Many of us do a poor job of end-of-life planning. I know this because I give workshops on this topic and understand the feelings of those who attend. I know that many will start the conversation after the workshop but many will not complete it. If you have not set out your final wishes clearly or don’t want to face that decision and the uncomfortable discussion that follows, remember that as we navigate the complexities of end-of-life care, it's essential to prioritize open communication and clear decision-making. Putting off discussing our end-of-life wishes, leaves our loved ones uncertain about our preferences. This can lead to emotional turmoil and conflict among family members.
If you're an adult
child facing a difficult decision about your parent's care, remember that it's
okay to feel overwhelmed. Take a deep breath, and know that you're not alone.
Here are some thoughts to consider:
Firstly, prioritize your parent's comfort and well-being.
What would they want for their final days? Would they prefer to be at home,
surrounded by loved ones, or in a hospital setting? Are there any specific
medical interventions they would or wouldn't want?
Remember, your parent's wishes are not a reflection of your
worth or abilities. You are not responsible for their illness or decline. Your
role is to support and care for them, not to blame yourself for their passing.
In the face of uncertainty, prioritize what matters most:
love, compassion, and connection. Share moments of joy, laughter, and cherished
memories with your parent. These moments can bring comfort and peace to both of
you.
Remember, forgiveness is not necessary, but self-compassion
and understanding are crucial. You are loved, valued, and appreciated for who
you are.
