Showing posts with label attitude adjustment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label attitude adjustment. Show all posts

Sunday, May 21, 2017

When will your flowers bloom?

When you reach retirement it is time to explore new adventures, but many are afraid of change and want to stay in their comfort zone. 

Think about your life as a garden, In your garden, some flowers bloom in the spring, some bloom in the summer, some in the fall, and some in early winter. We are the same, some people bloom late. Some very late. And some, very, very late.  But, they all bloom. 

And the longer it takes, the more spectacular it is. Quite the deal waiting for you, just around the corner if you only have the courage to take the first step.

Thursday, May 11, 2017

All the world's a stage

.... and all the men and women merely players.   - William Shakespeare 

Do you 
  • expect people to behave a certain way and at a certain time?
  • To react a certain way?
  • To say a certain thing?
  • To send the correct emoji response to my last text?
If you do, then you have probably been disappointed, life is not a scripted event, it is an improv. Every day we create stories for our lives. Sometimes are stories are happy, sometimes they are sad, but most of the time, they are a surprise. 

If you were the director of your play of life, you could expect the players to respond as you want them to, say what you want them to say, when you need them to say the lines. But we have no director and so we stumble through each day and hope that we remain the hero/heroine of our day. Sometimes we surprise ourselves and get to be the hero, other times we play supporting cast to others who we interact with every day. 

Each day is a surprise and the opportunity for a new story or a new chapter in or ongoing story. When we look back at our lives, we will not "sweat the small stuff", but we will remember relationships and the feelings we received from these relationships, 

Are you the hero of your story that you hoped you would be when you were ten? If not perhaps it is time to change the channel or open a new chapter of your story. Remember it is never too late

Friday, May 5, 2017

Make a difference

The difference you make in someone else's life will always be smaller than the difference it will make in your own life.
How do you make a difference in someone's life? I believe we make a difference by the little things we do or say. The small touch, of encouragement, the smile at the end of the day, the look of admiration for a job well done. We remember the little things because they add up. 

Many years ago, I had my senior students reflect and consider their elementary years, and what made a difference to them during those years. The answers were not about big gestures, but about how an adult had reached out, cared for them in a time of stress, or laughed with them in a time of fun. Those little gestures were what was remembered.

Life is, for most of us a series of small events that we weave together to make a story that reflects who we are, or who we want to become. We, I am told see and retain everything in our heads, but we choose what we want to recall, and want we want to make important, and those important events are usually not the big events, but the small ones.

So by making small positive gestures, you can have an impact on another person. Try it, maybe next time you are walking, smile and say high or just nod. Little gestures can have big impacts. 

Sunday, December 25, 2016

What do you want to do when you grow up?

On this Boxing day in Canada, many of us are out searching for the bargains to be had in the retail stores. But some of us may be asking ourselves, what do I want to do when I grow up?

Sure, we ask it when we're kids. I still ask it to myself but people laugh when I do and I wonder why?

Many of us keep on asking it. I've heard it from people of all ages and at all stages of life. 

Unemployed people ask it.

People with rewarding careers ask it.

People who have retired ask it

So why can't we stop asking ourselves: "What do I want to be when I grow up?"

I know that, for me, it's because I don't think I have "grown up" yet.

Another reason I have is it's because I don't want to grow up yet.

At this time of my life, I feel that I should somehow KNOW what I am meant to do with the rest of my life.

Or perhaps I am waiting for a burning bush to show me the way.

No matter when or why you ask this question, the real question is about choosing your purpose and passion in life- a.k.a. figuring out what you want to be when you grow up.  

So finding your passion is a lifelong quest that hopefully as we move through the holidays, you can take the time, to find time to meditate and find an answer to this quest. So my hope for you is that rather than finding that retail bargain, you find the answer to this question on this Boxing day.

Friday, December 23, 2016

What are you playing at right now?

 Happy Friday! You made it through another work-week! Xmas is on Sunday and the season of joy is here.

Remember the opening of The Flinstones? The foreman looked at his watch and pulled the tail of a bird who acted as the pre-historic "quitting time whistle". Then Fred would slide gleefully down the tail of his dinosaur and jump into his car while yelling "Yabba Dabba Doo!,"(I know you want to sing the song - here, let me save you the trouble of looking it up. Click here to hear the song)

Well, if you don't live in Bedrock City and if you're like most people, "work" doesn't really end at quitting time on Friday. For a lot of people, it never really ends. We're workaholics, even in retirement we have trouble finding time and we still work, but we may not get paid.

So today, right now, two days before Xmas, I want you to think about your life for a moment. Not your job, your LIFE. Are you thinking about it? Good! Now I have two questions for you....

1. What are you working on right now?
  • Maybe you're working on becoming more forgiving and having more peace.
  • Maybe you're working on improving your health and fitness.
  • Maybe you're working on increasing your finances
  • Maybe you're working on deepening your relationships.


I want you to change "working to" to "playing at" and see what that does for your energy levels. Think about this time of year and when you were younger, we didn’t work, we played. So the question is:

2. What are you playing at right now? Do you
  • Play at becoming more forgiving and having more peace.
  • Play at improving your health and fitness.
  • Play at increasing your finances
  • Play at deepening your relationships.

What else would you like to play at?

What else would be possible in your life if you consciously embodied the energy of "play" in more of your daily activities (especially the important ones)?


Let's make a new year resolution to find out, shall we?

Wednesday, October 5, 2016

Fuzzy as dice

You don't have to take everything so seriously. 

Life isn't black and white, answers aren't always yes or no, and absolutely nothing has to happen today. 

Act when you're ready. Be led by your feelings. 

And the next time someone wants to fit you into a mold, just tell 'em that your jeans are in the wash, your angels are at the mall, and Oprah's on the other line. 




Wednesday, August 17, 2016

Task No. 7: Rebirth – Dying With Life Jung

At some level we all wonder what is this dream we call life, where is it going and does it matter?

So each of us has our own understanding of what death means to us so is there life after death, as some believe, or do we reincarnate as others believe or do we just cease to be? Whatever you believe, this task is designed to allow you to face and fully understand you believe will happen to you when you die

“Jung’s last task of aging, “Rebirth — dying with life," is a familiar theme throughout the religious genre, but he was not thinking religion when he framed that task.

Rebirth after dying with life transports a person into the timeless domains of an artist lost in his or her work or a child absorbed in play when living in the time of a delicious moment is all that matters.”

So here are some quotes from others who have looked at death and have perhaps some thoughts we should consider:

We are going to die, and that makes us the lucky ones. Most people are never going to die because they are never going to be born. The potential people who could have been here in my place but who will in fact never see the light of day outnumber the sand grains of Sahara. Certainly those unborn ghosts include greater poets than Keats, scientists greater than Newton. We know this because the set of possible people allowed by our DNA so massively outnumbers the set of actual people. In the teeth of these stupefying odds it is you and I, in our ordinariness, that are here.
Richard Dawkins, 'Unweaving The Rainbow'; Dawkins has stated on many occasions that this passage will be read at his funeral.

Shakespeare poignantly captures the timelessness that comes with rebirth in King Lear’s soliloquy to his daughter Cordelia in the time of their dying as though it were the time of their living for the first time:
 …Come, Let’s away to prison:
We two alone will sing like birds i’the cage:
When thou dost ask me blessing, I’ll kneel down
And ask of thee forgiveness: so we’ll live,
And pray, and sing, and tell old tales, and laugh
At gilded butterflies, and hear poor rogues
Talk of court news; and we’ll talk with them too,
Who loses and who wins; who’s in , who’s out;
And take upon’s the mystery of things,
As if we were God’s spies: and we’ll wear out,
In a walled prison, packs and sects of great ones,
That ebb and flow by th’moon.
—The Tragedy of King Lear, Act V/Scene 3

I believe this thought, of the possibility of death — if calmly realised, and steadily faced would be one of the best possible tests as to our going to any scene of amusement being right or wrong. If the thought of sudden death acquires, for you, a special horror when imagined as happening in a theatre, then be very sure the theatre is harmful for you, however harmless it may be for others; and that you are incurring a deadly peril in going. Be sure the safest rule is that we should not dare to live in any scene in which we dare not die.
But, once realise what the true object is in life — that it is not pleasure, not knowledge, not even fame itself, 'that last infirmity of noble minds' — but that it is the development of character, the rising to a higher, nobler, purer standard, the building-up of the perfect Man — and then, so long as we feel that this is going on, and will (we trust) go on for evermore, death has for us no terror; it is not a shadow, but a light; not an end, but a beginning! Lewis Carroll, Sylvie and Bruno (1889), Preface

Death is not the end. Death can never be the end. Death is the road. Life is the traveller. The soul is the guide. Sri Chinmoy, My Rose Petals (1971)

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.  Steve Jobs, Stanford University commencement address (12 June 2005)

When you think of your own death, the fact that all the good things in life will come to an end is certainly a reason for regret. But that doesn't seem to be the whole story. Most people want there to be more of what they enjoy in life, but for some people, the prospect of nonexistence is itself frightening, in a way that isn't adequately explained by what has been said so far. The thought that the world will go on without you, that you will become nothing, is very hard to take in.

The fear of death is very puzzling, in a way that regret about the end of life is not. It's easy to understand that we might want to have more life, more of the things it contains, so that we see death as a negative evil. But how can the prospect of your own nonexistence be alarming in a positive way? If we really cease to exist at death, there's nothing to look forward to, so how can there be anything to be afraid of? If one thinks about it logically, it seems as though death should be something to be afraid of only if we will survive it, and perhaps undergo some terrifying transformation. But that doesn't prevent many people from thinking that annihilation is one of the worst things that could happen to them. Thomas Nagel, What Does It All Mean?: A Very Short Introduction to Philosophy (1987), Ch. 9. Death

Sunday, August 14, 2016

Do you know?

Have   your grandchildren or children ever asked you, 

Do you know why:

Koala bears are so cute? 

Ospreys dance in flight? 

Cheetahs run so fast? 

Arctic terns fly so far? 

Flowers smell so good? 

Blueberries taste so blue? 

Butterflies flit? 

Parrots talk? 

Whales sing? 

And doves coo? 

I don't know the real answers but I tell them that it is because life is wonderous and amazing and fun. I also tell them that my wish for you is that you embrace our wonderful, amazing and fun life in all you do. 

Saturday, August 13, 2016

Do you worry?

Many of us worry, we worry about age, we worry about tasks, we worry about health, we worry about wealth. Well I believe that you needn't worry. There is time. 

You have all the time in the world.  Age is irrelevant; more meaningless than a number. 

There is no dream you now have that you will not manifest. 

There is no challenge you now face that you will not crush and dispose of. 

There is no point in spending one more second of your awesome, amazing life, thinking anything to the contrary. 

Remember if you have control than you can change whatever it is you are worried about; if you do not have control, then you can manage your reactions to whatever you are worried about. Either way you are in control and time is on your side.

Sunday, June 12, 2016

Optical illusions that trick your mind

For fun, here is a link to some optical illusions that  prove that reality is in the mind of the observer and reality may be nothing like you think it is.

Monday, March 7, 2016

Be proud to know

We each have a story to tell, so be proud to know as much as you do as you go about life, dream your dreams, and face your reality.

Remember  that it took you a long time and it was a long climb up the stairway of enlightenment, and you fought many a battle over false beliefs and mass consciousness and won. 


Live your truth, but remember that you don't always have to shout it from the rooftop,  but don't shy away from the ignorant; they need you. Nor be intimidated by the wise; they love you. 


And please don't ever let self-consciousness keep you from stepping out into a world that would be unimaginably incomplete without you. 


To your friends, family and many others you are a vessel of light, a holy ghost, and frankly, so very "hot."  


So live your story and tell your story, you have an audience eager to learn from your story.


Saturday, March 5, 2016

Imagination

There's a name for the magic which transforms lives, connects dots, moves mountains, and orchestrates coincidences that shock and astound. 

Imagination. 


And there's a name for all that stops you in your tracks, stirs fear, spins wheels, and leaves you wondering, "Hey, what's up with that?" 


Imagination. 


Careful when you using imagination, it can change your life

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Acts of kindness

Acts of kindness, however small - a smile, a compliment, a helping hand - plant seeds of hope, love, and beauty in a spectacular garden you'll one day call home. 

So in the upcoming dark days of winter as January aproaches, spread some seeds that will give you and others a chance to enjoy the upcoming spring.


Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Why are you here?

You are not on earth to:
  • make things happen. 
  • spread the love. 
  • make it a better place or to learn acceptance of the things you cannot change. 
  • find your soul mate or your purpose. 
  • put the needs of others before your own.
  • suffer, pay penance, be tested, or judged. 


Did I leave anything out? 

You are on earth, 


because in your loftiest state of being, perched high above the wonderment, at the pinnacle of your glory, 

you wondered what it would be like, even fleetingly, to believe in limits. 

By the way....

Hoping, wishing, and praying,  shouldn't ever be confused with doing. 

Know what I mean?  

So remove your own limits and start doing.

Wednesday, July 1, 2015

What if?

What if daily, hour by hour, minute by minute, second by second, you are admired by eyes in the unseen?

What if you were deeply understood; your actions and inactions honoured; your thoughts and deeds saluted; even your fears and challenges admired, along with the courage it took to choose them (Yeah, you chose them.)?

There is someone who believes that having a connection with a soul as adventurous as yours gives them  reason to party like "the roof is on fire."  Thanks and remember life is worth the adventure! 

Thursday, June 18, 2015

What does it mean to emotionally heal?

It means that you:

Know what you are thinking or doing that causes fear, anxiety, depression, guilt, fear, anger, jealousy, and so on, and how to learn from and heal these painful feelings.

No longer turn to addictions to avoid loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, sorrow or grief because you know how to manage and release these painful feelings. 

Do not feel like a victim of others' choices and instead operate from a place of personal power, taking loving care of yourself rather than being reactive. 

Are able to manifest the gifts you have been given and spend your time in what brings you joy. 

Know how to fill yourself with love and share love with others rather than trying to get love and approval from others.

Friday, January 2, 2015

Be eager some things to ponder as we move into 2015

Here’s Susan Sontag:

Do stuff. Be clenched, curious. Not waiting for inspiration’s shove or society’s kiss on your forehead. Pay attention. It’s all about paying attention. Attention is vitality. It connects you with others. It makes you eager. Stay eager.”

I love these words from Gandhi:

Our thoughts become our words, our words become our actions, our actions become our character, our character becomes our destiny.”

David McRaney states:

For many things, your attitudes came from actions that led to observations that led to explanations that led to beliefs. Your actions tend to chisel away at the raw marble of your persona, carving into being the self you experience from day to day. It doesn't feel that way, though. To conscious experience, it feels as if you were the one holding the chisel, motivated by existing thoughts and beliefs. It feels as though the person wearing your pants performed actions consistent with your established character, yet there is plenty of research suggesting otherwise. The things you do often create the things you believe.

Here’s Kevin Kelly, futurist and Wired founder and brilliant, brilliant man, pondering the future of the book:

Over the next century, scholars and fans, aided by computational algorithms, will knit together the books of the world into a single networked literature. A reader will be able to generate a social graph of an idea, or a timeline of a concept, or a networked map of influence for any notion in the library. We’ll come to understand that no work, no idea, stands alone, but that all good, true and beautiful things are networks, ecosystems of intertwingled parts, related entities and similar works.”

Monday, December 22, 2014

Why is it so important to keep a journal?

Keeping a journal will absolutely change your life in ways you've never imagined." - Oprah Winfrey

Why is it so important to keep a journal?


As our thoughts turn towards the holiday season and many of us get ready for some well deserved relaxation and fun with family and friends.This time of year is wonderful for so many different reasons, but what makes it so special is simply that ‘it gives me time to think.’ Yes I know I’m a thinker and I spend a LOT of time thinking, but at Christmas I get time to do ‘a different type of thinking…’
At Christmas you are free to think without other people’s agendas. You are not doing so much so you can be more conscious to your life, what’s important to you… Christmas time is your time a
nd it’s your time to think.
As you think your personal journal will:

  • Remind you of your goals and the actions you are taking towards them every day. Your are writing down your goals for next year right?
  • Allow you to factually track your progress as you head closer towards your goals. 
  • Help build your self-esteem because you are reaffirming the positive benefits you are achieving as you get closer to your goals.
  • Help to paint the picture every day of who you are becoming.
 When you see positive results as they happen, you will become energized with optimism.

Do you remember these?

Here are a couple of simple journal tips:

Keep a simple, short log , it's easy, and it usually only takes 1 minute of your time. Each day, make short entries into your journal, list such things as your attitude, emotions, diet, weight,
responses to situations and conditions in your life.

For example, if having a healthy heart is one of your goals, you will want to keep track of your cholesterol levels, your blood pressure, your weight. (Obviously, all of this data would not be
recorded daily, but some entry would be recorded each day)

Try this simple little exercise.

Get out a note pad or a sheet of paper and a pencil. Look at your watch. When the second hand hits 12, start timing yourself as you write down the following information:

5/27/12 Sun.-Felt great all day. Weight 135 pounds. Walked briskly for 20 minutes. Had healthy almonds and nuts for snacks.

More then likely, you completed writing down the information in approximately 1 minute. Yet, in that 1 minute, you created an important snapshot of important data in your life. You now have
historical data you c
an refer to as time goes by, to help you track your progress as you move towards your life goals.

Saturday, December 20, 2014

A time of hope and renewal,

On this Saturday before Christmas, a time of hope and renewal,  here's a clue on how to know when new experiences, like you've never experienced before, are about to transform your life, even though nothing seems to be happening.

For the first time in your life, even though nothing seems to be happening, you start saying and doing things that you've never said or done before.

Sunday, December 14, 2014

Think about this over the holiday

Many people at this time of year become depressed and find the holidays a lonely and upsetting time. For those people think about this, it's not really a matter of feeling worthy of love, friends, health, or wealth. Or of appreciating what you already have. Or even of learning to love yourself. These don't have to come first. You don't have to wear a halo to manifest the changes you want. 

It's simply a matter of understanding that if you do your part: visualize, prepare the way, and act "as if," without looking over your shoulder for quick results, what you want must be added unto you... as will the feelings of worthiness, appreciation and loving your most lovable self.