibrantly: Many older adults are vibrant, independent, and active. Instead of "care products," they want tools and gadgets that enhance their quality of life and help them stay independent as they age.

Examples of Change:

Falls: Traditional medical alert pendants focus on summoning help after a fall. While reliable, they often look and feel stigmatizing. In contrast, smartwatches like the Apple Watch or similar devices from Google and Samsung offer fall detection features while looking stylish and modern. They say, “I’m tech-savvy,” not “I’m old and frail.”

Hearing Aids: Apple recently added hearing aid features to AirPods. While they may not be as advanced as traditional hearing aids, they don’t carry the same stigma. They look like everyday earbuds, which many people of all ages use.

Older adults are not all the same. Some need significant care and benefit from specialized medical devices. But many others just need tools to help them adjust to aging without feeling “old.”

Consumer electronics are stepping in to provide solutions that feel modern, aspirational, and empowering. They are not perfect yet, but they’re improving quickly. These innovations help older adults stay connected, independent, and confident.

Do seniors need Aspirational Products: Tools and gadgets that support vibrant older adults and improve their quality of life. Or do we need Medical Devices: Specialized products for those who are frail or need more intensive care. Understand the senior in your life and remember that the shift in technology shows us that aging is about more than “care.” It’s about living well and embracing tools that help us thrive at any age.

Exercise to combat ageing 2

There are many ways to exercise to stay in shape, here are a few more:

5. Dancing

Dancing is a fun and social way to stay physically active. Whether it’s ballroom dancing, line dancing, or even just moving to your favorite tunes in your living room, dancing improves cardiovascular health, balance, and coordination. It’s also a great way to lift your spirits and connect with others. Many of us find joy in attending dance classes which offer a great combination of exercise and social engagement.

6. Nordic Walking

Do you want to take walking to the next level, Nordic walking, which involves walking with specially designed poles, provides an excellent full-body workout. The poles help engage the upper body, improving posture and reducing strain on the lower joints, like the knees and hips. Nordic walking is known to enhance cardiovascular fitness, balance, and overall muscle tone. It can be done in parks or even on urban paths, and the poles provide additional stability.

7. Pilates

Pilates focuses on building core strength, flexibility, and balance through controlled movements and stretches. While it’s often done on the floor using a mat, many Pilates exercises can be modified, with some classes offering routines that are done using resistance bands or light weights. These exercises help improve posture, muscle tone, and overall stability, making Pilates a great way to stay limber and strong as you age.

8. Stretching and Flexibility Exercises

Although not traditionally considered a form of exercise, regular stretching is crucial for maintaining flexibility and preventing stiffness, especially as we age. Simple daily stretches can improve range of motion, reduce the risk of injury, and make everyday activities like reaching, bending, or standing more comfortable. There are many gentle stretching routines available online or through senior-focused fitness programs that focus on areas such as the shoulders, hips, and back.

Incorporating a variety of these activities into your routine can make exercise enjoyable and sustainable. Whether it's walking, swimming, or taking up a new practice like Tai Chi or chair yoga, the important thing is to stay consistent. Regular movement not only helps maintain physical health but also boosts mental well-being, making it easier to stay engaged and active in your everyday life.

Exercise to help combat ageing 1

Yesterday I wrote that we can't control the natural aging process, there’s a lot we can do to maintain a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle. In the post I mentioned walking because it is one of my favourite activities, I think it is a fantastic, low-impact exercise that offers numerous health benefits. However, as a friend of mine pointed out there are other equally effective options that can help maintain physical health, improve mobility, and boost energy. These exercises are gentle on the joints and can be adapted to different fitness levels, making them ideal for those of us looking to stay active to fight ageing.

1. Swimming and Water Aerobics

Swimming is often referred to as a full-body workout that’s easy on the joints, making it perfect for those like me who have arthritis or joint pain. The buoyancy of the water reduces the impact on your body, while still providing resistance that helps build strength, flexibility, and endurance. Check with your local pool to see what water aerobics classes they have that will suit you. Some are designed to help improve cardiovascular health, muscle tone, and balance. At our centre, they do this and are also fun and social!

2. Cycling (Stationary or Outdoor)

My brother cycles using a stationary bike, but you can also use a bike outdoors, which is a great low-impact exercise. Cycling is easier on the knees and hips than running, while still providing a good cardio workout. Cycling improves leg strength, balance, and stamina. A stationary bike at home or at the gym allows for controlled intensity and removes the risk of falls. Outdoor cycling adds the benefit of fresh air and scenery, further boosting mood and mental health.

3. Tai Chi

I had a friend who was into Tai Chi. For those who don’t know, Tai Chi is an ancient Chinese practice that involves slow, deliberate movements and deep breathing. It’s known for improving balance, flexibility, and muscle strength while reducing stress. Tai Chi is particularly beneficial because it helps improve stability and coordination, reducing the risk of falls. The gentle, flowing movements make it an ideal exercise for those who may have mobility issues or joint pain. Many community centers and senior groups offer Tai Chi classes. Check to see if there is one available to suit your needs.

4. Chair Yoga

From time to time, I have difficulty standing for long periods and I have friends who have limited mobility.  Chair yoga is an excellent option for those of us who have these problems. Chair yoga involves modified poses that can be done while seated or using a chair for support. This type of yoga promotes flexibility, balance, and muscle strength while being very gentle on the body. It’s also great for mental relaxation, reducing anxiety and improving overall emotional well-being. Chair yoga sessions are usually found at your community centers or are widely available online

Ageing comes in Spurts 2

 Yesterday I wrote that we can't control the natural aging process, there’s a lot we can do to maintain a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle. The key is to focus on what we can manage: our habits, routines, and mindset. Here are a few practical strategies to help you stay active, energized, and resilient.

Engage in regular physical activity as one of the best ways to maintain strength, flexibility, and cardiovascular health. Whether it's walking, swimming, or yoga, find an activity you enjoy. For example, walking 30 minutes a day can improve heart health and reduce the risk of chronic diseases. Many seniors have also found joy and health benefits in tai chi or chair yoga, which offer gentle but effective ways to improve balance and reduce the risk of falls.

A healthy diet plays a role in managing energy levels, weight, and overall well-being. Incorporate more fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins into your meals can make a difference. For example, adding leafy greens and berries to your diet has been shown to improve brain health, which is important as we age. Reducing processed foods and sugary snacks can also help maintain steady energy and prevent spikes in blood sugar.

Isolation can have a negative impact on mental and physical health. Make time to connect with friends, family, or join community groups. Many of us benefit from participating in clubs, taking classes, or volunteering. For example, joining a local gardening group or taking part in a book club can provide a sense of community and purpose, reducing feelings of loneliness and boosting emotional well-being.

Just as physical exercise is important, mental stimulation is crucial for healthy aging. My wife and I and many of our friends play Wordle and other mind games to keep our minds active. Engaging in brain-challenging activities like puzzles, reading, or learning a new skill helps keep the mind sharp. For instance, many of my friends have taken up new hobbies such as painting, knitting, or even learning a new language. Theseactivities bring joy but help maintain cognitive function.

We need time to recover and regenerate as I found out after my heart problems. I make sure that I get enough sleep, and I am learning to incorporate relaxation techniques into my daily routine. I have friends who swear by like meditation, deep breathing exercises. For myself I simply taking a moment each day to unwind to help me reduce stress. Studies have shown that those of us who practice mindfulness report lower levels of stress and anxiety, which are crucial for maintaining a positive outlook.

Being proactive about health care is key to managing age-related changes. Regular check-ups with your doctor allow you to catch any potential health issues early. In my area there is a severe shortage of family doctors, so it is difficult but not impossible to maintain regular checkups. For example, I had a screenings for cardiovascular health, which showed some problems and so I was able to get them fixed. Other screenings such as bone density, and hearing or vision problems can help prevent more serious complications down the road. Staying on top of vaccinations, like those for flu or pneumonia, also helps protect your immune system as it becomes more vulnerable with age.

By incorporating these simple habits into daily life, we can manage the natural changes that come with ageing. The idea is not just to add years to your life, but to add life to your years, ensuring that you remain as vibrant, active, and engaged as possible.

Ageing comes in spurts

 In the 1980s, I served as the department head at a large senior secondary school, where I worked closely with many older teachers. I noticed that as they reached or approached 60, many of them began experiencing more health problems than they had just a few years earlier. At the time, I assumed the stress of the job was the culprit and even made a mental note to consider retiring around 60, just in case I too started facing similar health challenges. But, as it turns out, I was wrong.

Recent research has shed new light on aging, revealing that it doesn't happen gradually but in significant bursts. According to a study by scientists at Stanford University, humans experience two major "spikes" in aging—one at around 44 and another at 60. These findings explain why we often notice sudden changes in our health, such as the appearance of wrinkles, aches, or more serious conditions like cardiovascular or musculoskeletal issues.

Professor Michael Snyder, a geneticist and the director of Stanford’s Center for Genomics and Personalized Medicine, explained that aging can feel like a sudden shift rather than a slow, continuous process. In fact, some evidence even suggests another spike in aging might occur around age 78.

As someone who will be 78 this year, I’m intrigued to see how these theories play out in my life. I did retire at 60, though it took me another 11 years to fully transition into retirement. Thankfully, I haven’t faced too many health issues so far, and I hope that remains the case as I approach this new milestone.

The takeaway? We can't control the natural aging process, but we can certainly make lifestyle choices that help us stay healthy and energized as we age. By staying active, eating well, and focusing on our overall well-being, we can manage the inevitable challenges aging brings and enjoy a fulfilling, healthy life.

Old man take a look at your life now

A friend sent me the following and I am sharing it. But the sentiment in the poem is dark so I rewrote it with apologies to the original unknown author. 

CRABBY OLD MAN

 When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in Moosomin, Saskatchewan, it was believed that he had nothing left of any value. Later, when the nurses were going through his meagre possessions, they found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital. One nurse took her copy to Alberta. The old man's sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the St. Louis Association for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on his simple, but eloquent, poem. And this little old man, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this 'anonymous' poem winging across the Internet.

Crabby Old Man

What do you see nurses? . . . .. . What do you see?

What are you thinking . . . . . when you're looking at me?

A crabby old man . .. . .. . not very wise,

Uncertain of habit . . . . . with faraway eyes?

Who dribbles his food . . . . . and makes no reply.

When you say in a loud voice . . . . . 'I do wish you'd try!'

Who seems not to notice .. .. . . . the things that you do.

And forever is losing . . . . . A sock or shoe?

Who, resisting or not .. . . . . lets you do as you will,

With bathing and feeding . . . . . The long day to fill?

Is that what you're thinking? . . . . . Is that what you see?

Then open your eyes, nurse . . . . . you're not looking at me..

I'll tell you who I am. . . . . . As I sit here so still,

As I do at your bidding, . . . . . as I eat at your will.

I'm a small child of Ten . . .. . . with a father and mother,

Brothers and sisters . . . . . who love one another.

A young boy of Sixteen . . . . with wings on his feet.

Dreaming that soon now . . . . . a lover he'll meet.

A groom soon at Twenty . . . . . my heart gives a leap.

Remembering, the vows . . . . . that I promised to keep.

At Twenty-Five, now . . . . . I have young of my own.

Who need me to guide . . . . .. And a secure happy home.

A man of Thirty . . . . . My young now grown fast,

Bound to each other . . . .. . With ties that should last.

At Forty, my young sons . . . . . have grown and are gone,

But my woman's beside me . . . .. . to see I don't mourn.

At Fifty, once more, babies play 'round my knee,

Again, we know children . . . . .. My loved one and me.

Dark days are upon me . . . . . my wife is now dead.

I look at the future . . . . . shudder with dread.

For my young are all rearing . . . . . young of their own.

And I think of the years . . . . . and the love that I've known.

I'm now an old man . . . . . and nature is cruel.

Tis jest to make old age . . . . . look like a fool.

The body, it crumbles . . . . . grace and vigor, depart.

There is now a stone . . . . where I once had a heart.

But inside this old carcass . . . . . a young guy still dwells,

And now and again . . . . . my battered heart swells.

I remember the joys . . . . . I remember the pain.

And I'm loving and living . . . . . life over again.

I think of the years, all too few . .. . . . gone too fast.

And accept the stark fact . . .. . that nothing can last.

So open your eyes, people .. . . . . open and see.

Not a crabby old man . . . Look closer . . . see ME!!

My version of the poem with a more positive outlook than the original  Crabby Old Man

What do you see, dear ones? What do you see?

What are you thinking when you're looking at me?

A vibrant old soul, full of life and glee,

With a heart that's still beating strong and free.

 

Who's still got a twinkle in their eye,

And a story to tell, and a memory to buy.

Who's still got a spark, a flame that's bright,

And a spirit that's still dancing through the night.

 

Who's still got a sense of humour, and a heart that's light,

 And a love for life, that shines like a beacon in flight.

Who's still got a dream, a goal, a passion to pursue,

And a fire that burns, that's still burning anew.

 

Who's still got a family, a loved one by their side,

And a legacy to leave, a story to abide.

Who's still got a purpose, a reason to get up and face,

The challenges of life, with a heart that's full of grace.

 

Is that what you're seeing? Is that what you see?

Then open your eyes, dear ones, and look closer at me.

I'm not just an old person, I'm a story to be told,

A life that's been lived, with moments to behold.

 

I'm a young boy, a teenager, a young adult too,

A parent, a grandparent, a great-grandparent, with a story or two.

I'm a person, with a heart that beats, with a soul that's bright,

And a life that's been lived, with all its joys and its plight.

 

So don't just see the wrinkles, don't just see the gray,

Look closer, dear ones, and see the person, in every way.

See the love, the laughter, the tears, the fears,

See the life that's been lived, through all the years.

 

And when you look at me, don't just see an old face,

See the person, with a story to tell, and a heart that's still in place.

See the love, the light, the life, that's still shining bright,

And know that I'm still here, with a story to share, and a heart that's still alight.

Remember either one of these poems when you next meet an older person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within. We will all, one day, be there, too!

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 Starting slow and gradually building momentum can be an effective strategy for seniors who may feel overwhelmed by the prospect of acting on their ageing-in-place plan. Here are some tips to help seniors ease into the process:

1.     Set Small, Achievable Goals: Break down your plan into smaller, manageable tasks or goals. Start with the most pressing or straightforward actions that you can easily accomplish. Celebrate each small achievement to stay motivated.

2.     Prioritize Based on Comfort Level: Begin with areas that you feel most comfortable addressing. Whether it's scheduling a health check-up, decluttering a room for improved safety, or reaching out to a friend for social connection, choose actions that align with your comfort level and interests.

3.     Seek Support and Guidance: Don't hesitate to seek support and guidance from family members, friends, healthcare providers, or community resources. They can provide encouragement, advice, and assistance in navigating different aspects of your plan.

4.     Take One Step at a Time: Focus on one step at a time rather than trying to tackle everything at once. Slow and steady progress is key to building confidence and momentum. Set realistic timelines for each task and allow yourself the flexibility to adjust as needed.

5.     Use Technology and Resources: Leverage technology and available resources to simplify tasks and stay organized. For example, use reminder apps for medication management, online resources for financial planning, or home safety checklists for aging in place modifications.

6.     Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge and celebrate your progress along the way. Whether it's completing a milestone in your plan, learning a new skill, or making positive changes to your lifestyle, take time to celebrate your achievements and recognize your efforts.

7.     Stay Positive and Patient: Stay positive and patient with yourself throughout the process. Embrace a mindset of continuous learning and improvement. Remember that it's okay to ask for help, take breaks when needed, and adjust your approach as you go.

8.     Review and Adjust Regularly: Regularly review your progress and adjust your plan as needed. Reflect on what's working well, what challenges you may be facing, and how you can adapt your strategies for better results.

By starting slow, setting achievable goals, seeking support, and staying patient, seniors can gradually build momentum and work towards successfully implementing their ageing in place plan. The key is to take consistent and manageable steps forward while maintaining a positive and proactive mindset.

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 Reflecting on the items in a personal plan for aging in place involves thoughtful consideration and prioritization of your needs, goals, and resources. Here's a guide on how to reflect and prioritize these elements effectively:

1.   Assess Your Current Situation: Start by evaluating your current living environment, health status, social connections, financial resources, and support network. Identify areas where you feel most confident and areas that may require improvement or additional attention.

2.   Identify Key Concerns: Reflect on your key concerns and priorities related to aging in place. Consider factors such as safety, healthcare access, social engagement, financial stability, emotional well-being, and overall quality of life. Note down any specific challenges or areas of focus that are important to you.

3.   Consider Long-Term Goals: Think about your long-term goals and aspirations for aging in place. What do you envision for your later years in terms of independence, comfort, and fulfillment? Consider factors like staying in your current home, maintaining social connections, managing health conditions, and preserving financial security.

4.   Evaluate Risks and Opportunities: Assess potential risks and opportunities associated with aging in place. Identify areas where proactive planning and interventions can mitigate risks (e.g., fall prevention, healthcare coordination) and opportunities to enhance your well-being (e.g., social activities, technology adoption).

5.   Prioritize Based on Importance and Feasibility: Prioritize the elements of your personal plan based on their importance to your overall well-being and feasibility of implementation. Consider which aspects are urgent or critical for immediate action and which can be addressed over time.

6.   Seek Input and Advice: Consult with trusted individuals, such as family members, healthcare providers, financial advisors, or community resources, to gain perspective and guidance on prioritizing your personal plan. Their insights and expertise can help you make informed decisions.

7.   Create a Prioritized Action Plan: Once you've reflected on your needs, concerns, goals, and input from others, create a prioritized action plan. List the items in your personal plan in order of priority, starting with the most critical or pressing areas that require attention. Break down each priority into actionable steps with timelines and milestones.

8.   Review and Adjust Regularly: Regularly review and adjust your prioritized action plan as needed. Life circumstances may change, and new opportunities or challenges may arise. Stay flexible and proactive in revisiting your priorities to ensure your personal plan remains relevant and effective.

By following these steps to reflect and prioritize elements in your personal plan for aging in place, you can focus on addressing the most critical areas while maintaining a holistic approach to your overall well-being and quality of life

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 A personalized plan for aging in place should encompass various aspects of daily living, health care, social support, and safety measures. Here are key elements that should be included in such a plan:

1.     Home Environment Assessment: Evaluate your current living space to identify any potential hazards or barriers to mobility. This may involve making modifications such as installing grab bars, improving lighting, removing trip hazards, and ensuring accessibility throughout the home.

2.     Health Care Coordination: Coordinate with healthcare providers to ensure regular check-ups, medication management, and access to necessary medical equipment or services. Consider establishing a relationship with a primary care physician who understands your specific health needs and goals.

3.     Support Network: Build a strong support network of family, friends, neighbors, and community resources. Identify individuals or organizations that can assist with daily tasks, transportation, social activities, and emotional support.

4.     Financial Planning: Review your financial situation and plan for future expenses related to aging in place, such as home modifications, healthcare costs, long-term care insurance, and potential assistance services. Consult with a financial advisor or elder law attorney to address estate planning, wills, trusts, and advance directives.

5.     Emergency Preparedness: Develop a comprehensive emergency plan that includes contact information for emergency services, medical providers, family members, and neighbors. Keep essential documents (e.g., medical records, insurance information, legal documents) organized and easily accessible in case of emergencies.

6.     Healthy Lifestyle: Prioritize your physical, mental, and emotional well-being through regular exercise, nutritious diet, social engagement, cognitive stimulation, and stress management techniques. Stay proactive about preventive healthcare measures, screenings, and vaccinations.

7.     Technology and Safety Devices: Explore technology options and safety devices that can enhance your safety and independence at home. This may include medical alert systems, smart home automation, fall detection devices, medication reminders, and telehealth services for virtual consultations with healthcare providers.

8.     Social Connections: Stay connected with your community, participate in social activities, join clubs or groups of interest, volunteer, and maintain meaningful relationships. Combat social isolation by fostering connections that promote social engagement and emotional well-being.

9.     Regular Review and Updates: Regularly review and update your personalized plan for aging in place as your needs, preferences, and circumstances evolve. Stay proactive about addressing any changes or challenges that arise to ensure continued comfort, safety, and quality of life.

By addressing these elements in a personalized plan for aging in place, you can enhance your ability to live independently, maintain a high quality of life, and navigate the aging process with confidence and peace of mind.

Mental Health Challenges of Ageism

Ageism doesn't only affect mental health but can also have broader consequences on a senior's overall well-being. It can lead to decreased physical activity, isolation from social connections, and a general feeling of being undervalued. Just because they might take a little longer to get up from the couch doesn't mean they should be pushed to the sidelines. They deserve to be front and center, enjoying life to the fullest.

For many Easter and March is about the holidays and families, except there are many who don't have friends or family. Ageism doesn't just build walls, it can create entire fortresses of social isolation and loneliness. When society perpetuates the belief that older adults are less capable or interesting, it hampers their ability to connect with others and maintain meaningful relationships. It's like throwing an Easter Bunny-themed party but telling the Bunny he can't sit at the cool kids' table because he's too old. How rude!

Ageism in the workplace is all too real. Seniors often face discrimination when it comes to employment opportunities, with employers assuming they lack the skills or adaptability to keep up with younger colleagues. This can lead to financial insecurity and a deeper reliance on social support systems. But let's be honest, they've got more experience in their little finger than most millennials have in their whole body.

Ageism throws up roadblocks at every turn, making it harder for older adults to access essential services and opportunities. From limited healthcare options to restricted social programs, ageism can limit the quality of life for seniors. It's like trying to go on a road trip but realizing that all the roads have barricades that say, "Sorry, you're too old for this adventure." Well, who needs those roads anyway? Seniors will forge their own paths.

So, let's kick ageism to the curb and recognize the value and worth of our older adults. They still have plenty to offer, and it's about time we show them the respect they deserve. After all, we'll all be rocking those high-waisted jeans and reminiscing about the good old days sooner than we think.

Ageism does more than just hurt feelings; it can have a profound impact on the health and well-being of seniors. When older adults are subjected to stereotypes or discrimination based on their age, it can negatively affect their physical and mental health. Studies have shown that ageism can contribute to increased stress levels, higher rates of chronic diseases, and even a shorter lifespan. So, the next time you're tempted to make an ageist joke, remember that it might not be so harmless after all.

Ageism also seeps into healthcare systems and treatment plans. There is a tendency among some healthcare professionals to overlook or dismiss the concerns of older patients, assuming that their symptoms are just a "natural part of aging." This can lead to underdiagnosis, delayed treatment, and ultimately poorer health outcomes for seniors. It's essential for healthcare providers to recognize the unique needs and concerns of older adults and treat them with the same level of care and attention as younger patients.

In addition to receiving subpar treatment, older adults may also face challenges when it comes to making healthcare decisions. Ageist attitudes can undermine the autonomy and agency of older individuals, causing their preferences and wishes to be disregarded. This can result in a loss of control over one's own healthcare decisions, leading to feelings of frustration and helplessness. It's important to involve seniors in healthcare discussions and respect their choices, ensuring that they have a say in their own well-being.