Thursday, December 5, 2024

When I first retired I wasted a lot of time, do you?

First off, congratulations on reaching retirement! Whether you just stepped into this new phase or are thinking about it, you're in for an incredible journey. And let's be honest—one of the biggest perks of retirement is finally getting to waste a bit of time guilt-free. But there’s a fine line between savouring those free moments and falling into the black hole of procrastination, and that’s what we’re here to talk about today.

Now, did you know that the average person in the UK wastes about 218 minutes a day? That’s three and a half hours every day! And yes, I’d love to pretend that I know nothing about time-wasting—but that would be a lie! I’m guilty of putting off tasks, endlessly organizing my to-do list, and, of course, finding any excuse to grab a snack. But while we can all enjoy a bit of time-wasting now and then, too much of it can sneak up on us, turning into what I call “professional procrastination.”

Let’s get one thing straight right out of the gate: it’s absolutely okay to waste some time! In fact, it’s practically a rite of passage for retirees. After all, you’re not a machine that has to be running at full speed 100% of the time. We all need those little breaks to recharge, to relax, and yes, even to daydream. Because you know what? Some of the best ideas and happiest moments come from those “wasted” hours—when our minds can wander freely. Heck, some of the greatest inventions probably came to life because someone took a “productive break” by staring out the window for a bit.

That said, it’s easy for our well-deserved relaxation to slide into “serial slacking.” And that’s where a few time-taming tricks can come in handy—nothing too strict, just a few gentle nudges to help us avoid spending every afternoon on the couch with reruns.

Here are a few simple strategies that can help us toe the line between healthy downtime and full-on time-wasting:

1.     Set Tiny Goals
Notice I said tiny. Big goals are great, but they can also scare us right back onto the couch. Start small, like “organize one drawer,” or “spend ten minutes planning that garden.”

2.     Make Friends with To-Do Lists
Now, I’m not talking about a 100-item list. Keep it manageable. Maybe write down three things for the day, just enough to give a little purpose without overwhelming you.

3.     Eliminate the Black Hole Distractions
Let’s face it, some of us have phones that practically beg us to check social media, news apps, and games every few minutes. But if we cut down a bit, we'll be surprised at how much time we actually have to enjoy our day.

4.     Reward Yourself
Got through one of those tiny goals? Well done! Reward yourself with something you enjoy—a nice walk, some time in the garden, or, yes, even a cozy TV break.

5.     Be Kind to Yourself
Retirement isn’t a race or a job. It’s okay if you don’t master the art of productivity every day. Every once in a while, give yourself permission to do absolutely nothing. The trick is finding that balance between “rest mode” and “sleep mode” so we don’t get too comfortable doing, well, nothing at all.

The bottom line? Enjoy the gift of time, but keep a little bit of structure around it. Do what works for you, adjust as you go, and remember—you’re not alone in the quest for a happy, fulfilling retirement. So go ahead, waste a little time, recharge, and know that, sometimes, that’s exactly what you’re meant to do.

Wednesday, December 4, 2024

The role of community in retirement

 One of our new Board members said to me after he was elected, that he had been trying to reach out and become more involved in his community and was glad he fund our association. It got me thinking. For many when they retire, they lose the community they relied on when they were working. So, in retirement, having a supportive, vibrant community can greatly enrich their life. Being apart of a supportive community provides companionship, shared purpose, and mental and emotional support. Without these connections, it’s easy to feel isolated, which can lead to feelings of loneliness or even depression. Focusing on community in retirement means focusing on well-being, hope, and a sense of belonging.

Building connections is crucial because it fosters a sense of purpose and meaning, which are essential. Community offers emotional support, companionship, and opportunities for personal growth. People with strong social networks are healthier, live longer, and are more resilient to life’s ups and downs. And it's not just about avoiding loneliness; it’s about creating joy, cultivating a support system, and continuing to grow and thrive.

As many of you are aware I am a big believer in Local Senior Centers. They offer classes, exercise groups, hobby groups, and social events. Participating in these activities allows you to meet people with shared interests and build friendships. I suggest you do a Google Search for your communities local senior center. A starting point for my American friends is  the National Council on Aging’s Senior Center Directory

Volunteering is one of the most rewarding ways to connect with others. Not only do you meet like-minded people, but you also get to give back, which can be immensely fulfilling. Start with  VolunteerMatch, which lists opportunities for volunteers of all ages.

Whether it's gardening, knitting, painting, or a book club, engaging in hobbies within a group setting is a fantastic way to socialize. Look for local classes, workshops, or community groups. A friend of mine uses Meetup, which allows him to find or start groups based on specific interests. He recently moved to a new community and by using Meetup, he was able to make connections very quickly in his new home.

For those who may have difficulty getting out, online communities offer an excellent alternative. Social media groups, forums, and even virtual classes can connect you to others worldwide. Facebook has groups like "Seniors Connect" that allow you to meet people with similar interests. Many of the local seniors organizations have their own Facebook pages so you can check them out as well.

Two of my brothers have religious or spiritual inclinations, and they and their wives are involved in their local churches. I have done workshop at local Synagogues, and Temples so I know that they often offer social events and study groups for seniors. These can be excellent places to connect with others.

Many universities and colleges offer lifelong learning programs that allow seniors to take classes, often at reduced rates or for free. This is not only intellectually stimulating but also a great way to meet people. A starting point could be  Road Scholar  which offers educational travel and classes for older adults.

In your community, the people you meet, the connections you make, and the activities you enjoy give you something to look forward to and a reason to get up every day. Retirement is a wonderful new chapter in your journey and it is better when you have the support of a caring community.

Embracing the power of community opens doors to meaningful connections, joy, and the chance to continue learning and growing. Retirement can be one of the most fulfilling stages of life, enriched by friends, shared experiences, and a hopeful outlook on the future.

Tuesday, December 3, 2024

Puns for the Holidays

1.           Why do seniors always carry a pencil? Because they want to draw on their years of experience!

2.           I told my grandpa he was aging like fine wine. He replied, 'Well, I hope I don't end up in a glass!'

3.           Why did the senior citizen bring a ladder to the bar? Because they heard the drinks were on the house!

4.           Did you hear about the senior who started a health club? He called it ‘The Golden Years Gym – where you lift weights and your spirits!’

5.           Why don’t seniors play hide and seek? Because good luck hiding when you’re as old as you feel!

6.           You know you're getting older when your back goes out more than you do!

7.           What’s a senior’s favorite exercise? Running out of patience!

8.           Why did Santa ask a senior to help deliver presents? Because they’re experienced in ‘sleighing’ all day!

9.           What’s a senior’s favorite holiday song? ‘I’ll Be Home for Christmas – Right After My Nap!’

10.        Why do seniors love Christmas? Because they’ve got all the ‘presents’ they need!

11.        What did the senior say when they saw their first snowflake? ‘Guess winter wanted to add a little salt and pepper to the season!’

12.        How do seniors deck the halls? With lots of ‘rest-ivus’ cheer!

13.        Why did the grandpa put on snow boots? To walk through his ‘winter years’ in style!

14.        Why was Mrs. Claus shopping for memory foam? Because Santa’s back goes out more than he does!

15.        Why do seniors make the best gift wrappers? They’ve had years to master the art of ‘presenting’!

16.        What’s a senior’s favourite Christmas treat? ‘Hard candy canes’ – just like the ones they hand out year-round!

17.        What does a senior write in their holiday card? ‘Season’s Greetings and a Happy New Rear!’

18.        Why did the grandma hang extra stockings? She heard Santa was giving out ‘senior’ discounts!

19.        What did Grandpa say about the holiday rush? ‘You kids go ahead. I’ll catch up after the eggnog kicks in!’

20.        Why did Santa put seniors in charge of the Christmas caroling? Because they know all the old classics!

21.        What’s a senior’s favorite holiday dance? ‘The ‘Rockin’ Chair Rock!’

22.        Why did grandma bring her knitting to the holiday party? So she could ‘string together’ some good times!

23.        What’s a senior’s favorite reindeer? Blitzen – because they can relate to feeling a bit ‘blitzed’ after Christmas dinner!

24.        Why did grandpa put ornaments on his walker? To show he’s still got some ‘holiday spirit’ in him!

25.        Why do seniors love Christmas trees? Because they can add a little ‘spruce’ to the season!

26.        What did the senior say when they forgot to set up their Christmas lights? ‘Guess I’m just too old to be lit!’

27.        How does Santa keep his beard so white? He uses ‘Just for Men’ – for his ‘North Pole’ look!

28.        Why did Grandma knit a sweater for Rudolph? Because he always had a ‘cold nose’!

29.        What’s a senior’s favorite part of Christmas? All the ‘wrappings’ and none of the ‘unwrap-pings’!

30.        Why did Grandpa put out extra cookies for Santa? Because he remembers what it’s like to have a sweet tooth! 

31.        What did the senior say about the holiday hustle? ‘I’m just here to sleigh – and stay out of the way!’ 

Monday, December 2, 2024

If I get dementia 2

In the workshops that we give to seniors one of the more popular ones is about Dementia. So when the following was posted on Facebook by a cousin of mine l thought the wish list was very well put and I thought I would share it. She got it from Joshua Pettit,the original author. I  started the list yesterday. I added a few wishes to his list.

Here is his original wish list with online resources that may help caregivers fulfill each request. These resources provide advice, practical tools, and background knowledge on dementia care:

1.           I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.
Resource: Alzheimer’s Society tips on patience and acceptance when memory issues arise: alzheimers.org.uk

2.           If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favourite music playing within earshot. Resource: "Music & Memory" nonprofit on the benefits of personalized music for people with dementia: musicandmemory.org

3.           If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original place.
Resource: National Institute on Aging on accommodating dementia-related behaviours and wandering: nia.nih.gov

4.           If I get dementia, don’t exclude me from parties and family gatherings.
Resource: Dementia UK’s advice on inclusive social events for people with dementia: dementiauk.org

5.           If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes.
Resource: Alzheimer’s Association on the importance of touch and maintaining physical connection: alz.org

6.           If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.
Resource: Alzheimer's Society emphasizes the need to treat those with dementia as the person they have always been: alzheimers.org.uk

7.           If I get dementia, encourage me to participate in art or music activities.
Resource: Alzheimer’s Foundation’s Creative Arts Therapy resources: alzfdn.org

8.           If I get dementia, create a calm and comfortable space for me to retreat to when I feel overwhelmed.
Resource: Dementia-friendly design suggestions by Dementia Australia: dementia.org.au

9.           If I get dementia, remind me of my accomplishments and things I was proud of.
Resource: Life story work techniques by the Alzheimer’s Society: alzheimers.org.uk

10.      If I get dementia, please keep family photos and familiar objects nearby.
Resource: National Institute on Aging on memory aids and familiar items: nia.nih.gov

11.      If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.

12.      If I get dementia, encourage me to participate in art or music activities. Creative activities can stimulate memory and improve mood. Resource: Alzheimer's Foundation offers art and music therapy ideas: alzfdn.org

13.      If I get dementia, create a calm and comfortable space for me to retreat to when I feel overwhelmed. Having a safe, quiet place can be grounding during periods of confusion. Resource: Dementia-friendly design tips are available from Dementia Australia: dementia.org.au 

14.      If I get dementia, remind me of my accomplishments and things I was proud of. This can help me hold on to my identity and feel valued. Resource: Life story work techniques are outlined by the Alzheimer's Society: alzheimers.org.uk 

15.   If I get dementia, please keep family photos and familiar objects nearby. 1.           Familiar items can serve as comforting connections to my past. Resource: The National Institute on Aging has suggestions for memory aids and familiar objects: nia.nih.gov