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Showing posts with label celbration of life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label celbration of life. Show all posts

Sunday, July 19, 2026

Thoughts on life

 The sun rises, the seasons change, opportunities appear, and challenges arrive. The universe is not sitting somewhere keeping score, handing out rewards to some and hardships to others. Storms come. Gardens grow. People enter our lives and people leave. Some days bring joy, while others bring disappointment. Life unfolds without asking for our permission and often without explaining itself.

Many people spend years wondering why certain things happened to them. Was it bad luck? Was it fate? Was it destiny? Was it meant to be?

Perhaps those questions matter less than we think.

Luck may explain a moment, but it does not explain a lifetime. Fate may make an interesting story, but it does not write our daily habits. Destiny may sound comforting, yet every day we still wake up and make choices.

What truly shapes our lives is often much closer to home.

It begins with our thoughts.

A thought becomes an attitude. An attitude influences actions. Actions repeated become habits. Habits shape character. Character influences the direction of a life.

In that sense, thoughts really do become things.

The person who continually thinks, “I’m too old to learn that” closes doors before even reaching them. The person who thinks, “I wonder what would happen if I tried?” opens possibilities. Both people may face the same circumstances, yet they experience very different lives because they approach those circumstances differently.

Consider two retirees. Both leave careers they enjoyed. One sees retirement as an ending. The other sees it as a beginning. One focuses on what has been lost. The other focuses on what can still be gained. Within a few years, their lives may look remarkably different, not because fate chose favorites, but because their thoughts guided their actions.

This does not mean positive thinking magically removes every obstacle. Bills still arrive. Health challenges still occur. Relationships still require effort. Thinking alone is not enough.

But thinking is where everything starts.

Every invention began as a thought. Every friendship began as a thought. Every volunteer project, business, book, garden, and community organization began as a thought in someone's mind before it became a reality.

The wonderful news is that our thoughts are one of the few things completely within our control.

We cannot control the weather.

We cannot control the economy.

We cannot control what other people say or do.

But we can choose what we focus on, what meaning we assign to events, and what actions we take next.

That is a tremendous power.

In fact, it may be the greatest power any of us possess.

Better than winning the lottery, you have the ability to choose your response to life every single day. A lottery ticket can change your bank account. A changed mindset can change your future.

One offers a chance.

The other offers a choice.

And choice is far more valuable.

Every morning you can choose curiosity over fear. Gratitude over complaint. Action over procrastination. Hope over resignation. You can decide to learn something new, meet someone new, help someone else, or take one small step toward a goal that matters to you.

Those choices may seem insignificant in the moment, but over time they accumulate. They become the story of your life.

Life is not giving you a test.

Life is not withholding a break.

Life is simply presenting possibilities.

The question is not what life has planned for you.

The question is: What are you planning for yourself?

Because when your thoughts guide your actions, and your actions shape your future, you discover something remarkable:

You may not control everything that happens to you, but you have enormous influence over what happens next.

And that is better than luck.

Better than fate.

Better than destiny.

It is the power to create a life that reflects the thoughts, values, and dreams you choose to nurture every day.

Friday, August 8, 2025

Celbrations of Life: Endings that Reveals More

The best endings don’t tie everything up neatly. They often leave us with lingering emotions, unexpected realizations, or a sense that life isn’t about perfection but about presence. We come to see that by letting go of what we thought we needed, universal approval, tidy legacies, perfect relationships, we find what matters most: to have loved, to have been part of someone’s story, to have mattered to even a few.

So, as our social circles grow smaller, and we attend more of these celebrations, maybe it’s not a sign of decline, but of distillation. We are focusing on those who matter most, and that’s what people will remember. Not the quantity of our connections, but the quality of our presence.

And perhaps, when it is our time to go, those few but cherished souls will gather and say, “They mattered to me.” And really, isn’t that enough?


Tuesday, April 16, 2024

The tapestry of life

The tapestry of life is such that moments and memories are intertwined in the same way threads are woven. Weavers, we give ourselves a role in the story of our lives. Every thread represents our choices, who we really are, and how much we have been able to leave out on the canvas of life.

Imagine an expansive horizon surrounded by a loom that encompasses almost every experience of which you might think. This loom also allows us to weave vibrant threads such as joy, kindness and love which light up even the darkest corners transforming ordinary things into masterpieces.

In this loom, there are echoes of footsteps from behind where time is sculpted like a master carver working on our journey. At this moment we hold a brush that could be described as magical for it gives one the ability to paint his present and future with colours he or she likes.

 Laughter – the thread spun together with joy – reverberates through halls of our memory as it runs through walls of happiness erected within us during moments when victory strikes. It is when we genuinely smile that warmth wraps around us. In weaving this strand, we bring into our fabric its own kind of brilliance beyond the normal world.

Kindness constitutes another thread close at hand; gentle but incredibly sturdy. It interweaves its fibres into patterns of understanding and empathy, adding more compassion to every action I take in my life.

In this loom of life, the choices we make are strokes on the canvas, contributing to the grand design of our existence. As we wield the brush, we become architects of our destiny, creators of a narrative that speaks of resilience, compassion, and boundless love. The tapestry of life unfolds not in isolation but in the interconnected threads of joy, kindness, and love that we weave with every breath.

Sunday, August 21, 2022

Celebration of life or an ego trip?

There is an old song by Ricky Nelson, called Garden Party. In the lyrics, Ricky sings about the time he went to perform at a concert at Madison Square Gardens in  New York City.

I went to a garden party
To reminisce with my old friends
A chance to share old memories
Play our songs again
When I got to the garden party
They all knew my name
No one recognized me
I didn't look the same
But it's all right now
I learned my lesson well
You see, you can't please everyone
So you got to please yourself
People came from miles around
Everyone was there
Yoko brought her walrus
There was magic in the air
And over in the corner
Much to my surprise
Mr Hughes hid in Dylan's shoes
Wearing his disguise
But it's all right now
I learned my lesson well
You see, you can't please everyone
So you got to please yourself
Lot-da-da
Lot-in-da-da-da
Played them all the old songs
I thought that's why they came
No one heard the music
Didn't look the same
I said hello to "Mary Lou"
She belongs to me
When I sang a song about a honky-tonk
It was time to leave
But it's all right now
I learned my lesson well
You see, you can't please everyone
So you got to please yourself
Lot-da-da
Lot-in-da-da-da
Someone opened up a closet door
And out stepped Johnny B Goode
Playing guitar like a-ringin' a bell
And lookin' like he should
Now if you gotta play at garden parties
I wish you a lotta luck
But if memories were all I sang
I'd rather drive a truck
And it's all right now
I learned my lesson well
See, you can't please everyone
So you got to please yourself
Lot-da-da (lot-da-da-da)
Lot-in-da-da-da
And it's all right now, yeah
I learned my lesson well
You see, you can't please everyone
So you got to please yourself
This is a wonderful song about the need to be yourself and be true to yourself. I wish people who decide to hold celebrations of life would be true to the person they are honouring. Many are but some are not. I don't think it is because people are trying to be disrespectful but I think they need to be reminded to be true to the values of the deceased.

At my age, I am starting to lose friends and have had the opportunity to go to a number of celebrations of life in the past few months. All of them are nice and respectful but a couple bothered me. 

At the latest one, the Minister said at the beginning words to this effect. "We are here for three reasons, the first is to bask in the glory of God, the second is to be reminded that Jesus is in the way of the light and the third is that Jesus is our saviour." My first thought was what about the person who died, are we not here to honour his life. I knew the deceased was an atheist; later in the service the Minister, who did not know the deceased said, "Although (the deceased) might not agree with the words in the bible, the deceased did embrace the underlying principles of the bible when he lived his life as he was a good, caring, compassionate man." 

I watched his wife who is religious and the Ministers words seemed to comfort her. His sons did speak about their father as a man and honoured his life, but in the two-hour celebration of life, only about 45 minutes were specifically about him. The rest of the service was about god.

I only wish that when planning a celebration of life, be true to the person you are honouring so they can go out on their terms.