One view is that people stuggle because they have forgotten who they are.
By that we mean your True and Authentic Self, on the other hand, who we THINK we are
is how we show up in life. If we are struggling it may be that we will never be who we are.
Who we THINK we are comes from listening to other people rather than listening to ourselves. Because we have listened to others most of our life, we find ourselves believing what we are told. For a large portion of my life we choose to believe what others tell you to believe. Many of you may have learned early that what other people think of you is more important that what you think of youir self.
What I suggest is you start to focus on WHO YOU ARE and what you can do in this moment. Life is not about who you are not, what you cannot do, and what you don't have, it is about who you are, what you can do and what you have or what you want.
WHO YOU ARE is everything. It is the ONLY thing that really matters because everything hinges on your ability to be yourself and to do that you must become intimately aware of the false beliefs you have about yourself and about the way life works.
Do you accept life as it is? Remember, this is not always easy and doesn't always follow a straight and convenient path. Do you let life unfold through them instead of putting their life into a box of expectations.
Your greatness is not dependent upon anything you accomplish. You don't need to prove anything to anyone - even yourself. I am here to tell you one thing - you and everyone that comes in contact with you are already great. To live your greatness, you must know WHO YOU ARE and you must do what you can do in THIS MOMENT. Nothing else is required.
I AM A SONIC BOOMER, NOT A SENIOR... In this blog, I am writing to and for those who believe that the Boomers will change what the word Senior means. I also believe that Boomers will change what retirement means in our society. The blog is also for those who are interested in what life after retirement may look like for them. In this blog, I highlight and write about issues that I believe to be important both for Seniors and working Boomers.
Showing posts with label belief. Show all posts
Showing posts with label belief. Show all posts
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Monday, February 7, 2011
self esteem vs self improvement
Do you live under the illusion that you are "not good enough"? I have heard it said that many of us, when we listen to our self talk only hear the negative voice, which drowns out the positive affirmations we need. Sure we are all flawed in some ways, but this idea that there is something inherently wrong with us is absurd. If you believe that there is something wrong with you how did you come to this conclusion? Who in your life is holding the measuring tape that you are looking at and seeing the negative. I suspect that it issome authority figure, organization or religion that is trying to control you by attacking your self-worth.
Self-improvement can say to some that you are broken and you need to be fixed rather than I am good and need to get better. Some of you come to this idea because you are striving to be something or someone other than who you are.
Self-worth is needed before you can improve. Self-worth is knowing that you already have everything you need and that you are the person you've been waiting for. There is nothing to reach. There is only BEING and LIVING who you are.
You are worthy of love, belonging, wealth, because you are one with All That Is. You need "self-improvement" but only after you have accepted yourself and believe in your self-worth. If you believe in your self-wortt, then you can start to improve who you are -your Authentic Self.
The goal in life is not to BECOME who you are, but to ACCEPT who you are. Said another way, if you believe where you are today isn't good enough, then nothing you can do or achieve will ever be good enough. You can't be fixed because you are not broken, but once you accept that you have self worth, then you can begin to grow and reach your capacity..
Let's go back to the metaphor of the acorn and the oak tree. The acorn is complete, but it still it is not an oak tree. It contains the BLUEPRINT of the oak tree and by realizing its CAPACITY to be an oak tree on a day-to-day bases, it grows into the fullness of that inherent blueprint. We are like the acorn and
each of us has the ability to embrace the perfect blueprint of our greatness.
The ONLY way you can eliminate the feeling that you are "not enough" is to declare RIGHT NOW that you have the CAPACITY for greatness and that you are enough just the way you are and then start to live that on a daily basis.
What is important to remember is you have self-worth.Once you accept that you are worthy and accept your self, your sense of self-worth will naturally expands to make room for the capacity that is within us all.
Self-improvement can say to some that you are broken and you need to be fixed rather than I am good and need to get better. Some of you come to this idea because you are striving to be something or someone other than who you are.
Self-worth is needed before you can improve. Self-worth is knowing that you already have everything you need and that you are the person you've been waiting for. There is nothing to reach. There is only BEING and LIVING who you are.
You are worthy of love, belonging, wealth, because you are one with All That Is. You need "self-improvement" but only after you have accepted yourself and believe in your self-worth. If you believe in your self-wortt, then you can start to improve who you are -your Authentic Self.
The goal in life is not to BECOME who you are, but to ACCEPT who you are. Said another way, if you believe where you are today isn't good enough, then nothing you can do or achieve will ever be good enough. You can't be fixed because you are not broken, but once you accept that you have self worth, then you can begin to grow and reach your capacity..
Let's go back to the metaphor of the acorn and the oak tree. The acorn is complete, but it still it is not an oak tree. It contains the BLUEPRINT of the oak tree and by realizing its CAPACITY to be an oak tree on a day-to-day bases, it grows into the fullness of that inherent blueprint. We are like the acorn and
each of us has the ability to embrace the perfect blueprint of our greatness.
The ONLY way you can eliminate the feeling that you are "not enough" is to declare RIGHT NOW that you have the CAPACITY for greatness and that you are enough just the way you are and then start to live that on a daily basis.
What is important to remember is you have self-worth.Once you accept that you are worthy and accept your self, your sense of self-worth will naturally expands to make room for the capacity that is within us all.
Saturday, January 8, 2011
New Years
As I said in yesterdays post, we had a scheduled dinner cruise planned, and it was New Years Eve. The dinner cruise was enjoyed by my wife and her mother, while I enjoyed a very good pizza and nice music. When the cruise was over the time was close to 8:00 pm so we drove back to the Condo and watched the New Years Eve celebrations around the world. I was impressed by Australia, Berlin and London. At 11:30 we went down to the beach in front of the Condo and joined a few hundred others watching the fireworks along the beach.
There is a new law in Maui that prohibits fireworks that actually go into the air over 10 feet --without a licence--so the fireworks were rather tame. At midnight one of the large hotels down the beach set off their display of fireworks and it was fantastic, a job well done and breathtaking to observe. I thought to myself what a magical time, I am standing on the beach under a clear skyin Maui, listening to the wave break on the shore, while watching fireworks break above palm trees celebrating the arrival of a new year.
2011 is starting off to be a good year. I am looking forward to new adventures and challenges as the year unfolds.
There is a new law in Maui that prohibits fireworks that actually go into the air over 10 feet --without a licence--so the fireworks were rather tame. At midnight one of the large hotels down the beach set off their display of fireworks and it was fantastic, a job well done and breathtaking to observe. I thought to myself what a magical time, I am standing on the beach under a clear skyin Maui, listening to the wave break on the shore, while watching fireworks break above palm trees celebrating the arrival of a new year.
2011 is starting off to be a good year. I am looking forward to new adventures and challenges as the year unfolds.
Saturday, December 25, 2010
Merry Xmas to all
Royce
Friday, December 24, 2010
The Night beofe Xmas
THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMASby Clement Clarke Moore
'Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house
Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse;
The stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
In hopes that St. Nicholas soon would be there;
The children were nestled all snug in their beds,
While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads;
And mamma in her 'kerchief, and I in my cap,
Had just settled down for a long winter's nap,
When out on the lawn there arose such a clatter,
I sprang from the bed to see what was the matter.
Away to the window I flew like a flash,
Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash.
The moon on the breast of the new-fallen snow
Gave the lustre of mid-day to objects below,
When, what to my wondering eyes should appear,
But a miniature sleigh, and eight tiny reindeer,
With a little old driver, so lively and quick,
I knew in a moment it must be St. Nick.
More rapid than eagles his coursers they came,
And he whistled, and shouted, and called them by name;
"Now, Dasher! now, Dancer! now, Prancer and Vixen!
On, Comet! on Cupid! on, Donder and Blitzen!
To the top of the porch! to the top of the wall!
Now dash away! dash away! dash away all!"
As dry leaves that before the wild hurricane fly,
When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky,
So up to the house-top the coursers they flew,
With the sleigh full of toys, and St. Nicholas too.
And then, in a twinkling, I heard on the roof
The prancing and pawing of each little hoof.
As I drew in my head, and was turning around,
Down the chimney St. Nicholas came with a bound.
He was dressed all in fur, from his head to his foot,
And his clothes were all tarnished with ashes and soot;
A bundle of toys he had flung on his back,
And he looked like a peddler just opening his pack.
His eyes -- how they twinkled! his dimples how merry!
His cheeks were like roses, his nose like a cherry!
His droll little mouth was drawn up like a bow,
And the beard of his chin was as white as the snow;
The stump of a pipe he held tight in his teeth,
And the smoke it encircled his head like a wreath;
He had a broad face and a little round belly,
That shook, when he laughed like a bowlful of jelly.
He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf,
And I laughed when I saw him, in spite of myself;
A wink of his eye and a twist of his head,
Soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread;
He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work,
And filled all the stockings; then turned with a jerk,
And laying his finger aside of his nose,
And giving a nod, up the chimney he rose;
He sprang to his sleigh, to his team gave a whistle,
And away they all flew like the down of a thistle.
But I heard him exclaim, ere he drove out of sight,"Happy Christmas to all, and to all a good-night."
'Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house
Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse;
The stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
In hopes that St. Nicholas soon would be there;
The children were nestled all snug in their beds,
While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads;
And mamma in her 'kerchief, and I in my cap,
Had just settled down for a long winter's nap,
When out on the lawn there arose such a clatter,
I sprang from the bed to see what was the matter.
Away to the window I flew like a flash,
Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash.
The moon on the breast of the new-fallen snow
Gave the lustre of mid-day to objects below,
When, what to my wondering eyes should appear,
But a miniature sleigh, and eight tiny reindeer,
With a little old driver, so lively and quick,
I knew in a moment it must be St. Nick.
More rapid than eagles his coursers they came,
And he whistled, and shouted, and called them by name;
"Now, Dasher! now, Dancer! now, Prancer and Vixen!
On, Comet! on Cupid! on, Donder and Blitzen!
To the top of the porch! to the top of the wall!
Now dash away! dash away! dash away all!"
As dry leaves that before the wild hurricane fly,
When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky,
So up to the house-top the coursers they flew,
With the sleigh full of toys, and St. Nicholas too.
And then, in a twinkling, I heard on the roof
The prancing and pawing of each little hoof.
As I drew in my head, and was turning around,
Down the chimney St. Nicholas came with a bound.
He was dressed all in fur, from his head to his foot,
And his clothes were all tarnished with ashes and soot;
A bundle of toys he had flung on his back,
And he looked like a peddler just opening his pack.
His eyes -- how they twinkled! his dimples how merry!
His cheeks were like roses, his nose like a cherry!
His droll little mouth was drawn up like a bow,
And the beard of his chin was as white as the snow;
The stump of a pipe he held tight in his teeth,
And the smoke it encircled his head like a wreath;
He had a broad face and a little round belly,
That shook, when he laughed like a bowlful of jelly.
He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf,
And I laughed when I saw him, in spite of myself;
A wink of his eye and a twist of his head,
Soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread;
He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work,
And filled all the stockings; then turned with a jerk,
And laying his finger aside of his nose,
And giving a nod, up the chimney he rose;
He sprang to his sleigh, to his team gave a whistle,
And away they all flew like the down of a thistle.
But I heard him exclaim, ere he drove out of sight,"Happy Christmas to all, and to all a good-night."
Saturday, December 18, 2010
Continuation of Ian's Thoughts
The Buddha talked about illusion. We perceive the world through our senses, but the senses are conditioned and constrained by our beliefs, so we can only receive a narrow stream of information.
Tom and his children live in a garage.
Is Tom a bad father? Does he gamble away his salary? Is he too lazy to work? Does he get a job then get sacked because he has a bad temper? Is he abusive towards his children? Does he resent the fact that his buddies go out every night and he has to stay home with the kids? Does Tom believe he and his children deserve no better? Should Welfare come and take his children away?
True story. When I was a kid, one of my school buddies lived in a garage.
His mother had died, and there were no family to help with the kids.
My buddy's father worked two jobs to send his three kids to the second-top private school in Adelaide (capital of South Australia), where my dad sent me (and my dad had to get a second job as well to pay fees). And could only afford to rent a garage.
All we can say for sure is that my buddy and his family lived in a garage, because anything else is illusion that we are laying over the bare facts -why didn't Tom send his three kids to public school and buy a house, for
instance.
I think it's impossible to live without illusion, because without it, the world is incomprehensible. On a mechanistic level, our senses filter and approximate input so that we can deal with the massive amount of
information tumbling down on us every second. This works fine, but optical illusions (for example) show that our senses are constantly creating illusory representations of real-world data.
At a higher level, children operate though uninformed illusion. Loud noise = danger = be scared of loud noises. Distorted faces = danger/anger = be scared of people with facial injuries. Fast movement = threat = be scared of dogs jumping up.
Even the Buddhist statement that all creatures desire compassion and kindness is illusory. It just happens to be the most productive illusion, since it intends no harm to any creature. It's a nice convergence with
evolution, too, as it parallels the notion that creatures adapt for survival, and that social creatures (such as ourselves) only survive optimally if we extend compassion and kindness to each others.
So, I agree that it's neccessary to "look inside", but that looking needs to examine our illusions about ourselves and the world, and to discover whether they are productive. "Compulsive helpers" will often justify their actions on the basis of altruism, even when those actions are detrimental to those they profess to help - such people need to hear "but it *is* all about you", and to examine the illusion that they are somehow uniquely called to set the world to rights.
In the worst case, illusion leads to fanaticism, and we've got so many examples from history (and right now) that I don't need to list them.
Is the statement "all is illusion" an illusion in itself?
Try this "we believe what we believe because that belief solves more problems than it creates".
Tom and his children live in a garage.
Is Tom a bad father? Does he gamble away his salary? Is he too lazy to work? Does he get a job then get sacked because he has a bad temper? Is he abusive towards his children? Does he resent the fact that his buddies go out every night and he has to stay home with the kids? Does Tom believe he and his children deserve no better? Should Welfare come and take his children away?
True story. When I was a kid, one of my school buddies lived in a garage.
His mother had died, and there were no family to help with the kids.
My buddy's father worked two jobs to send his three kids to the second-top private school in Adelaide (capital of South Australia), where my dad sent me (and my dad had to get a second job as well to pay fees). And could only afford to rent a garage.
All we can say for sure is that my buddy and his family lived in a garage, because anything else is illusion that we are laying over the bare facts -why didn't Tom send his three kids to public school and buy a house, for
instance.
I think it's impossible to live without illusion, because without it, the world is incomprehensible. On a mechanistic level, our senses filter and approximate input so that we can deal with the massive amount of
information tumbling down on us every second. This works fine, but optical illusions (for example) show that our senses are constantly creating illusory representations of real-world data.
At a higher level, children operate though uninformed illusion. Loud noise = danger = be scared of loud noises. Distorted faces = danger/anger = be scared of people with facial injuries. Fast movement = threat = be scared of dogs jumping up.
Even the Buddhist statement that all creatures desire compassion and kindness is illusory. It just happens to be the most productive illusion, since it intends no harm to any creature. It's a nice convergence with
evolution, too, as it parallels the notion that creatures adapt for survival, and that social creatures (such as ourselves) only survive optimally if we extend compassion and kindness to each others.
So, I agree that it's neccessary to "look inside", but that looking needs to examine our illusions about ourselves and the world, and to discover whether they are productive. "Compulsive helpers" will often justify their actions on the basis of altruism, even when those actions are detrimental to those they profess to help - such people need to hear "but it *is* all about you", and to examine the illusion that they are somehow uniquely called to set the world to rights.
In the worst case, illusion leads to fanaticism, and we've got so many examples from history (and right now) that I don't need to list them.
Is the statement "all is illusion" an illusion in itself?
Try this "we believe what we believe because that belief solves more problems than it creates".
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Stop and Smell the Roses
What are you doing that is important is a question I asked the other day. Today, as I walked along the river, I heard a cry in the air, I watched as two eagles came together and hovered about 100 feet above me. I watched them as they scanned the river hovering on the wind in perfect unision. For about 3 minutes they hovered and I watched and then they swooped down to the left and flew up the river. For me watching the two eagles for the three minutes was important. It was important because it renewed my faith in nature, people and my soul. There was an old Mac Davis song Stop and Watch the Roses, and it was important to remind me that I need to do this more often. When was the last time you took the time to appreciate what you have, not what you want to have?
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Depressed, some ideas on how to overcome
I suspect many of us have had that gut-feeling depressed mood at some time in our life. In order to get my internal state balanced I discovered that setting my body to work on routine activities works well for me. Things like gardening, little jobs around the house or even sorting out my screws and bolts, help distract me from the unpleasant gut feeling and makes me physically tired.
Besides that, the tiredness sometimes helps to get a good (what is "good" for you...?) night sleep afterwards. To get maximum seclusion and give my neurons something to chew on without giving them an overload I put on an earphone with music that I like and that usually cheers me up. Just light, familiar music that "plays" just enough with my subconscious mind to keep it busy without burden. Also, taking a warm bath with the music on, lights off and resting there helps me a lot..I assume it's a combination of the solitude and the womb-like atmosphere
And because I'm only human, on those days I see myself as someone that suffers and that deserves some consolation and wellness I treat myself to little things that make me physically feel good. On these days I am a candy-loving person and on those down days I allow myself to stretch up my normal restrictions on that. And sometimes I'm lucky to be able to be around a special friend that really understand me I indulge myself on their strength and understanding.
I also believe the first thing to do is confront the problem - find out what really is making you feel like this. It's not because of who you are that's most irrelevant. Search for the root-cause, but to sort this out you've got to have enough energy and stability. In my opinion it's in our own perspective whether something is making us sad or that we ALLOW something to influence us in that way. We, ourselves, give the meaning to the things that reach us....and we can choose not to be touched by them. I wish you strenght and flexibility....and Iknow you will come through!!
Besides that, the tiredness sometimes helps to get a good (what is "good" for you...?) night sleep afterwards. To get maximum seclusion and give my neurons something to chew on without giving them an overload I put on an earphone with music that I like and that usually cheers me up. Just light, familiar music that "plays" just enough with my subconscious mind to keep it busy without burden. Also, taking a warm bath with the music on, lights off and resting there helps me a lot..I assume it's a combination of the solitude and the womb-like atmosphere
And because I'm only human, on those days I see myself as someone that suffers and that deserves some consolation and wellness I treat myself to little things that make me physically feel good. On these days I am a candy-loving person and on those down days I allow myself to stretch up my normal restrictions on that. And sometimes I'm lucky to be able to be around a special friend that really understand me I indulge myself on their strength and understanding.
I also believe the first thing to do is confront the problem - find out what really is making you feel like this. It's not because of who you are that's most irrelevant. Search for the root-cause, but to sort this out you've got to have enough energy and stability. In my opinion it's in our own perspective whether something is making us sad or that we ALLOW something to influence us in that way. We, ourselves, give the meaning to the things that reach us....and we can choose not to be touched by them. I wish you strenght and flexibility....and Iknow you will come through!!
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Alzheimers
I have an old friend who is suffering from this disease, and I am sad that he is starting to lose his sense of who he is and is memory. The Alzeimers Society of Canada has some good information and if you know someone who is or think you know someone who is suffering you should take a look at their website. I had not thought very much about the disease as I did not know anyone who was suffering from it--out of sight out of mind. Howwever here is some information about this disease.
Alzheimer's disease is a progressive, degenerative disease of the brain, which causes thinking and memory to become seriously impaired. It is the most common form of dementia. (Dementia is a syndrome consisting of a number of symptoms that include loss of memory, judgment and reasoning, and changes in mood, behaviour . My friend is getting worse and his son is now at home to look after him, he has trouble remembering people but for the most part he still has his sense of humour and love of lilfe. Many who suffer this disease do not.
The Alzheimer Society has developed the following list: of warning signs, so use the link at the bottom to get more informationi if you know someone who may have a number of the following signe.
Memory loss that affects day-to-day function
It's normal to occasionally forget appointments, colleagues' names or a friend's phone number and remember them later. A person with Alzheimer's disease may forget things more often and not remember them later, especially things that have happened more recently.
Alzheimer's disease is a progressive, degenerative disease of the brain, which causes thinking and memory to become seriously impaired. It is the most common form of dementia. (Dementia is a syndrome consisting of a number of symptoms that include loss of memory, judgment and reasoning, and changes in mood, behaviour . My friend is getting worse and his son is now at home to look after him, he has trouble remembering people but for the most part he still has his sense of humour and love of lilfe. Many who suffer this disease do not.
The Alzheimer Society has developed the following list: of warning signs, so use the link at the bottom to get more informationi if you know someone who may have a number of the following signe.
Memory loss that affects day-to-day function
It's normal to occasionally forget appointments, colleagues' names or a friend's phone number and remember them later. A person with Alzheimer's disease may forget things more often and not remember them later, especially things that have happened more recently.
- Difficulty performing familiar tasks
Busy people can be so distracted from time to time that they may leave the carrots on the stove and only remember to serve them at the end of a meal. A person with Alzheimer's disease may have trouble with tasks that have been familiar to them all their lives, such as preparing a meal. - Problems with language
Everyone has trouble finding the right word sometimes, but a person with Alzheimer's disease may forget simple words or substitute words, making her sentences difficult to understand. - Disorientation of time and place
It's normal to forget the day of the week or your destination -- for a moment. But a person with Alzheimer's disease can become lost on their own street, not knowing how they got there or how to get home. - Poor or decreased judgment
People may sometimes put off going to a doctor if they have an infection, but eventually seek medical attention. A person with Alzheimer's disease may have decreased judgment, for example not recognizing a medical problem that needs attention or wearing heavy clothing on a hot day. - Problems with abstract thinking
From time to time, people may have difficulty with tasks that require abstract thinking, such as balancing a cheque book. Someone with Alzheimer's disease may have significant difficulties with such tasks, for example not recognizing what the numbers in the cheque book mean. - Misplacing things
Anyone can temporarily misplace a wallet or keys. A person with Alzheimer's disease may put things in inappropriate places: an iron in the freezer or a wristwatch in the sugar bowl. - Changes in mood and behaviour
Everyone becomes sad or moody from time to time. Someone with Alzheimer's disease can exhibit varied mood swings -- from calm to tears to anger -- for no apparent reason. - Changes in personality
People's personalities can change somewhat with age. But a person with Alzheimer's disease can become confused, suspicious or withdrawn. Changes may also include apathy, fearfulness or acting out of character. - Loss of initiative
It's normal to tire of housework, business activities or social obligations, but most people regain their initiative. A person with Alzheimer's disease may become very passive, and require cues and prompting to become involved.
Saturday, November 20, 2010
Interesting ideas
THE FOLLOWING ARE SHORT, POINTED SENTENCE THAT EXPRESSES A WISE OR CLEVER OBSERVATION OR A GENERAL TRUTH
1. The nicest thing about the future is . . . that it always starts tomorrow.
2. Money will buy a fine dog, but only kindness will make him wag his tail.
3. If you don't have a sense of humor, you probably don't have any sense at all.
4. Seat belts are not as confining as wheelchairs.
5. A good time to keep your mouth shut is when you're in deep water.
6. How come it takes so little time for a child who is afraid of the dark to become a teenager who wants to stay out all night?
7. Business conventions are important . . . because they demonstrate how many people a company can operate without.
8. Why is it that at class reunions you feel younger than everyone else looks?
9. Scratch a cat . . . and you will have a permanent job.
10. No one has more driving ambition than the teenage boy who wants to buy a car.
11. There are no new sins; the old ones just get more publicity.
12. There are worse things than getting a call for a wrong number at 4 a.m. - like, it could be the right number.
13. No one ever says "It's only a game" when their team is winning.
14. I've reached the age where 'happy hour' is a nap.
15. Be careful about reading the fine print. . . . There's no way you're going to like it.
16. The trouble with bucket seats is that not everybody has the same size bucket.
17. Do you realize that, in about 40 years, we'll have thousands of old ladies running around with tattoos? (And rap music will be the Golden Oldies!)
18. Money can't buy happiness -- but somehow it's more comfortable to cry in a Cadillac than in a Yugo.
19. After 70, if you don't wake up aching in every joint, you're probably dead.
20. Always be yourself because the people that matter don't mind . . . . and the ones that mind don't matter.
21. Life isn't tied with a bow . . . . . . . but it's still a gift.
1. The nicest thing about the future is . . . that it always starts tomorrow.
2. Money will buy a fine dog, but only kindness will make him wag his tail.
3. If you don't have a sense of humor, you probably don't have any sense at all.
4. Seat belts are not as confining as wheelchairs.
5. A good time to keep your mouth shut is when you're in deep water.
6. How come it takes so little time for a child who is afraid of the dark to become a teenager who wants to stay out all night?
7. Business conventions are important . . . because they demonstrate how many people a company can operate without.
8. Why is it that at class reunions you feel younger than everyone else looks?
9. Scratch a cat . . . and you will have a permanent job.
10. No one has more driving ambition than the teenage boy who wants to buy a car.
11. There are no new sins; the old ones just get more publicity.
12. There are worse things than getting a call for a wrong number at 4 a.m. - like, it could be the right number.
13. No one ever says "It's only a game" when their team is winning.
14. I've reached the age where 'happy hour' is a nap.
15. Be careful about reading the fine print. . . . There's no way you're going to like it.
16. The trouble with bucket seats is that not everybody has the same size bucket.
17. Do you realize that, in about 40 years, we'll have thousands of old ladies running around with tattoos? (And rap music will be the Golden Oldies!)
18. Money can't buy happiness -- but somehow it's more comfortable to cry in a Cadillac than in a Yugo.
19. After 70, if you don't wake up aching in every joint, you're probably dead.
20. Always be yourself because the people that matter don't mind . . . . and the ones that mind don't matter.
21. Life isn't tied with a bow . . . . . . . but it's still a gift.
Monday, November 15, 2010
parental responsibility
As I shifted through the weekend, my thoughts were on being a father (grandfather, god parent) and the responsibility that comes with that territory. If things are going well or moving forward for your children then I think we tend to forget that we have any responsibility and we coast through life. I was thinking about what happens when things go wrong. There is/could be a wrenching of the soul as things move beyond our control. I was listening to the mother that lost her son in the explosion in Mexico, and I heard her pain on the radio and felt it in my soul. When our children do not do well, parents, grandparents suffer. The sad fact is that responsibility can weigh heavily on one's soul. The good news is that just as we suffer through the heartaches and failures of our children, we celebrate and embrace the joy's of their successes.
However, we are not the reason for their failures or their success when they are young or older adults. We may claim some responsibility for success and some responsibility for their failures when they are small, but if we believe and teach individual responsibility we have to accept that they take responsibility for the results of their actions.
However, we are not the reason for their failures or their success when they are young or older adults. We may claim some responsibility for success and some responsibility for their failures when they are small, but if we believe and teach individual responsibility we have to accept that they take responsibility for the results of their actions.
Saturday, August 21, 2010
Belief systems
Have you ever wondered what kinds of beliefs you have stored away in your unconscious that silently influence your choices, take a good look at your life, including your friends, your loved ones, your job, and even your health.
The life you currently live is a reflection of your beliefs about what you are willing to accept and tolerate. This is the vital difference that separates people who live abundant happy lives from those who don’t.
For instance, people who continue to stay in abusive relationships, work at jobs they don’t enjoy, or struggle financially, do so as a result of the beliefs they hold.
Yet there are individuals in society who will never ever accept being unjustly treated, living just above the poverty line, or working in professions that do not make full use of their gifts.
These individuals are those who stand out in the crowd: the entrepreneurs, pioneers, and leaders who refuse to allow the opinions of others to dictate how they live their lives.
They do this not because they are better or more gifted than everyone else, but simply because their beliefs do not allow them to do otherwise.
It is important to remember that we all play an active role in the creation of our belief systems, even if this occurs when we are vulnerable to the influence of others.
Once these beliefs are impressed on our unconscious mind, they become the rulebook that controls the direction of our lives.
All your successes and failures, then, are in some way influenced by this unconscious set of rules you have written. Whatever it is you wish to achieve, whether it be a skill you’re attempting to master, a subject you wish to learn or an illness you are struggling to overcome, your success will be determined by a single factor: the unconscious beliefs that make up your book of rules.
Much of the struggle you experience in life relates to the inner turmoil you feel when you make a new choice that conflicts with the set of rules you have created about life and simply forgotten.
To end this struggle and become the master of your own destiny, you must begin to master the unconscious beliefs that control you.
The life you currently live is a reflection of your beliefs about what you are willing to accept and tolerate. This is the vital difference that separates people who live abundant happy lives from those who don’t.
For instance, people who continue to stay in abusive relationships, work at jobs they don’t enjoy, or struggle financially, do so as a result of the beliefs they hold.
Yet there are individuals in society who will never ever accept being unjustly treated, living just above the poverty line, or working in professions that do not make full use of their gifts.
These individuals are those who stand out in the crowd: the entrepreneurs, pioneers, and leaders who refuse to allow the opinions of others to dictate how they live their lives.
They do this not because they are better or more gifted than everyone else, but simply because their beliefs do not allow them to do otherwise.
It is important to remember that we all play an active role in the creation of our belief systems, even if this occurs when we are vulnerable to the influence of others.
Once these beliefs are impressed on our unconscious mind, they become the rulebook that controls the direction of our lives.
All your successes and failures, then, are in some way influenced by this unconscious set of rules you have written. Whatever it is you wish to achieve, whether it be a skill you’re attempting to master, a subject you wish to learn or an illness you are struggling to overcome, your success will be determined by a single factor: the unconscious beliefs that make up your book of rules.
Much of the struggle you experience in life relates to the inner turmoil you feel when you make a new choice that conflicts with the set of rules you have created about life and simply forgotten.
To end this struggle and become the master of your own destiny, you must begin to master the unconscious beliefs that control you.
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