Friday, March 22, 2019

Happy Saturday

I am having one of those days where I think that everything in my life, right now, is awesome. Everything is in its right place, under grace, and whether or not this makes perfect sense one day it will

And as the day swiftly flies by and we approach tomorrow, I am exceedingly grateful for all that this day has brought me. To this day and those who contributed to who I've become I am grateful. 

I hope that your day is this kind of day and that you are becoming the person you want, a person who is now poised to live as you have always dreamed you would one day live.

Thursday, March 21, 2019

Great vs Scary

As we approach decisions or actions that may look scary, we need to understand that through the prism of time and space the scary stuff always looks scarier than it really is. When we look back at what did or decided, we see that it was not really that scary. What we were frightened of, in many cases was doing something that was outside of our comfort zone.

Once we find that going outside of our comfort zone we find that there are many more opportunities waiting for us. We find that the great stuff waiting for us is always greater than we could imagine and it is frequently on sale, comes in more flavours and goes with pretty much everything. Life is strange and good. 

Ageing is complex

As you prepare for retirement, I think it is important to introduce yourself to your older self. As we approach retirement, we begin to see our older self, but by then it may be too late. Approaching retirement and ageing is complex and can be defined in a number of very different ways – chronological, legal, personal, physiological, psychological, and social/cultural. But our attitude is key, we must also reshape some of our own attitudes toward retirement and ageing. 

In terms of attitudes toward retirement in general, we should come to see life as an opportunity for continuous growth and development; recognize that all of us are unique; understand that there's no one way to "get old” or one way to prepare for retirement, we need to appreciate the strengths and values of older people; and understand that ageist stereotypes are harmful. 

In terms of attitudes toward the ageing process, we need to understand ageing as a continuous process of growing up and becoming older. A baby born today can expect to live longer than ever before in history. As we grow older and approach retirement, we need to understand that ageing is a complex interaction of genetic, lifestyle, and environmental factors. We need to recognize that individuals can make personal choices about retirement that will affect the length and quality of their life, and recognize that ageing isn't just physical, but it's also psychological and social. 

We must understand and internalize that advances in medicine, nutrition, and health care make it possible for people to live longer, live healthier lives. Longevity is increasing, as is the percentage of the population that is older and this creates economic and social changes that affect us all. We need to get others to believe that while an ageing society provides challenges, it also offers opportunities.

As we explore retirement and ageing, we do have to be careful not to split old age and retirement into two polarized images – the "ill-derly" versus the "healthy, wealthy, and wise." The idea of the old and frail, vs the old and healthy feeds both a false pessimism and a superficial optimism. 

Negative images are everywhere, oppressive and depressing; positive images are too confining, idealized, and perhaps unattainable for many. From my experiences in giving workshops on health and wellness to seniors, I recognize that not everyone's situation is the same. 

There are those who can't retire because they can't subsist on Old Age Security alone. They may not have e-mail to stay in contact with their grandchildren, and they may be too tired for lifelong learning. To create genuinely satisfying, realistic images of ageing, we have to understand its complexities – with variations dependent on class, culture, income, education, gender, and more.

As we create a new understanding of ageing and of retirement we need to remember there are no prescribed role models to follow, no guideposts, no rigid rules or obvious rewards. Ageing is about our vision of what it means to live a life. We need to feel as though we are moving toward something worthwhile – not necessarily easy, not straightforward, but worthwhile. We need meaning and hope, both individually and as a society.

No one can say what it will be like to grow old in the middle or late 21st century. What it means to be 50, 60, 70, or 80 years old today is very different from what it meant or was like 100 years ago. We don't know whether the life of older people in the future will be better or worse. But we can be certain that it will be different. The better prepared the young are and we are, the more educated, the abler they will be to help create new and rise to the new challenges that life brings and to handle what comes as they age.

Wednesday, March 20, 2019

Age of Ageing Teach your children young

The best age is the age  you are." Louis Armstrong

The following is inspired by an article  Addressing Ageism written by Susan V. Bosak

This is the Age of Aging. It's the first time in history in which human beings can reasonably expect to live even close to what we presently think of as the entire lifespan, and there are more of us older people than ever before.

Today, a Canadian at birth is expected to live 80 years compared to 47 years in 1900 – an additional 33 years. Centenarians are actually the fastest-growing age group in the country. Card companies now even make special birthday cards for people who reach this magical age.

Ageing is not optional. We are all, in fact, ageing from the moment we are born. That's life. The problem is that we all tend to have a negative attitude toward growing old, assign negative characteristics like unattractiveness and illness to being old, do not perceive anything positive about being old, and tend to prefer the company of the young and have limited contact with and knowledge of older people. I thought that I prefer the company of people my age, but I did a preference test and found out that I actually prefer to be with young people, which was a bit of a surprise to me.


I know we can't stay young forever. Ageing is as natural as the changing seasons. Advertising is full of age-defying and age-correcting products, which promise unending happiness, social mobility, or the transformation of women, in particular, from being old and undesirable to being young and desirable. 

Because older people are more numerous, more affluent, and better educated than ever before, this demographic shift may work to change attitudes toward aging. As an educator, I believe that education is key – both from the perspective of more people understanding ageing and from the perspective of how people will be when they become old. The more educated a person is, the more resources they have, and the more likely they are to be healthy, cognitively active, productive, and have a level of meaning and contentment in their life.

Why should children care about aging? Children's chances (in a developed nation) of surviving to a very old age are greater than at any time in history. They need to know how to live out that life as healthy, productive, effective individuals. They need to prepare to live their entire lifespan. Young people educated about aging are more likely to live a healthy lifestyle and maximize their chances of living long and living well. This obviously has benefits for the individual, as well as reduces the health care burden on society. 

The question isn't really whether children should learn about aging – because they are learning about aging and a multitude of other things whether we consciously teach them or not – but what they should learn about the lifelong process we call growing up and getting older.

Even before the age of five years, research shows children may have already internalized ideas that lead to ageism (age prejudice/stereotypes) and gerontophobia (fear of ageing). Most children say they don't want to get "old." They express fears that if they were old, life wouldn't be much fun and they would soon die (keep in mind that for children, "old" is anyone over 30!). 

Grandparents are living, breathing models of older adulthood and ageing. Bringing grandparents, and other older adults, into schools, opens the door to exploring life course and ageing issues with children. Children at all age levels tend to have limited knowledge about older people. They just don't know that many older people. 

Some research has shown that children predominantly view older people as passive and not much fun to be with. At the same time though, they also express deep affection for older people. They evidently feel negatively about the physical and behavioral characteristics of age, but feel a positive affection toward specific older people. In other words, children love their grandparents – they just don't ever want to be like them! So intergenerational contact in itself is not enough. It's not enough to build a good relationship with "them." Children also need an educational component so that they come to see themselves as "them."

Many adults – teachers, parents, and grandparents – are not interested in aging and, in fact, must confront their own fears and stereotypes about aging and older adults. A Grandparents Day event can be an important first step in breaking down this barrier, opening dialogue, and building toward aging/life course education and intergenerational programs.


In general, we need to teach children about:

The Aging Process: Growing old is a natural part of human development; there are normal changes that come with aging; older people have certain needs and experience losses as well as gains; and it's important to develop ways to deal with realities like illness and death.

Issues Related to Aging: The myths and stereotypes about growing and being old; the economic, social, and psychological challenges of aging in our society; the isolation and segregation of many older adults; the current and historical role of older adults in our society; the roles and treatment of older people in other cultures and the values they reflect.

Older People as Individuals: The families, education, work, and life experiences of grandparents and other older adults; the contributions of older adults now and throughout history.

Connections Between Young and Old: Similarities and differences between young and old; what younger people can expect to do with and can expect from older people; how young and old can work together to address common needs; how being old is perceived by the young versus how it's perceived by the old; how we can look at our lives from a life course perspective and how each individual is unique.