Saturday, October 26, 2019

Don't assume


Mildred, the church gossip, and self-appointed monitor of the church's morals kept sticking her nose into other people's business.

Several members did not approve of her extra-curricular activities, but feared her enough to maintain their silence.

She made a mistake, however, when she accused George, a new member, of being an alcoholic after she saw his old pickup parked in front of the town's only bar one afternoon.

She emphatically told George and several others that everyone seeing it there would know what he was doing.

George, a man of few words, stared at her for a moment and just turned and walked away. He didn't explain, defend, or deny. He said nothing.

Later that evening, George quietly parked his pickup in front of Mildred's house... and left it there all night.




Friday, October 25, 2019

Do you belong to a club?


I think the idea of Senior Community Centers are a great idea and every senior should join. The range of activities they have is amazing and the people you meet are friendly and welcoming. One of my friends sent me this gem, so I thought I would share.

Yesterday my daughter e-mailed me again, asking why I didn't do something useful with my time.

“Like, me sitting around the pool and drinking wine is not a good thing?” I asked.

My "doing-something-useful" seems to be her favourite topic of conversation.

She was "only thinking of me", she said and suggested that I go down to the Senior Center and join something.

I did this and when I got home last night, I decided to play a prank on her.

I e-mailed her and told her that I had joined a Parachute Club.
She replied, “Mother, are you nuts ‘? You are 78 years old and now you're going to start jumping out of airplanes?"

I told her that I even got a Membership Card and e-mailed a copy to her.

She immediately telephoned me and yelled, "Good grief, Mom, where are your glasses’?! This is a Membership to a Prostitute Club, not a Parachute Club."

I calmly replied, "Oh my, I think I'm in real trouble then, because I signed up for five jumps a week!!”

The line went quiet and her friend picked up the phone and said that my daughter had fainted.

Life as a Senior Citizen is not getting any easier, but sometimes it can be really fun.

Just because you're "Young" doesn't mean that you can outsmart an "old Geezer “

Remember: Don't make old people mad. We don't like being old in the first place, so it doesn't take much to tick us off.

Thursday, October 24, 2019

22 percent of Millennial's say they have “no friends”


I was aware of the issue of loneliness and how dangerous it is to the health and well being of our senior population. In fact, I am on a team looking at the issue of isolation and loneliness in my city. However, I was not aware that loneliness was an issue among Millennials until I read the following article by Brian Resnick Aug 1, 2019. For the full article go here

Today, members of the millennial generation are ages 23 to 38. These ought to be prime years of careers taking off and starting families before joints really begin to ache. Yet as a recent poll and some corresponding research indicate, there’s something missing for many in this generation: companionship.

A recent poll from YouGov, a polling firm and market research company, found that 30 percent of millennials say they feel lonely. This is the highest percentage of all the generations surveyed.

Furthermore, 22 percent of millennials in the poll said they had zero friends. Twenty-seven percent said they had “no close friends,” 30 percent said they have “no best friends,” and 25 percent said they have no acquaintances. (I wonder if the poll respondents have differing thoughts on what “acquaintance” means; I take it to mean “people you interact with now and then.”)

In comparison, just 16 percent of Gen Xers and 9 percent of baby boomers say they have no friends.

The poll, which looked at 1,254 adults 18 and up, did not report results for the up-and-coming Gen Z (who report high levels of loneliness on other surveys), or for the oldest adults in the country. And we should note: Loneliness tends to increase markedly after age 75; social isolation among the elderly remains a huge problem that will only grow worse as baby boomers age. So perhaps it’s not the case that millennials are the loneliest of all.
  
If this generation is truly lonelier, that’s concerning for a number of reasons: Research shows that loneliness tends to increase as we get older. What will happen to millennials, who are already reporting high levels of loneliness, when they reach old age?

But while there may be something particular happening with millennials, it’s also possible loneliness naturally ebbs and flows throughout life.  In 1990 a meta-analysis (a study of studies), which included data on 25,000 people, found that “loneliness was highest among young adults, declined over midlife, and increased modestly in old age.”

More recently, in a 2016 paper, researchers in Germany found a peak of loneliness in a sample of 16,000 Germans at around age 30, another around age 50, and then increasing again at age 80.

The bigger point, she said, was “researchers have ignored that loneliness can happen at any time.”

And that’s important. Because loneliness is bad for our health.

Loneliness is associated with higher blood pressure and heart disease — it literally breaks our hearts. A 2015 meta-review of 70 studies showed that loneliness increases the risk of dying by 26 percent. (Compare that to depression and anxiety, which is associated with a comparable 21 percent increase in mortality.) There’s evidence that chronic loneliness can turn on genes involved with inflammation, which can be a risk factor for heart disease and cancer.

Make no mistake: We need the stress. We need some amount of loneliness. The pain of loneliness is a reminder that we are social creatures who need other people. It’s also important to recognize that loneliness isn’t the same as having a few friends. It’s the perceived social isolation that harms us. We can certainly have fulfilling, protective relationships with just a few people.

“As long as we then do what we should do — reconnect with people — then loneliness is a good thing,” Luhmann said. “It becomes a bad thing when it becomes chronic. That’s when the health effects kick in. And it becomes harder and harder to connect with other people the longer you are in the state of loneliness.”

Tuesday, October 22, 2019

Phases of Retirement Phase 3

The third stage of retirement is the Dependent Stage. The Dependent Phase of later life is associated with:
                More severe physical declines and limitations, which may limit individuals in this phase from continued independent living. 12% of those aged 80 and over live in residential and nursing homes. Half (47%) of those in the Dependent Phase says that their health prevents them from doing the things they would like to do.
                A significantly increased risk of experiencing accelerated cognitive decline as the probability of suffering dementia increases with age. One in three people aged 95 and older suffer from dementia, compared to one in six aged over 80 and one in fourteen aged over 65.97
                High risk of loneliness and other experiences of adverse mental and emotional wellbeing. 14% of people in the Dependent Phase say they lack companionship, feel isolated from others or feel lonely often.
                High risk of social exclusion as severe physical limitations inhibit individuals from actively engaging with their community, as well as accessing basic services. Around one in five people in the Dependent Phase find it difficult or even impossible to access basic services such as banks, shops and GPs.
People in the Dependent Phase have at least one severe physical limitation. During this phase, risks especially during the Decline Phase increase further. While transitioning into the Dependent Phase does not necessarily mean that an individual will have to move into a care facility, they are likely to need substantial support if they are to continue living independently, as well as being protected from increased risk of social isolation.