As we move into the final stage of our
life, we all want our story to be told. We all want to be remembered. In the
last few months. Many of us have different faces to present to the world. (The
song Two Faces Have I by Lou Christie springs to
mind) and many of our friends may only know one or two aspects of who we really
are. As we look back over our life, we also struggle to get our story told, in
a way that holds meaning for us. Story telling is part of human nature, we all
love stories and we all would love to be able to tell stories well
I have been to a number of
celebrations of life. Each one honored the person who had died. The friends and
relatives, told stories about how the person who had died, had made an impact
on their lives. There were many happy, poignant and heartfelt stories. People
learned new aspects of the friend they had lost. Yet some people struggled to
tell their story about the loved one meaningful for the audience.
I am always amazed by how we all tell stories
naturally, yet so many people struggle to tell stories that really work. When I say
really work, I mean that they do what stories do best --‐ engage your audience, create connections.
So here are some ideas on how to make your story meaningful.
First, Tell Your Own Story Don’t make it up.
Don’t borrow someone else’s story that inspired you. Don’t think that you don’t
have any interesting stories—everyone does. Everyday stories are what you
should be sharing, because we can all relate these stories are the real thing. The
trick is to make sure that you include something that MOVES you. If it moves
you it will resonate with the audience, it’s that simple. You see, when it’s true,
it’s easy to tell. No stress, no pressure,
Here
are some questions to ask yourself as you think about or write down the story:
1. Where were you? When you recall the moment, what
do you see? Describe the moment with all your senses. Set the scene
2. When did you notice something that made you feel
different to how you felt before?
3. Why was this event special? Why does it move you?
4. What is it’s meaning in relation those around
you?
Acknowledge
yourself. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt, we’re too quick to judge ourselves
(and others) negatively. Be proud of your story, it’s more powerful than you can
imagine. The importance of acknowledgment is vastly underestimated. The practice
of acknowledgement is often sorely lacking.
1.
How often do you acknowledge the people
around you; partner, family, friends, colleagues?
2.
How do you feel when your efforts are not
acknowledged?
3.
How can you create a practice of acknowledgement?
4.
What self--‐acknowledgement have you been
lacking?
To
start your story, list 10 achievements that you want to congratulate yourself for.
