Age does not protect you from
love. But love, to some extent, protects you from age. - Anais Nin
The
history of Valentine's Day--and the story of its patron saint--is shrouded in
mystery. We do know that February has long been celebrated as a month of
romance, and that St. Valentine's Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges
of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition.
The Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine
or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. One legend contends that Valentine
was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius
II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and
families, he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice
of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young
lovers in secret. When Valentine's actions were discovered, Claudius ordered
that he be put to death.
Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to
help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons, where they were often beaten and
tortured.
According
to one legend, an imprisoned Valentine actually sent the first
"valentine" greeting himself after he fell in love with a young
girl--possibly his jailor's daughter--who visited him during his confinement.
Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter signed "From
your Valentine," an expression that is still in use today.
Although
the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories all emphasize his
appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and--most importantly--romantic figure
Valentine's Day: A Pagan Festival in February
Some claim that the Christian church may have
decided to place St. Valentine's feast day in the middle of February in an
effort to "Christianize" the pagan celebration of Lupercalia.
Celebrated at the ides of February, or February 15, Lupercalia was a fertility
festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the
Roman founders Romulus and Remus.
To begin the festival, members of the Luperci, an
order of Roman priests, would gather at a sacred cave where the infants Romulus
and Remus, the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a
she-wolf or lupa. The priests would sacrifice a goat, for fertility, and a dog,
for purification. They would then strip the goat's hide into strips, dip them
into the sacrificial blood and take to the streets, gently slapping both women
and crop fields with the goat hide. Far from being fearful, Roman women
welcomed the touch of the hides because it was believed to make them more
fertile in the coming year. Later in the day, according to legend, all the
young women in the city would place their names in a big urn. The city's
bachelors would each choose a name and become paired for the year with his
chosen woman.
Valentine's Day: A Day of Romance
Lupercalia survived the initial
rise of Christianity but was outlawed—as it was deemed “un-Christian”--at the
end of the 5th century, when Pope Gelasius declared February 14 St. Valentine's
Day. It was not until much later, however, that the day became definitively
associated with love. During the Middle Ages, it was commonly believed in
France and England that February 14 was the beginning of birds' mating season,
which added to the idea that the middle of Valentine's Day should be a day for
romance.
Valentine greetings were popular as far back as the Middle Ages, though written
Valentine's did not begin to appear until after 1400. The oldest known
valentine still in existence today was a poem written in 1415 by Charles, Duke
of Orleans, to his wife while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London
following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt
Today
more than 141 million Valentine's Day cards are
exchanged annually, making Valentine's Day the second-most popular
greeting-card-giving occasion. (This total excludes packaged kids valentines
for classroom exchanges.) (Source: Hallmark research)
We
continue to look for love, but the older males may have a better chance than
the younger men:
There
are 119 single men (i.e., never married, widowed or divorced)
who are in their 20s for every 100 single women of the same ages. Corresponding
numbers for the following race and ethnic groups are:
- Hispanics:
153 men per 100 women
- Asians
(single race): 132 men per 100 women (This ratio is not significantly
different from that for Hispanics or non-Hispanic whites.)
- Non-Hispanic
whites (single race): 120 men per 100 women
- Blacks
(single race): 92 men per 100 women (The numbers of black men and women in
this age group are not significantly different from one another.
There
are 34 single men (i.e., never married, widowed or divorced)
age 65 or older for every 100 single women of the same ages. Corresponding
numbers for the following race and ethnic groups are:
- Hispanics:
38 men per 100 women
- Non-Hispanic
whites (single race): 33 men per 100 women
- Blacks
(single race): 33 men per 100 women
- Asians
(single race): 28 men per 100 women
(Note:
None of the ratios for the individual groups differs significantly from one
another nor from the ratio for all people age 65 or older.)
904: The number
of dating service establishments nationwide as of 2002
2.2
million marriages
take place in the United
States annually. That breaks down to more than 6,000 a day. 35th.
The
estimated U.S. median ages at first marriage for women and men are 25.9
and 27.6 respectively, in 2008. The age for women rose 4.2 years in
the last three decades. The age for men at first marriage is up 3.6 years.
70%: The
percentage of men and women ages 30 to 34 in 2008 who had been married at some
point in their lives - either currently or formerly.
Candy
is Dandy
The
per capita consumption of candy by Americans in 2005 was 25.7 pounds.
Candy consumption has actually declined over the last few years; in 1997, each
American gobbled or savored more than 27 pounds of candy a year. Valentine’s
day is one of those days that adds to the the use of Candy as a gift.