Wednesday, February 27, 2019

Women in retirement

Here are some sobering statistics about women and why they need to start saving for their own retirement so starts the article by a writer for Liberty Financial Services. Yes, the stats quoted are scary, as is the rest of the article.

·       Two of every five marriages end in divorce before the 10th anniversary;
·       The mean age of a divorced woman is 44;
·       Women outlive men by 4.4 years;
·       Women earn 27% less than men as a result of the gender pay gap; at more senior levels, women earn 39% less;
·       One in every two families is headed by a single mother, and only 16% receive financial support from the father;
·       Working women are more likely to be caught in the sandwich generation – looking after their children as well as their parents.

The writer goes on to say that women are living longer than men, earning less, spending more on care both for children and parents. This means that women are poorly prepared for the retirement years.  When women are ready for retirement, the lack of savings puts women into the situation where they have to work past retirement age. 

So more women today are getting divorced and may have access to their ex-husband's pension when they are ready to retire. This is what happened to my brother-in-law and his ex-wife. She had never worked and did not have any savings, so when they divorced, she opted to collect her share of his pension. My brother-in-law actually worked past retirement to make sure she could not collect on his pension early. In the end, it has worked out for both of them. She started a career but will have to work until she is 65 and he retired and is able to live off his portion of his pension.

Women need to look at any pension funds or plans their husband is contributing to or has as an asset if they are getting a divorce. The reality is that they may have access to a portion of their ex-husband’s retirement fund when they divorce. If so, invest the funds in their own retirement or opt to be paid a portion of the pension when retired. Either way, make sure your lawyer ensures this is part of your settlement.

From a legal point of view, the most common type of marriage contracts is the in or out of community of property with accrual, meaning the wealth accrued from the date of marriage is shared equally on divorce. This allows the divorced woman to share equally in the wealth accrued during the marriage.

The author then goes on to say that women who are not saving 15% of their net income (after taxes and expenses) are living beyond their means. I think she is saying this to motivate women to save, but I am at a loss of how shaming people helps to motivate them. 
At the workshops, I give on health and wellness the majority of my audience, over 90% are retired women and I talk to them before and after the presentations. They appear to be living full, active and happy, productive lives, some live in retirement centers, the majority live at home, some live in women's co-op housing. The idea of ‘retirement savings’ is often looked upon with dread by women, since it conjures images of old age and decrepitude. This was the case in the late 20th century but for most people, this is no longer true, as many areas have safety nets to help.

However, many women are not making a good salary, they are making minimum wage or just beyond and they are struggling to pay rent, feed their families and survive, with no help from their ex-husbands. So, if you have no savings at all and nothing left at the end of the month to save what should you do?

The advice in the article is to stop living beyond your means and take on more work, which is not helpful. For many of us, the idea of saving for retirement in our 30’s 40’s and early 50’s is a dream. Life is expensive if you are making the average wage or below the average wage.  

In Canada and in the USA, there is government help, both at the Provincial and the Federal level when you turn 65 and have not saved enough. In Canada everyone at the age of 65 can claim the Old Age Security and if needed the Guaranteed Income Supplement. In the USA there is the Social Security benefit which is dependent on your age, but the maximum amount if you retire at age 65 is currently $31,068 a year. 

Not everyone is entitled or will collect the maximum in either country. So as women start to think about retirement, they need to know that there is some government assistance. This does not mean they should not save, but they could set a savings goal that is more realistic than 15% of net salary. Perhaps start by savings between 2 and 5% of gross income. Once the saving habit is established, then moving toward a higher goal and living with a culture of savings becomes easier. There are lots of products available to assist in developing the culture of saving. 

Tuesday, February 26, 2019

Ever wondered?

Early in our evolution as a species, when we did not have answers we created gods and goddess that helped us explain the unknown. As we matured and grew some of us put away our gods and goddess and created a single god to explain the unknown. This god was an angry, testing and a judgmental god. If we offended, angered him we would be punished. 

As we expanded, learned more and science gave us more answers, some of us changed our image of this god, to a more gentle, nurturing and loving goddess. This goddess is seen as some as a being, by others as a force or others as a life force or energy that is forever conspiring on our behalf. 

However, as we moved through our evolution there were a few of us who saw our god and goddess as ourselves. These few believed that god was within us and as we lived and created our world, the actions we took reinforced the idea that good and evil come only from within. 

So the actions you take, turning up the music, taking off your shoes, walking in the grass, unleashing the dogs, freeing the canary, catching a breeze, riding a wave, dancing every day, getting up early, taking a nap, staying out late, eating chocolate, feeling the love, giving stuff away, earning it back, giving some more, and laughing are ...the actions of gods and goddesses.

Monday, February 25, 2019

Some of My Favorite 'Old is' Jokes

Thanks to Wally for these gems
'OLD' IS WHEN...
Your sweetie says
'Let's go upstairs and make love'
And you answer:
'Pick one, I can't do both!'

'OLD' IS WHEN...
Your friends compliment you
On your new alligator shoes
And you're barefoot!

'OLD' IS WHEN...
A sexy babe or hunk catches your fancy ...
And your pacemaker opens the garage door!

'OLD' IS WHEN...
Going braless pulls all the wrinkles out of your face.

'OLD' IS WHEN...
You don't care where your spouse goes
... Just as long as you don't have to go along.


'OLD' IS WHEN...
You are cautioned to slow down
By the doctor instead of by the police

'OLD' IS WHEN...
'Getting a little action'
Means you don't need to take any fibre today

'OLD' IS WHEN...
'Getting lucky' means you find your car
... In the parking lot.

'OLD' IS WHEN...
An 'all nighter' means not getting up
To use the bathroom.

'OLD' IS WHEN...
Your doctor doesn't give you x-rays anymore but just holds you up to the light.

'OLD' IS WHEN...
A sexy babe catches your fancy and your pacemaker opens the garage door nearest your car.

'OLD' IS WHEN...
You remember when the Dead Sea was only sick.

'OLD' IS WHEN...
You enjoyed the Big Band Era: Sioux, Iroquois, Apache, Crow ...

'OLD' IS WHEN...
It takes two tries to get up from the couch.

'OLD' IS WHEN...
It takes longer to rest than it did to get tired.

'OLD' IS WHEN...
It takes twice as long to look half as good.

'OLD' IS WHEN....
Everything hurts and what doesn't hurt doesn't work.
'OLD' IS WHEN....
You give up all your bad habits and still don't feel good.

'OLD' IS WHEN....
You sit in a rocking chair and can't get it going.

'OLD' IS WHEN....
Rocking in a rocking chair feels like a roller coaster ride.

'OLD' IS WHEN....
Your knees buckle, and your belt won't.

'OLD' IS WHEN....
You have that “morning after” feeling when you wake up, but you didn’t party the night before.

AND
'OLD' IS WHEN....
You are not sure these are jokes!
Have a good day!
"Young at heart"
(slightly older in other places!)

Sunday, February 24, 2019

Consider

Considering your best and most beautiful dreams:

When your thoughts and visualizations pertain to the "hows" (how they will come true), or when they include an insistence upon unimportant details (virtually all details are unimportant; think of them, yes, but just don't attach to them), or when they require specific people to behave in specific ways... at the very best, your efforts will only increase the likelihood of your desired dream coming to pass.

Whereas, when your grandest and most glorious dreams are BIG-picture items, like rocking abundance, total fulfillment, amazing health, vivacious happiness, and the like, the floodgates of success begin to powerfully tremble and your
manifestation becomes inevitable. Just saying you should consider this the next time you start to visualize.