I recently read a post on Facebook about the advice given to
young men, back in 1933 about What a Young Man Should Know. A checklist for
becoming a proper man, published in the March 1933 issue of Harper’s Magazine.
The writer, Robert Littell, details the abilities, skills,
accomplishments, and extra-curricular proficiencies that every man should have
if they are to become a self-sufficient and well-rounded human being, ready for
life, and eventually, marriage and raising their own children. The learning
starts from a very young age.
For what it is worth, here is a tongue in cheek, updated version of the advice from 1933,
tailored for today's values and expectations:
Physical Skills:
Learn basic swimming skills for safety and fitness, but also
respect others' comfort in the water.
Understand car maintenance basics, like changing a tire and
recognizing common issues.
Focus on self-defence techniques that suit you, whether it's
traditional martial arts or modern self-defence methods.
Know how to handle emergencies in outdoor settings, from
basic first aid to survival skills.
Self-Care and Empathy:
Develop cooking skills for independence and enjoyment,
acknowledging that cooking is a valuable life skill regardless of gender.
Learn to take care of others in emergencies, such as
administering first aid or helping someone in distress.
Cultivate empathy and emotional intelligence, recognizing
the importance of mental health and well-being.
Practical Knowledge:
Gain proficiency in using tools for DIY projects and home
repairs.
Focus on effective communication, both in writing and
speaking, with a balance between handwritten notes and digital communication.
Understand financial literacy, including budgeting,
investing basics, and responsible consumption.
Hobbies and Interests:
Explore outdoor activities and sports that you enjoy,
emphasizing personal fulfillment over societal expectations.
Develop a hobby or artistic skill, such as playing a musical
instrument or engaging in creative pursuits.
Cultivate a love for learning, whether it's through language
study, travel experiences, or exploring new cultures.
Social Skills and Citizenship:
Practice public speaking and effective communication in
various settings.
Engage in community involvement and advocacy for causes you
believe in, promoting active citizenship.
Foster adaptability and resilience, embracing change and
growth opportunities.
This updated advice reflects a more inclusive and holistic
approach to personal development, focusing on skills that are relevant and
meaningful in today's diverse and dynamic world.
In the 1930s, advice regarding women often reflected
traditional gender roles and expectations. However, modern values have shifted
significantly, promoting equality, respect, and consent in relationships.
Respect and Equality:
In the past, advice may have emphasized chivalry and
protection as central to interactions with women.
Today, the focus is on mutual respect, recognizing women as
equals in all aspects of life, including work, relationships, and
decision-making.
Communication and Consent:
Earlier advice may have overlooked the importance of clear
communication and enthusiastic consent in relationships.
Modern advice stresses the importance of open communication,
active listening, and obtaining consent in all interactions, especially in
romantic and intimate relationships.
Supporting Independence:
Traditional advice might have encouraged men to be providers
and protectors, often overshadowing women's autonomy and aspirations.
Contemporary advice promotes supporting women's
independence, ambitions, and personal growth, fostering equal partnerships
based on mutual support and encouragement.
Embracing Diversity:
Past advice often conformed to narrow stereotypes of
femininity, excluding the diverse experiences and identities of women.
Current advice emphasizes embracing diversity, respecting
individual differences, and advocating for inclusivity and equality for women
of all backgrounds.
Rejecting Objectification:
Earlier guidance might have inadvertently perpetuated
objectification of women, focusing on superficial attributes or roles.
Today, there is a strong emphasis on rejecting
objectification, valuing women for their talents, intellect, and character,
rather than solely their appearance or societal roles.
These shifts in advice reflect broader societal changes
towards promoting gender equality, respect, and inclusivity, fostering
healthier and more fulfilling relationships between men and women.
